Is it ever okay for a woman to ask a man to marry him?

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MCheetah · Accepted Answer

Yes. The woman I almost married proposed to me. She didn't get down on knee to do it, but we were sitting across from each other in chairs, and she held my hands cupped in hers, and asked if she could be my wife. After I said "absolutely", she gave me a cheap "stand-in" ring in a box, to put on her finger. She bought the ring herself, and knowing her, she wouldn't have expected me to buy her a ring or any of that crap.

The way she said it and did it was very acceptable and wasn't emasculating, untraditional, or anything. She didn't ask "would you marry me" and she didn't ask "will you be my husband," as if I was submissive or anything. She also knew well in advance, if or when I got married, I'd want a prenup. She made way more money than me at the time, cause I was still in college and she was a full time banker (and med student to become a nurse), so she had no problems with signing a prenup.

Like I said before on GAG though, she never made it to wedding day and passed away; ten years ago as of this upcoming November. And I don't ever want to get married anymore, in today's climate where everyone's getting divorced and the man is almost always screwed over by it. But once upon a time, I was going to have the marriage that never was. I do think about what that alternate life would've, been often.

Is it ever okay for a woman to ask a man to marry him?

Kaitlyn was 6'3.5" (191 cm) barefoot, without heels, just to point it out.

TonightYouu · Accepted Answer

No that decision that should be left to the man because we take on all the risk by getting married

also it’s excruciatingly embarrassing to get rejected and any man who would say yes is not one that you’ll stay married to

do you really want to be the one who always has to take the initiative you’re setting a bad tone for your relationship you’ll end up being resentful and exhausted

In short men have fragile egos and whether he or you realize it or not you will have emasculated him he might as well wear a dress to the wedding LET MEN BE MEN!

midnightmoon05 · Accepted Answer

in a good relationship- sure.

By that time (6-9 months) both party would start to have some discussions about where the relationship is going and start planning.

him - I really like spending time with you.
her - this is so fun
him - we should come back here next yr.
her - next year? (No way I am coming back with you.) (She should end this) … her - I know right… we should try the … next time when we come back.
—— they make future plans… Some months later …. they go back to that place or similar… he or she can say… “this place is beautiful.. it would be great for our wedding”… “yeah we can decorated this way or … the view is amazing …”

something like that

otherwise it’s a waiting/guessing game. They would need to learn to communicate.

cryscrys1 · Accepted Answer

It might be ok it might not be ok
What’s for sure is that if a women says it first you know the “I love you” she loves you for real.
When a guy says that first well don’t forget women have to get married someday you know that right so “ yes baby I lOvE yOu too” will be the reply because fuck it who has time to find real love

Mess96 · Answer

Honestly
1) I don’t have that confidence and courage
2) I’m traditional when it comes to relationships
I wouldn’t even ask a guy out. They can do it but I just can’t. Too much courage and confidence and just thinking about it drives me crazy with anxiety like I’m gonna explode

Monah4billion · Answer

Sorry for digressing to a spiritual opinion ok we are in the end time era & The Bible clearly states it that on the last day seven women would want to bear just one man name. Social aspect is that we are on the 21st century & everything is becoming too civilized nowadays women profess love to men. & Especially in Africa women Are kinda desperate to bear the MRS title thus making them to shun the notion or stereotype that men ought to chase after women

KelleyNice · Answer

For ages, women have asked men to marry them. They might rather be asked but if they are in relationship that is going nowhere, if the guy doesn't ask, they will.

Kacey811980 · Answer

@coachtanthony that doesn't happen often but as long as both parties are ok with than I don't foresee any problems, its not something I would do though.

TransAm85 · Answer

In 1984, my mother apparently asked my father to marry her so.. I guess it's nothing new? And then she got pregnant w/me..

Avicenna · Answer

Of course it's OK for her to ask. And it makes sense for her to do that rather than hinting she wants that or waiting for him to get around to doing it.

Bluemax · Answer

It's fine... but she's making a mistake. Isn't that the distracted boyfriend couple? He'll leave her for the girl in red. It's them! I knew it! Girl, you deserve better!!!

NathanDavis · Answer

I don't like the idea of proposals in general... I prefer it to be a talk and a conversation, a mutual decision that actually involves the both of us because it would be that important to me

but who knows, maybe it would be one of those things in which we both just know it will happen so there's no much to discuss so in that case, it would not matter to me who does it... the result would be the same and that's what matters to me

DermalPunch · Answer

I didn't vote but if you look into history women proposed to men. It's just this Western/Victorian idea that men do the proposing. Smart women select.

AviatorTom · Answer

In reality, it's almost always the woman who decides when the couple is going to get engaged. It's just traditionally been the man who says the words... but we all know why he's saying them.

laurieluvsit · Answer

Yes... ... lol

Phoenix98 · Answer

I’m traditional so I don’t want a woman proposing to me I want to be the one to do it.

Besides women get the entire wedding and it gets to be exactly how they want it.

lol but the proposal is kinda our moment you know? It’s the one thing we get to decide. And how, when and where it goes down. Among other things.

JDavid25 · Answer

In a way, women do ask men to marry them, but not getting down on a knee and proposing.. But, obviously I know what you mean.. And, the reason why it really won't work out that more women do it, is because it's not in their nature.. Would I mind it? No, if I really loved the woman it may be nice.. Would I think it was a bit weird? Yes..

SoftCliff · Answer

I think it would be cool if more women did that. Sadly, because of gender cliches, they're unlikely to do that, because they don't wanna be seen as desperate

Reaper1985 · Answer

honestly it shouldn't matter who asks who.

what matters is if they can't be happy with a cheap ring. while also opting to have a small wedding or eloping. they likely aren't the right person for you to send you life with long term.

I don't see a reason to send all kinds of money on a one day event. when you can instead invest it in your future life together.

Kabluie · Answer

In an mature relationship the conversation about marriage tends to be more casual than the actual formality part. After awhile you get comfortable than just talking about the future down to ring shopping together. So I don't look at it as an ask at that point. The formality, doesn't matter who does that step.

YollyM · Answer

Personally I don't think it's okay. One thing I've noticed is that men tend to cherish what they've put in work for compared to what they just find themselves in🤷.

Tyrael · Answer

Women can't even ask guys out on dates so I find it unlikely it would happen but I don't think there's anything wrong with it.

MikeInHawaii · Answer

I’ve been asked three times! One was a drunken, skanky looking woman in her forties I had never met. She said she wanted me to pay her bills and support her kids. Someone who knew her told me it was 17 kids with no repeats on the babydaddies. I passed on that one.

The other two were four-year-olds. I gently told one that four-year-olds couldn’t get married. She asked when I was going to be five.

The other four-year-old asked me to marry her mom and be her dad.

_deeznuts · Answer

Personally, I wouldn't do that bcs I do not have that level of confidence. But I honestly don't see issue with a women proposing.

EmmaMary · Answer

Absolutely right it is... We're now living in the 21st century.

HippieVeganJewslim · Answer

A woman actually proposed to me. Another said to me that We’ll marry in Paradise. There’s nothing wrong with the woman proposing to the man, in a heterosexual relationship.

zagor · Answer

I think you mean her. But who cares about pronouns these days.

I think it would be OK if they have been in a serious committed relationship for awhile. On their one month anniversary of dating, no.

The only person I ever asked to marry me was a waitress who had just poured the perfect glass of Guinness, with the foam just held in by surface tension.

KatherineJ · Answer

It’s still “Out Of The Ordinary”, but totally fine.

Seinna · Answer

Only if he's completely paralised and can only blink for yes or no.

elizalikesberies · Answer

I'm a girl and I think that the shit looks desperate, I'm considered liberal when it comes to a lot of things but this ain't one of them. Don't let me rain on your parade though ladies, do what you want.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

No. Women control access to sex and men control access to relationships. Proposing to a man is no different than a boy very forcefully telling a girl she needs to give up her virginity tonight because he wants it now. If you're ok with one, you should be ok with the other. Both are disgusting though.

Moomoocow8 · Answer

Stop sending me questions i dont respect you at all

TacosRAwesome · Answer

I made the mistake of proposing to my ex. Up on his insistence. The experience made me feel gross and unattractive.

Fuentes · Answer

She could but a lot of Women don't have good timing they may ask in the first two years or in their first year because a lot are emotional. So I rather it be on my time

BLP11520 · Answer

If the guy is stupid or a coward.. either poop or get off the pot!! Why do guys wait? I dated my wife 5 months. We were both about to lose roommates. We got married and screwed constantly... she couldn't keep her hands off my dick all 5 inches of it. We married in a park with 8 friends.

Bubbles16 · Answer

Its completely fine for a woman to ask their partner to marry them

bayoubob · Answer

Is it ever okay, versus should it happen? I guess it's okay, however, if the woman will indeed wear the pants, she already has her man whipped to the point where this really shouldn't be a question!

marish01 · Answer

It is 2022 but this year doesn't change anything lol

Xyliana · Answer

Uh that's very masculine in my opinion I have an issue with it, lol.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

I think it’s brilliant, but i have known dudes who were very opposed to the idea. I’m not entirely sure where i fit on the grander spectrum.

sanjayc · Answer

In this feminist society of course, women should ask men or live like leftover like many women after thier prime time 😀

HighValue · Answer

Yeah, and instead of presenting him with a ring, she should present him with a prenuptial agreement to show her intentions.

EaterPeter · Answer

Definetly not. Women may say. Are you crazy. Why are you trying to spoil those ***turds. Once for once they are willing to do anything. For our retirement plan. And you are trying to ruin it for all of us.

MTC29 · Answer

Why not? I'd like to receive a ring- tungsten would be fine.

exitseven · Answer

I am sure that it happpens. i never really asked my wife to marry me. We just knew how it was going to end up.

Adronicus · Answer

No, I'm of the mind that woman are the guardians of sex while men are the guardians of commitment / marriage.

rabbitzzz · Answer

It was always ok. In the medieval times women used to throw themselves at successful knights, warriors etc. Things have not changed.

Anonymous · Answer

If she proposes, she will control everything in the marriage til death do you part.

Xoirwinkan · Answer

If it's a traditional proposal, no, I'd detest that, and she would know me by that time well enough to know that about me. So it would mean she didn't care.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

I had one ask me and I would've accepted except that she was only 3 years old, at the time.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Sure, it's okay. However, as weird as this sounds, I would actually prefer to ask her. Lol. But she can totally ask me for a date!!

whereismyjohnny · Answer

Of course. I don't see a problem with that.

Cherry234 · Answer

I'd rather have the man propose to me.

RedThread · Answer

lol there's no law against it so sure. Even if there was I don't see the problem with it.

NorthwestRider · Answer

It is 2022. Plus traditional values are outdated

amandat94132 · Answer

Of course a woman can :) 2022

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

On leap years

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah. A lady friend of mine asked her husband to marry her. They've been married for 17 years. Have 4 kids and are quite happy.

Pudsmucker · Answer

No problem, some women I know have proposed. They are still married after 20 years.

VistasV2 · Answer

If a woman asked me to marry her I’d say yes no Cap. Lol

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

I'd be embarrassed by that, so not for me. Someone else though probably

Guy13 · Answer

I woukd not be good with it,

Ryfyle · Answer

Why postulate in impossible scenario? Might as well ask when will water burn.

maximumpower · Answer

Would bet a dollar that, if rejected, she'd never do it again.

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