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Claim that you're 5'11" or less. That'll solve ALL your problems! As well as get rid of almost all available women who otherwise would've written to you. Any height starting with a "five" in fact; all of them are an "F," so which one you pick doesn't even matter.
This does bring up an interesting question I've always thought about, though. "Is it better to be able to get women, but most of them are shallow and superficial? Or is it better to not be able to get 99.99% of women at all because you're short, but know that IF you could get a woman, she'd like you for you?" The quantity or the quality?
In all honesty, my short f*cking ass would still take being 6'5" like you over being a 5'8"-5'11" short-sh*t who's completely locked out of the dating pool (unless they date literal dwarves, like 5'0" and under women).
But yeah, just claim 5'11" and every single woman in the area's vaginas will dry up like the Sahara. You'll get rid of the height diggers, but SURPRISE! 96% of all straight women are "height diggers!" (As the women on this post are proving to you.) Problem solved. 😂
Hm yeah, you got a point there or two. Might as well get to it. Maybe have only sex with height diggers but commit to the vast minority of women, that are not height diggers.
The women who do not care about height are 4% of the heterosexual female population.
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Yeah, that's fair enough
Thank you for the MHO.
I can say all girls are “height diggers” if not most, because that’s natural and who they are, women seek someone at their lever or in preference someone above them, generally speaking here of being taller when it comes to protection, because when it comes to taller men they are physically stronger to protect a women, now I know not all tall men, but that stats are on your side of you are taller. Equivalent to a woman with big with big boobs and butt, we can do without one or the other but having both would be ideal
There's a difference between height diggers and those who have a height preference.
For height diggers, they will only date people as long as they meet the height requirement. You'll find out if all they praise you for is your height and brings up your height often to their peers and family.
For those with a preference for height, they're fine with men that aren't tall and they don't treat height as the only redeeming attribute. People are allowed to have a preference and you can't hate a girl just because she managed to land someone within her preference.
For example, if I wanted a boyfriend, their height is not the deal breaker. If they're not within my preference, fine. If they are, it's nice but it's not a big deal. As long as they aren't shorter than me I'm not picky. If that's considered height digging, then welp.
Yes, that makes you a height digger. You got minimal height requirements.
You will have a tough time since almost everyone (all genders inclusive) has some sort of height preference whether they realize it or not. I guess the majority of us are what you claim as height diggers ranging from mild to extreme.
There are a few out there that are open to all heights so it's not impossible. Are you simply just wanting a woman that will accept your height? Say, she just prefers someone taller than a baby. You could be shorter than her but still within her preference lol. She'd be a height digger then.
If you're open to all heights, good for you. It's not a bad thing at all.
*If* you're not okay with a woman significantly taller than you or ridiculously shorter, then good luck. You can't ask for someone to not be a height digger if you have some minimum requirement as well.
I'm not shaming those.
I am thinking of how to not get with those types of people.
You could simply ask them:
1. If height/physical attributes is really important to them.
2. What their type is and what they look for in a relationship.
3. If there is something that has to be met before you can get more serious.
4. What they like about you/ find interesting about you.
If they're firm with certain requirements you don't agree with, ask them why it's important. Communicate with them and if you decide they're not right for you, they aren't.
Hopefully this helps!
Oh yes, that is worthy of a MHO. Thanks a bunch! I hope I won't forget.
@MCheetah My definition of height digger was different. I thought it meant just like gold digger, where they're only in it for the height. Nothing else.
Height is just a preference but it's not a deal breaker lol. Yes, I don't really like it if a guy is shorter than me, but in a scenario where he's 'the one' I'd scratch it out just for them lol. Rules bend and things don't always go as said.
It's not like I'm going to reject their marriage proposal just because they're short 😂 That aspect would never outweigh a good heart.
"It's not like I'm going to reject their marriage proposal just because they're short."
MOST women are going to reject a man who isn't tall enough for them. Most Western women want a man at a minimum of six feet tall, and are willing to "settle" for a man at least five inches taller, and will reject a man who isn't tall enough.
If a woman cares about height, they'll reject a man who isn't tall enough. Because they can, and plenty of men are over six feet tall for them to choose from.
Well, I was just speaking for myself, not them. Everyone treats this topic differently. I'm not Western, I'm Asian and not the tallest lol. Dating someone and then rejecting an engagement because of their height is ridiculous. Do you think most women are going to dump a guy after investing a lot of time into them, over something so trivial? If the feeling is there most women wouldn't pass it up.
It's not a sin for people to have a preference. It doesn't apply only to women either. I've seen plenty of males that prefer a shorter female or similar height.
I live in South Korea, and women here are no different about height than American and Canadian women, other than the cutoff point. North American women want a guy who's at least six feet tall (183 cm), while Korean women want a guy at least five foot nine (175 cm) if he's Korean and five foot eleven (180 cm) if Western.
If a guy is under those thresholds a woman finds to be "tall enough," she will not give him the time of day, whatsoever, no matter how perfect his personality is or how many things he checks off her list. "You can't force attraction," women will say. And they are right.
But at the same time, YES, women are that ridiculous when it comes to their requirements (aka "preferences") in a man.
"Dating someone and then rejecting an engagement because of their height is ridiculous. Do you think most women are going to dump a guy after investing a lot of time into them, over something so trivial?"
Try online dating and see if a woman won't completely ghost a guy after finding out for the first time he's only 5'8" (173 cm). Spoiler: Most of them will.
But yeah. Women will point out men are acting "sexist" for pointing out how ridiculous and entitled modern women's standards are. Here's a famous quote: "Women date and sleep with whoever they want. Men date and sleep with whoever they can get."
@MCheetah
Every part of the world has their own beauty standards for men and women. Most of those standards are edited and difficult to obtain.
Not everyone gets what they wished for, and not everyone clings onto that wish. Our definition of perfect is subjective. It doesn't have to follow the "IT" girl/guy traits.
"She will not give him the time of day, whatsoever, no matter how perfect his personality is"
I will have to strongly disagree with this one. My dad is shorter than my mom and a bit younger, which goes against both her 'height and age preferences'. The same for my dad. He doesn't like the fact my mom is older or taller than him.
Despite this, they're happily married for almost 40 years and they're still very much in love. She had lots of men chasing after her and my dad had pretty girls lined up but they only chose each other because they knew they'd love each other unconditionally for the rest of their life together.
My mom often tells me stories of where those admirers ended up and I tell you, the stories are nasty. Some are gambling addicts, divorced and some are unwilling to care for the family. Looks are guaranteed to prune, but the heart isn't.
Relationships are unstable if they rely on physical appearances man. Everyone ultimately wants someone that will just love them for who they are, support and embrace them through their insecurities.
I also wouldn't say it's just some women that have ridiculous standards. Some men are like that too. I've met all kinds of people in high school that had really weird requirements for their partners.
Some guys openly said they wanted girls with breasts 'big enough to cup with their hands' and there was this one girl that really wanted a guy with 'nice' hands lol 🤷🏻♀️
Not all women or men sleep around either. Gender does not define this behavior. Everyone has different values. Some people are obsessed with virginity and others aren't. I wouldn't say men date and sleep with whoever they can get. Some men can also sleep with whoever they want. Some females can only sleep and date with whoever they get. It's a two-way street and it really depends on their circumstances and values.
I personally don't agree with your quote, but if that's how you view it then fine. We can just settle with our differing perspectives. Pleasure discussing and hearing your side of things.
My boyfriend is 6’3 and I’m 5’2.. he’s so fucking tall and I’m like a foot shorter than him. I’m not dating him because of his height, I’m dating him because he has the qualities I was looking for in a partner. Sure, he’s handsome and i find him very attractive, but it’s just not about that. He’s also a very good person, doesn’t like playing games and i admire that about him.
The point is, you like what you like. At the end of the day, you cannot change people. You should look for someone who would accept you and would truly love you for who you are. Relationships are not always easy and everyone is different, but you shouldn’t find someone who makes you happy.
Some people may like partners who are significantly taller than them and that’s okay. Some may prefer shorter people and that’s okay too.
"you shouldn’t find someone who makes you happy."
Say what?
Yikes sorry, autocorrect
**you should find someone who makes you happy**
I didn’t proofread my opinion before posting 😅 my apologies
It's fine :)
As i said, people have their preferences, but if a girl is dating you SOLELY based on your looks, you’d know right away and that’s a red flag. Because physical attraction is important, but compatibility and personality is even more so important. There are many good women out there who would accept you and love you for who you are. You should just find them. Be the best version of yourself. My father always used to tell me this: “self introspection is very important. Introspect yourself and your thought processes often. If there is something negative, just throw it away. Far away from you and start focusing on positive things. You should improve yourself so that you can share your life with someone later. You shouldn’t find someone who would make you a whole.. rather, you should be whole and find another person who is whole so that both of you could share your lives with each other. that’s what love is.”
I wish you the very best! Good luck (:
Thank you kindly love 💖
No problem! 😄
@WonderBell99
You wouldn't be dating him if he wasn't already tall and good looking. You only like his personality because he was good enough looking for you to get to know his personality. If he was 5'4" and a 5 out of 10 in looks, you wouldn't have given him the time of day in order to get to know his personality. You and any other female out there.
@MCheetah Looks do matter. If I hadn’t found him attractive, then I wouldn’t have made the emotional connection with him. HOWEVER, I did NOT choose him solely based on his looks. He’s the sweetest guy ever. He treats me right and we have mutual respect for each other. He doesn’t play games, he doesn’t sleep around, doesn’t do drugs (many of the guys around his age do all this). We have amazing chemistry and I adore him.
How is him being tall either mine or his fault? I’m 5’2, and I want my man to be taller than me when I wear heels. My boyfriend just happened to be 6’3. What the fuck do you expect me to do now? Break up with him because hE’s tOo tAll? Get the fuck out of here, man. Shitting on me and my relationship with him isn’t going to find you a girlfriend. YOU refuse to see what the fuck is wrong with you. And for the love of god, stop making everything about your motherfucking height. 5’8 isn’t short AT ALL.
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u ". . . and if he dares being shorter, the same girls won't date them." How does a guy dare to be shorter? "Stay back or I'll cut my legs off?"
By being short.
Find out about her dating history. See if she's ever dated anyone shorter than herself. Also, does she have any short celebrity crushes? How does she react to the sight of a tall woman with a short man? Or to a couple where both are the same height?
That will tell you if she's open to the idea of dating men who aren't tall and therefore not a height digger.
Just tell them you are short. If you're short, they will vanish. If you're tall and don't want girls just wanting you because you're tall, you could meet them online and lie about your height haha. Not sure about how to go about it in person. Maybe ask them why they came over to talk to you. If they say because you're tall right away, I guess you have your answer.
I won't lie to them.
You mean how to avoid women who have a preference for physical attributes they find attractive in a romantic partner? seems pretty simple... just don't have those attributes.
What if I have them and can't conceal these attributes?
Do I call these girls out and ask them "are you attracted to me because of my height?" and if they say "yes", then I dump them?
why would be upset that someone finds you attractive?
You didn't understand. Attractiveness can be measured by more than just height.
No one said that it wasn't
Can't trust these girls if that's so.
That's like a woman saying that she can't trust men who find her physically attractive?
That's right.
It's just like 50 Cent said:
Girl, it's easy to love me now
Would you love me if I was down and out?
Would you still have love for me?
That's what counts and keeps a relationship going and real.
Not gold digger relationships and not beauty (or height) digger relationships or sex digger relationships.
People that date only for a person's appearance are shallow and those relationships won't last long.
You'll be able to tell if the relationship is just superficial or something real.
Everyone has something they find attractive (it's nature) but it shouldn't be treated as the foundation of the relationship.
Even though I would prefer a guy taller than me, if I end up loving them and wanting to spend the rest of my life with them, I'd scratch it out just for them.
Finding a person with the right heart is incredibly difficult. If they're willing to love you and support you for the rest of your time together, they're all what you could ask for.
My mom wanted tall men, but then my dad came along. He cared for her still does. What's more is that he gives my siblings unconditional parental love as well.
People will disregard lots of things if the person is too good to pass up. You'll find someone right for you.
I agree that determining whether someone can support and treat you with the same amount of love if not more, is a major priority.
Yep. It seems we do have that in common. I appreciate that.
So people are not allowed to have preferences? Get over it and just go for a girl that's shorter than you or doesn't care about your height.
You need to learn how to read.
@Asker is there nothing, like no filter for you when deciding on girlfriend material?
@anon1903
My standards are getting lower. And yet I aim to screen out those, who have superficial requirements.
Would you date a woman who's slept with more people than you have
@anon1903 yes
A woman who's not a virgin?
How about women with lots of Mae friends?
@anon1903 No problem
Well then, I guess go right ahead with avoiding... Height diggers
You wouldn’t date a fat lady , so why should she date a short guy?
double standards?
I would totally date a lady regardless of her height.
@Juxtapose
I see more attractive women with unattractive men than attractive men with unattractive women
@Juxtapose
Women are more likely to be lenient on looks
@Juxtapose
A guy will always pick a hot girl over an average looking chubby girl with a good personality. No man approaches a woman at a bar for having a “good personality”. You can lie all you want about how men pick personality over looks. When you see a hot girl , you start drooling and hitting on her like crazy
@Juxtapose
Men without options don’t tend to be picky. Men with options tend to be picky,
@Juxtapose
Men who have options are usually at least average looking , competent social skills , have a lot of friends and goes out to bars / parties on weekends.
Men without options tend to be the ones who never go to parties / bars , no social life , have no female friends. Your favorite weekend activity is to play video games in your room or invite your all male friend group over. No social skills along with poor grooming.
@Juxtapose
I know you don’t have many friends cus that’s not what typically young guys in their 20-30s think
All she's saying is men wouldn't date fat women same way women don't date short guys. It is how it is. There can be exceptions but I've many times seen a fat husband and a thin wife, that kind of pair. Few girls even mistake chubby men for muscular. In India, if you ever visit, you just ask around the criteria they want in wife — you'd find many adjectives of thin. While if you ask women here about fat husband's, they'd say it's pretty much okay.
@Juxtapose no, the Mean Girls archetype is true. I've heard my brother and his friends talk with older guys. They were calling someone a cow, too hot to be fat, and making mean jokes when one of them brought it up
@Juxtapose ┐( ˘_˘)┌ i still think guys prefer women with tiny waist and huge bonkers...
@anon1903 I love huge bonkers but I'm not a fan of a tiny waist. A slight hourglass figure is fine but I don't want to feel like I'm holding a twig. Most of my girlfriends have been a bit chubby and they are so sexy.
Someone like yourself is an example of how thin I would go since you appear to be on the average or thin side yourself.
@Juxtapose thanks.
@Juxtapose is it bad I still feel compelled to point out you might be an exception?
@Juxtapose haha, don't say that about yourself. You realise I meant exception in a good way right?
i.imgur.com/FWeXcdR_d.webp
That is an example of a woman a lot of guys would bang without hesitation.
@Juxtapose
From my experience a guy usually won’t care about what body a girl has if she is pretty (unless he is super fat or obese), he usually wouldn’t care much
Just look at her ex boyfriend's. If all of them where tall and good looking, she's a height digger and you can avoid her.
Yeah, right, like I am going to ask her "can you show me your ex boyfriends?"
Yes.
"and if he dares being shorter"
Who told you that you could use my shrink ray? Put that shit back in the lab you bastard.
You know there's a proper way to ask for things back. And this is not it.
Don't you fuckin sass me thief! That thing took me 20 years to build, it even beeps for no goddamn reason when you turn it on! Do you know how expensive that feature was? (not very, but its the principle of the matter).
Nah, still not good enough.
Now I see there's actually 2 buttons there. The one seemingly hidden on the side. I wonder what the other button doe---AAAGH!
Welp, thats what I get for not lojacking the damn thing.
Yeah, right. I'll keep it for a while. I'll go and shrink down the women, so that we become visually taller to them than previously. Then the height issue will be resolved.
Oh wait a second. For some boys that's not even necessary. Boys like Tekashi 6ix9ine are not that tall, yet he gets pretty much almost all the women he wants. So maybe the problem isn't girls being height diggers but boys not being able to vastly compensate for it?
I mean, if she's a lot taller you get boobs in your face during sex, I see that as a plus tbh.
Yeah, problem is, these height diggers won't go after you unless you are rich.
Just throw them away if you have someone who's always complaining about heights and attracted to other tall dudes. İ don't see any reason to keep those diggers and ruin worth
Make online date account and lie about height, then realize u can't get any and then stop complaining
height diggers Like their preference is: have to be taller than them or that men have to be just tall?
@MCheetah is it?
All Women: "I don't want to date someone who is short."
Woman A: "I'm five-foot-two, so for me, a short guy is any dude under five-foot-seven, but most men aren't that short anyway so you're good."
Woman B: "I'm five-foot-eight, so for me, a short guy is any dude under six-feet tall, but the remaining 20% of the male population is still a lot of men to choose from."
It's subjective what women find to be "tall," but it's usually a minimum of four inches above her (so she can "still wear heels and not be his height or taller"), regardless of how tall or short she is.
So yes. It's the same damn thing.
@MCheetah Ahh okay. As you say it's very subjective what we find tall so it would matter for each person. So find someone who doesn't really care aboutt height, I don't know were you find this people but whatever. Good luck
Why would you have to avoid them, when they're the ones avoiding you lol? It's not like on a third date they figure out you're too short.
Conduct a survey on them, whoever answers the most or scores the most should be outcasted
what survey?
A Google form, or a gag survey take
I think you’ll know. They’re usually quick to point it out.
It sounds like you’re short so they won’t want you anyway
Again anonymous woman:)
Figure out how tall all of her exes are. I don't discriminate based on height myself so I think it is dumb.
You just find women who don’t have a height criteria on their perfect guy list
Correction - all girls are heartless. I found that the hard way. :D
Put 5’6 on your dating profile.
They won’t even show up because they have 6’ as their default height required
Send them my way! I'm 6' 9'"!
Just ask her what her type is
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