Why most guys don't what they want, and treat me like an option?

[Having_hope]

It's painful to ask this question, but I'm a loyal girl with good intentions. Most potentials liked me, but treat me like an option. They we're talking with me and other girls, or they spend way to much time with their friends. So, this makes me wondering if true love exist. I'm not searching for love, but I feel needy, and that's feels like shit. Why most guys are like this. They don't know what they want.

[HighlyVolatile]

I'm very extroverted but one of the reasons my wife and I are so compatible is because she likes to hang out with my friends, and I like to hang out with hers, and nowadays they've all merged together. Perhaps you'd match up better with an introvert who prefers more time alone. For me, a big aspect of compatibility is that the girl I'm dating enjoys spending time together with my friends and socializing as much as I do.

[Having_hope]

Lets say I prefer men with depth. He doesn't need to be introverted. But he needs to be smart and emotional intelligent. I don't know. But I notice is that I got 2 types of potentials. Guys who really likes me, which scares me off. Or guys who are playing the game and aren't sure

[HighlyVolatile]

Deep conversations are always the point I liked. When we can bare each other's "souls" to each other. I always favored the type of woman with whom I had that feeling like even on our very first conversation, it's as though we knew each other all our lives. My wife was like that along with other women I dated, but I discovered with my exes that we didn't actually know each other all our lives. There were lots of surprises along the way, and some very unpleasant.

[lightbulb27]

no they don't, they are as lost or more lost than you. it's unfortunate, but you may have to lead. Its a world of messed up humans, you are expecting men when you are dealing with wounded boys.

[Having_hope]

So, well said. That's deep.. Maybe I attracted wounded boys, because a part of me is also wounded as well. İt's so exhausting to date. Yes, true.. and when they find a girl like me, they got confused. The thing is, I lead when I'm sure. I can't invest in a person who isn't sure about me

[lightbulb27]

true, some of it is simply the fish in the pond... so many males have poor training. some of it is what you project and draw and if you quickly size them up and discard. some lack confidence and don't show up or difficult to catch. Others aren't going to commit for various reasons. it's tough environment for serious women. gonna have to work harder to get what you want.

[Staximus]

Learn to pick better guys. You said you are not searching for love but it sounds like you are. There's nothing wrong with that

[Anonymous]

Welcome to how we feel lol. We are nothing but "options" to women. And often very much treated that way.

[Anonymous]

Lol guys definitely know what they want, you're just not providing it

[Having_hope]

Well, he did say it out loud. Guys are not complex.

[Opinion Owner]

We sure aren't, we basically just want a handful of things to be happy

[noohair]

Men at one point in the past, had to commit to a relationship for sex.
Women wanted equality and freedom. This is what it looks like.

[anylolone]

You want to be more than an option? Are you aware of what it means?

[Having_hope]

What does it mean in your perception?

[anylolone]

It means I'm an option, meaning that my girlfriend opted into me, wasn't forced, coerced, or thought she couldn't get it anywhere.
It also means she can opt out at any time, as a free human.

[OmegaDiver]

What do you mean "an option" ? When do they stop pursuing you usually?

I consider "true love" a myth you find in Disneys. There is only "love".

[Anonymous]

If you were a man, this would be considered very successful dating. The majority of men are treated like options if they are even lucky, so they most just take any and as many women they can

[In_Trance]

because that's how you present yourself to them

[Having_hope]

Hmm, well I immediately took my distance.

[James899]

That's always happens for person with a good soul

[Ryfyle]

That is straight up bullshit.

[driven159]

true love is out there when they are ready for it

[Ryfyle]

Sound like you're talking about women.

[JoyGirl]

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