Is it acceptable for the girl to propose?

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I know a lot of people would say a year and a bit is too soon...
but talking to his mother last night she was pushing for us to get engaged and got us talking. Made me realise I'm ok with it as I want us to be the real deal. No one else has made me this happy. And he says as long as it's a long engagement then he is too. Just can't see him plucking up the courage to do it as he doesn't like change...

Notorisch_Arschloch · Accepted Answer

Sure. Equality and such, ya know? Speaking of which, what is it now, 3 month's salary on a ring? When women are dropping that on engagements boats, rifles and full garage tool sets, I'll be sold.

That is, of course, as long as since we're making me contractually liable to pay her alimony even if she cheats, we go ahead and make her contractually liable not to get fat, chop off all her hair and start treating sex like a once monthly reward for desired behavior.

Unless feminism lied, and we're not actually equal...

P. S. Shout out to all my haters who keep getting me warnings sent from G@G admins. Can't believe I haven't been banned and had to spend 20 or so seconds creating a new email for a new account. Love you! Your being triggered makes it worth it!

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I think it's fine but I always say wait for the man to ask. Not because he's a man but because I think that women tend to know quicker when they're in love w someone compared to us men. So it would be an uncomfortable situation if you asked him and he didn't k ow what to say. Then you'd be upset, possibly mad at him tho ok g he doesn't love you even though he truly may. Or he may say yes out of feeling obligated or maybe he doesn't want to hurt your feelings so he agrees to it. I hope you get what I'm saying.

QueenBeeJay · Accepted Answer

I think it's ok but maybe wait it out another year. Men often take longer to decide on these kinds of things than women do... not saying you aren't right for each other. Just suggesting giving him a bit more time.. because that's a lot of pressure.

xHoneyxBeex · Accepted Answer

Yes, absolutely. If a woman wants to propose, she should. It's generally expected that the man will do it but I think if a woman wants to, then she should go for it. Some men may not like it but I think most wouldn't mind.

itsagirlthing900 · Accepted Answer

I personally wouldn't because I'm old fashioned but go for it! It's you're relationship and it isn't wrong!

pooper89 · Accepted Answer

As long as it's a long engagement? I'd see that as a red flag

godfatherfan · Answer

I wish I could just find a woman that asked me out. I would love for a woman to come after me like I am expected to go after them. So yes, I would love for a woman to propose. It shows she really is serious about the relationship, and not just settling.

pumaOH24 · Answer

Yep... It's ok to do.  There is also a tradition of sorts for doing it, too, but I don't think you will want to wait that long.

adamski24 · Answer

joking aside yes it's fine

admles · Answer

Yep. My mother proposed to my father, and come January they'll have celebrated their 40th anniversary. She says if she'd waited for him to propose, she'd still be waiting :D

Phoenix98 · Answer

Maybe for other guy's but not for me that's my duty to propose to her. Call me old fashioned but I believe the man should propose to the woman not the other way around.

JohnDoeJr · Answer

Forget the whole proposal thing you see on TV. Just sit down and talk to him. If you guys are on the same page about things the whole proposal thing will be more of a mutual decision than this thing one does to another.

RationalMale · Answer

Nope. The man proposes because marriage is a greater sacrifice for him--as typically the higher earner and the tougher, he's promising to protect and provide. Hence, he proposes because such things must be freely offered, not asked for.

VictoriousSausage · Answer

it's okay, but in more conservative-rooted countries like the UK and US, it's not as commonplace, but that is changing, so go for it! it really depends on how traditionalist you are as a couple.

ADFSDF1996 · Answer

Yes

NightOwl8801 · Answer

Yes it is , you go girl. Break that gender stereotype of a man proposing to his girlfriend.

RandomReindeer · Answer

The way I see it is that if he wasn't okay with me proposing, then he wouldn't be worth proposing to.

DodgersGM · Answer

On the one hand, I'd really prefer to to propose when that time comes.  On the other hand, I'd be completely flattered if she beat me to the punch.

ElissaDido · Answer

Yes why not. It's totally fine! But I personally wouldn't do it.

WhaChaChaKing · Answer

It's perfectly fine. I remember being on this site when I was much younger, maybe 16 I don't know, and almost everyone said no, except myself and a few others. I'm happy to see people are changing the way they think.

mike5150 · Answer

Sure it is. If you feel that you two are ready then go for it.

GingerGuy · Answer

Absolutely. I'd be impressed you asked and would have no issue with it.

Luci92 · Answer

Sure, but I've always pictured myself being proposed to, not the otherway round.

cth96190 · Answer

I would say yes, it is okay for the female to propose. It happened to me once. I said no, for a variety of reasons.

datgirl · Answer

Yes, but I think it's cuter and more romantic when the man does it. I wouldn't do the proposing ever.

beautifulangel76 · Answer

It's okay but I would prefer for the man to propose.

mrsingle · Answer

Yes, but a ring is not needed. As a matter of fact I think you should propose and if he/she says yes then you both go to pick out a ring together.

Anonymous · Answer

Lol at a man getting down on his knee to BEG a girl to marry him. You know marriage where women initiate divorce 75-80% (Divorces are over 50%) and often leave the man financially ruined.

tyber1 · Answer

In theory I have no problem with that but I don't believe in marriage so if someone proposed to me I'd probably be freaked out and react poorly.

immaguy · Answer

Not an issue but society stereotypes the role of men and women.

Anonymous · Answer

Usually when your both on the same page the GUY will end up asking. Growing up around all brothers (four of them) I know for a fact they would feel like for lack of better words a big "sissy" if the girl asked before the man did, as the man should.

Try having a guy tell his buddies about how he asked her the question... oh wait he didn't... lol.

nolookingbackx · Answer

I wouldn't say it is unacceptable but I want a man to propose.

Kountry_King · Answer

I got no problem with it , if a guy is ok with his girl proposing to him then so be it.

Pinkbeauty · Answer

no i think the guy should always propose to the girl

clampfan101 · Answer

I'd be honored! 😊 (Even if I sadly had to turn her down for some reason, I'd still feel honored. 🙁)

Anonymous · Answer

only desperate ugly hopeless women ask a man for date or propose him. Dislike me ladies if that makes you calm down but I still think what I think

Wingedz · Answer

Yes, If is me I would take the ring and propose to her myself.

danceislife080 · Answer

I think it's okay -- but I'm traditional, I'd prefer if the guy would propose to me.

genericname85 · Answer

i think it´s as ok as it is for a guy to do it. given that you´re both ready to do this step...

Anonymous · Answer

I would be okay with it, in fact i would be happy would say yes without hesistation if i truly loved you. However, i voted no in your case. I mean he is taking so long, maybe he has reasons other than fear of changes. Maybe money issues?

ChromAzonyx108 · Answer

Acceptable for whom? Either ways, it's quite unusual.

legalboxers · Answer

21st century. BUT... do the guys wear the diamond ring?

Anonymous · Answer

It's 2016. It's a sad state of affairs when we still have to ask such questions. Of course it is!

Words_and_Wisdom · Answer

If women want to get married so badly, they should be the ones proposing in the first place.

fauchelevent · Answer

Meh, sure, it's fine. I'd be cool with proposing.

Anonymous · Answer

Proposing might be too much, but asking out on a date I would love if more women did

Paul34 · Answer

It should and be encouraged. It shows gender equality.

Sabretooth · Answer

might wanna year isn't too soon. a try something different...

Anonymous · Answer

Do it while u suck him off. Extra points. Put a haribo sweet in your mouth and put in on his Penis. Perfect scenario. What a story that would be

skeptic002 · Answer

yes but I prefer to do it

Rahdle · Answer

Ask me and find out 😉👍

Sara413 · Answer

Perfectly ok. But I'd wait a bit yet.

Hollywood-Glam · Answer

Of course. I think I might do it :P

This_is_my_username · Answer

They do it in Ireland every leap year.

Kiran04 · Answer

Of course it is. If you want it, go get it.

Thrifty · Answer

Lol but I'd probably say no

HardcoreLiberal · Answer

of course you can go after what you like or love

AriadneSky · Answer

of course.

madhatters4 · Answer

sure it is.

Anonymous · Answer

NO NO NO... PLEASE DON'T.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes definitely it is possible

Anonymous · Answer

Paige just proposed to Alberto Del Rio

Katy16 · Answer

In my opinion, no

Usersame · Answer

Why not?

bruce3 · Answer

yeah why not

Blitzkrieger · Answer

Yeah it is.

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