Is it appropriate to ask a girl to marry her over text?

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hafinjun · Accepted Answer

Honestly I don't know what today's acceptable things are in my day no even if we've had text messaging no it wouldn't be appropriate asking someone to spend the rest of their lives with you something you need to do face-to-face that being said I was out on a date one night very nice restaurant watching this young couple a couple tables away she's dressed very nicely he was dressed while he was dressed I guess we'll leave it at that and every time she turned away he'd be rapidly texting under the table I thought it was weird and pointed it out to my date I'm also thought it was weird but as we watched kind of he suddenly got down on one knee next to her and pulled a ring out of his pocket and yes ask her to marry him and she said yes it was very touching and when she was to go to the bathroom I had to ask I went over and quietly asking what he was texting before that he said he was texting you very best friend in the world who thought they should be married too by the way I mean the girl and young man and the friend was helping him get courage to ask the girl my date and I were amused it's not impressed hello as I was paying the bill about them bottle of champagne to celebrate with I don't know I just thought it was very cute but no to ask you to marry him face to face hope this helps good luck

SmolOrcaBoi · Accepted Answer

Yeah, no. That’s not taking it seriously at all and misses the significance and importance of the moment. (Plus the reaction and emotions)
Honestly same goes for in a bath bomb or book or whatever else people do. Unless you’re there and then you propose. But if you just give it to her and leave, not okay.

blurpblurp · Accepted Answer

Distasteful.
But you're 31 so I assume you understand that some people might not have the romantic idea about big proposal. It's probably just something the couple have been discussing about for months if not years so asking to marry the girl over text seems understandable. The one who 'proposed' probably will do it again in person just to seal the deal over a simple date or homemade dinner.

But if it's out of the blue kind of thing, I'd consider the person as rather impulsive therefore, just forget about it.

Star_88 · Accepted Answer

Sounds like he did this to others but got rejected so now trying on you to see if you say yes.
Text is so superficial. You can copy paste and forward... nothing special about it. It's a shortcut where you tap on the screen for 1 minute.
That doesn't sounds meaningful or deep.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Is this a serious question? Did you have this experience?

WhatTheHeckkkk · Answer

No. That is very inappropriate

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Yes, it gives her a chance to think about it before impulsively replying or feeling pressured to say yes in front of the asker or onlookers, I always thought it was horrible how people do elaborate proposals in public, what if she needs to say no? She has to choose between humiliating someone she cares about, vs lying to herself or getting into marriage earlier than she should have.

abc3643 · Answer

NO, of course not!

Any man who proposes over text, you text back this to him:

"Maybe... but you will have to consummate the marriage by text also. Not sure how I am ever going to get pregnant... You might need to change your font."

Tiptoetamm · Answer

If you really love a woman ask her in person will mean so much more. You don't necessarily need to get on one knee but women love that shit so put some thought into it. Make it beautiful for both of you. And women should propose to men in person as well same for women make it special for him show them how much you love them and want them the rest of your life

Kaneki05 · Answer

If she knew me we would of already talked about mine and her thoughts upon marriage therefore we would be comfortable with the outcome in the future. Therefore whatever is appropriate would of already been discussed.

Basically my point is here, there would never be a problem of what wasn't appropriate so it don't really matter to answer this nor can this be answered actually without me and her discussing it.

Sasha_Gee · Answer

It would come off as though the one doing the proposing isn't taking it seriously. I would have to say no.

skyeee01 · Answer

No way!!! That is such a special moment in someones life- the least you could do is make it special !!

RedStiletto88 · Answer

Oh gawd don’t do that! This is a moment that she will want to remember and a text isn’t going to suffice

KatieB713 · Answer

Not really... most people expect something special out of proposal or at least for their partner to be there with them

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

No!!! Unless you’re in an LDR and even then you really should wait till you see her in person

Anonymous · Answer

I've had people break up with me on the pager so I guess why not the other extreme if you see someone calling you interrupting your proposal it was somebody's cell phone went off now it's on the cell phone

Citizenkirk · Answer

Without meeting her face to face? I know mail order brides are still in, but I can't imagine people actually going that route.

msc545 · Answer

It is never appropriate no matter if you text, use a carrier pigeon, write a letter, do it on the phone, do it in person, or do it at all. You are setting yourself up for years of misery and financial ruin.

ItsMeElliana · Answer

no wtf... thats like. asking for water, but through text to someone. who doesn't live in your house.

Flower7 · Answer

Nope, not appropriate. That’s much too serious of a conveyor be don’t through text.

Honesttguy · Answer

Why do u want to get married in first place? I suggest dont, its a losers move

KolonKby · Answer

Entirely depends on the people involved. This is never a cut and dry answer kind of question.

888theGreat · Answer

Yes, anytime a girl asks another girl to marry it is not appropriate. An Abomination to God.

exitseven · Answer

No, that is not the way to do it. You need to make a big deal about it.

josephinelcajon · Answer

My God the fact this is even a thought absolutely is disgusting!

Fireguy17 · Answer

No, show some class do it in person, doesn't have to be fancy.

ElvenMr · Answer

Not really, some may have no problem with it, but i think i would do it only in person. I want to see her reacton and not just emojis and text.

driven159 · Answer

HELL, no what's the matter with you better be kneeing in front of her she will never forgive you might even say no

clampfan101 · Answer

Absolutely not. That’s insanely important. It should always be face to face.

TheBigGuy9 · Answer

That is definitely not appropriate. You really needed to ask this?

just_xox_kd · Answer

No, we hate that. Something meaningful, like where u had ur first date or something. Not too flashy, we don't like being pressured by being in public.

Anonymous · Answer

It doesn't look serious. It's like he's texting his best friend like "happy birthday sis"?

jimjim41 · Answer

Only if uses the appropriate emojis and at least three !

GalaxiesAmong1808 · Answer

Asking someone to marry you should be a special event. Over text seems very casual.  So NO! It is not acceptable or appropriate to do it that way

Anonymous · Answer

A lot of those girls be saying it's inappropriate. But why don't they propose instead?

Anonymous · Answer

hey i did that several times with the person i love

SweetFyter · Answer

Is that really a question?

spartan55 · Answer

I hope this a troll job.

skyeee_ · Answer

rip meaning of proposals

ohshee · Answer

I can say it's not very romantic

Guy13 · Answer

No BUT I’m all about FACETIME

AviatorTom · Answer

Hell no, a proposal must be in person.

slatyb · Answer

Not at all. That seems very odd.

Nagahime · Answer

Just wait until you can do it in person.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, haha wtf who does that?

sheikalana · Answer

No LOL. Unless it 's a joke.

AdithyaR · Answer

That sounds half hearted. At least ask in person.

Justneedtokno · Answer

No It’s weird and impersonal

loveslongnails · Answer

Only if you want her to say "fuck off, loser".

HaveNoName · Answer

Doesn't sound convincing at all.

Wise4myage · Answer

No, that's incredibly lame.

SmokyOne · Answer

I think it should be done in person

Gingerguy33 · Answer

No that’s should definitely be done in person

Anonymous · Answer

LDR only.

Twalli · Answer

Not something I would recommend

Juliette1994 · Answer

Only if you wanna be ghosted.

ShatteringRedGalore · Answer

That doesn't seem like the best way to do it

Siren777 · Answer

😳... No...

michael1469 · Answer

Pretty tacky if you ask me...

kellogg0224 · Answer

... no..

sunflower00 · Answer

I would say no

SaoirseS · Answer

Noooooo

mikalynn · Answer

really depends on the lady

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Umm... no...

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