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No i let it go if a girl is already in a relationship she's already in a relationship and I have to respect that I have to respect her and the guy you don't just make yourself at home when it's somebody else's house
Okay you preachin and with one of your shortest answers ever haha 🙏
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No way. Jim didn’t give up on Pam and they still got together after he beat up Roy.
Lmao jim crossed the line. She was wholeass engaged. Sure he shouldve said he wanted to be with her and that she should leave raggedy roy who never paid attention to her. But kissing her was crossing the line. And jim gave up temporarily by dating rashida
I know. I liked Rashida better. Jim let me down. Jim let all of us down.
Yea she was soooo much better. Pam was bland af lmao. I almost hought pam was gonna settle for michael but he was father material ig 😂 i still haven't watched the last 2 eps of the last season. Its been on my dvr for about a month
That’s right. Rashida became a regional manager and then Pam failed art school. (Boom. Roasted.)
Hahaha and rashida had a baby first
“OMG! Is it Jim’s?” 🤣
I wanted it to be so badly 🤣
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A ring or knowledge of an ongoing relationship is a no-no for me. I don't even try. That's just disrespectful.
Saying that, it doesn't mean I can't wish. It doesn't mean that I can't hope they split, (meaning from a guy that's rotten and cheats or abuses), because he doesn't deserve her, and she doesn't deserve his disrespect or mistreatment.
I'm not quiet about my opinion to her though. Not that I want her, or that I would treat her so much better, but that she could do so much better and shouldn't tolerate an ass. If it happened that we got together, well then, so be it, but my voicing something isn't necessarily any indication that I want her. I just happen to care about her and her well being as a human being.
Him, I don't even talk to. He doesn't deserve my attention or help. He already knows what he's doing wrong. He gets exactly what he deserves if she walks away.
It's not about bros before hos. It's about ignoring a dumbass, or letting karma do its thing, because it'll come around one day.
Preeeeeach 👏
I would give up if they are in a happy relationship. If they break up and I'm still available, I'd probably shoot my shot but I definitely would not be counting the days for their break up.
Chasing after someone knowing they're happily taken is a douche move. You're basically declaring your willingness to snatch them away from someone else. I'm not sure why people think it's okay to steal someone's partner when they're both really happy with each other.
If they had a toxic relationship, I would help the person out of it if they're the victim. However, if they were the abuser or something, I'd stop liking them and help their partner out of it.
I've seen lots of kdramas, cdramas, etc. featuring the ML flirting with a taken FL, aware she is happily taken but thinks she can get a better man so they mess with the couple's dynamic by slotting themselves in. It just screams drama and disrespect, I don't really like it. If he was saving her from her toxic partner then okay, that's fine. They shoot their shot when they know they aren't happy in the relationship and are emotionally available again.
Even though it's a drama, I've actually seen this happen to one of my HS' sweethearts and it was just so weird to witness it in person. Typically dramas stay fictional until you see it yourself.
Yep its not worth it
I would never consider doing anything with a married woman. Period. I consider that to be immoral.
I never actively pursued a girl who had a boyfriend. But I've been pursued by girls who had boyfriends. In that case, I figure they are fare game. I mean, a boyfriend or girlfriend isn't a lifetime commitment. It's more of an experiment to see if they are the one you want to stay with. If you don't, then you are allowed to make a change. It's a bit like trying new jobs or going to college and being unsure what you want to major in. You take different courses and try different things until you find something that inspires you.
Having a boyfriend/girlfriend is just part of life - learning, experimenting, and gaining experience.
I admire the kind of women who aren't afraid to engage in relationships and fully commit to them as way of determining if the guy is truly the right life partner. That includes having lots of sex. There's nothing at all wrong with that. And if things don't work out, no biggie. Move on. It's part of growing up. In the meantime, you had fun and built lifelong memories. And in the long run, even the heartaches are worth it.
Um no. An official boyfriend for me means im dating to marry. Now going on dates with others before choosing an official boyfriend is more not committing just yet as they can be easily disposable 😂
Eh...
Well...
Let's just say there is a long running joke amongst my friends that if a woman is single, then I have no chance with her. I have something of a reputation/bad habit of stealing taken women.
I'm not exactly proud of that, and I don't do it on purpose, but things usually end up that way. I'm told I'm a nice guy, a good listener, and very charming. I tend to become friends with women, and they eventually start to confide in me, and come to me when they have problems with their relationships.
I try to help out, listen, and treat them well, so before I even realize what is happening, we start to fall for each other. One thing leads to another, and suddenly we're dating, and I'm a horrible person. 😭
I was gonna anon for this one, but I figured you'd realize it was me, anyway. 🤷♂️
Lol yea i’d realize you cause i love your answers. You’re certainly a charmer, good listener and you give good feedback
I am like you when they are taken I distance myself. I feel that even if I could steal them away... chances are it would only be a matter of time that someone else comes along and steals them away from me.
So like you said most people that are willing to be stolen away are not worth the effort. Now if they break up then I might see what the chances are, but you can't come off as creepy. Because women know guys look to be the the rebound guy, so you got to give it a month or two before you come swooping in. If they find someone else super quick after breaking up then I assume they are players anyway, and not for me.
I dont rebound but i do date people again quickly after a breakup. Its often cause i wanted to date them prior but one of us was taken. Now if the guy was taken, yea i’d wait some time to assure im not a rebound
Well yeah that is what I meant... if she broke up and was already dating some one else that quick that wasn't me... then I would assume she is not interested in me. And that she dates guys while she still considers other guys. So in this case if you broke up and started dating someone else that quick, I would assume I was not high enough on your list for consideration.
But I would not want to be the guy that sees a girl break up with a another guy then pounce on it immediately. If she is not showing interest in me I hold off for a month or two then come back around and see if their is any possibilities.
Yep i said the same like you're likely the appetizer while they wait for their realmmeal
I wouldn't go after a girl because I knew that she was taken. And if I knew that she was taken ahead of time then I wouldn't go for her. But I have to admit that I did have a little thing with a married girl. I honestly can't recall if I knew that she was married in the beginning. We met in school and she was going through a really shity time in her marriage and her husband was a drunk. But it didn't last long, and honestly looking back I think I'm glad that it didn't. She was really cool and we jog along really well. But I wouldn't have wanted to go through all the drama with her husband.
Yea being with a married person wouldve been the worst of all
I mean I tend to give up. Still be friends with her and whatnot. But if she's willing to just ditch her boyfriend or husband for me, then I can be pretty sure she will view me just as expendable and replaceable as him. So no point in pursuing it if I'll probably trust and respect her less if she does it. Break up with your current guy first.
Extremely correct about them viewing us as just as easily replaceable in the future. But i couldnt become their friend. Its best to distance yourself
I wouldn’t want the drama and the issues that will come about.
I will immediately lose interest if I find a man to be married, a man to be a father, or a single father.
I immediately lose interest if he had hidden the fact that he’s a father or married.
COMPLETE TURN OFF
Yea if he hides it i dont want him. If he tells me he has a girlfriend, i try to distance myself and maintain self control and respect. If he has a kid, im okay with one kid but they need to be between the ages of 2-5 and the mom needs to be dead or married
Yes, I don’t want to encourage cheating, because I don’t want to get cheated on too. There are people who don’t give up not because they want to steal the person, but it is more on “to stroke their ego” Once the person cheated on their partner with them, they would leave. I despise this type of people so much.
Thats true
I don't give up... I just don't even try
and that's out of basic respect and decency... lol
and a couple of times I've kept my distance... because they're the ones trying for something with me (or testing, better said) while they're involved with someone else
I don't need any of that
I dont blame you
Yea, because it's not moral to steal, and because I don't like second hand stuff anyway.
Haha
(based on the title)
Yup. Now, simply saying that I'd "distance myself from <her>" may seem much, but it's 'cause I don't wanna risk drawing (negative) attention to her boyfriend, who *may* be the kind that easily gets jealous and don't want anyone to approach her, even if it's just some harmless chatting.
I have to distance myself because i won't wanna stop. I wanna keep getting to know them and get closer
The woman I've dated the longest in my life had a boyfriend before she dumped him for me.
In short, no I'm not letting that discourage me.
It's up for them to decide whether they entertain my advances, to me they are no different from anyone else.
Depends on lot of factors… the main one being what I want at that time. If I just want to f and if this person isn’t physically happy or in open relationship then yes I would use him as my boy toy.
Emotionally though I would never get involved with a man that’s already taken.
What if theyre already fcking? wouldn't that be kinda nasty to fck him too
I would never really know if they are fucking. As long as he says they aren’t fucking all is good.
I don't understand how that sort of scenario would occur.
How would you develop feelings enough to start a persuit, before knowing everything about the person?
To me it seems like their single/taken status would be something you would know long before before the person was reveiled as dating material.
If you dont have social media, it can be hard to find out. One guy pursued me for 4 years of college. I flirted back with him all the time but learned during the second year he was dating someone. Not that he ever told me. So i stepped back that year. I switched the colleges the 3rd year and what do you know, he's at my new school. New guys approached me and he got mad jealous and continued trying to pull me from them so I started to assume he was single again. Found out later he was now engaged. He still never mentioned her. One day she transferred to our school, to my class more specifically (creepy) and she was like “Hey you're the girl my boyfriend messages all the time? Oh im sorry, did j say boyfriend, he's now my fiance *rubs the ring in my face.” And then she continued to question me on stuff but not in a fussy way. It sounded like she wanted me to date him. I don't know if they had an open relationship but i know she was a virgin waiting til marriage. The situation turned me off and i would dodge and ghost him. The 4th year he's finally actually single because she cheated on him and lost her virginity and got knocked up immediately by the other man. Theybwere a mess of a couple
All my friends are gamers.
When they have relationships, you typically end up hearing about them having an SO before even learning their real name, or hearing their SO's voice through the mic in the background.
Meanwhile, it takes about 3 years to get go know them enough to consider dating them, while their relationship status is revealed in about a week or 2 just by talking about how their day went.
Yea a lot of gamers are not the same person offline (hence a few of my exes) so i dont blame you for needing to know them a good while before dating
I'm the same offline, being 2 people is too much work lol. Most of my friends are as well.
Yes. Yes yes yes and yes. There’s no point in ruining a perfectly healthy relationship. Or even if it’s not healthy it’s honestly none of my business to meddle in. Oh well, wish him or her the best and move on. There are plenty of men and women out there to get to know. Don’t waste your time on 1.
So true
I would study the type of Relation they have with their partner (ghinking they're not married) .
If the relationship is all over the place and is an absolute mess , I'll wait till it's over and then I'll help her out of it and later (a few months later) shoot my shot. 50/50 chances are better than 0 chances.
If she's happy and satisfied with her partner , I'll give up.
You want someone with fresh baggage because their relationship was a mess?
Nah. I'm just going to help her out of that Messy Relationship (if she wants to get out of it) and then I'll shoot my shot.
I would not go after a person once I found out they were taken but I have stayed close to them. Most of my friends are real tall likr 6'6" tall. Most women who come into contact with my group would be attracted to their height. I knew they would soon figure out height does not make you a cool person. Many a woman found solace in my arms.
I’d be scared of anything over 6’2 😂
Yeah I would...
I learnt is school that crushing on someone who is taken just makes the whole experience worse... for that reason as an adult I don't get romantically attached/ involved with people with partners
Thats good
Yeah, I give up trying to get into something romantic with them. I'm not one to wedge myself in someone else's relationship. But that doesn't mean I stop talking to them altogether, friends are good to have.
Fck friends. They often try to ease their way in soon as you're single lmao
Maybe having male friends as a female is different than having female friends as a male. I'm genuinely in it for the friendship if they are taken. I enjoy people's company, and just going out and doing things with friends is fun.
If they become single again, I don't really try to slide my way into a relationship, because I know up until then I've always just been a friend. Lots of people want to keep their friends as friends, and I'm ok with that
I have to be extremely unattracted to a “friend” and vice versa to believe theyre in it just for the friendship
Im not lol. I wanted them to know where they stand and thats never having a chance at being more than friends
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