I've wasted so many years on guys that have me false hopes now im 29 and still single what should I do?

[Anonymous]

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Lock yourself in a room with a pad and paper and write down everything about all the guys.

Make tables about the good and the bad things about them, starting with the ones who you fell for the hardest. What did you like about them, what did you not like about them.

It's gonna feel stupid halfway through but just keep doing it and when you're done and have done it a couple times, you will have learned a lot about yourself and when you get out there and talk to guys, you're going to confidently navigate the dating space.

[Fireguy17]

Might be time to rethink about your choices in who you are getting involved with, and where you are meeting them.
You might want to think about using one of the better dating sites, where you have to pay to join, not the free hook up sites, (not saying that is what you are doing), but at least then your chances of finding someone that wants to be in a commited relationship with a future are much better.
And yes, there is the distinct possibility that there will be some men on even those sites just looking to add to their body count, but most people are on those sites for the same reason, and that is to find a partner in life.

[pixie215]

it will happen when you least expect it. go on about your life, dont make love a focus, im in the same boat. everyone tells me its when you stop looking you find it or well it finds you, hope this helps and your age is irrelevant everyone wants love in life and security

[Asker]

All the idiots in my 20s just pretend they wanted a relationship nothing ever happened

[pixie215]

dont give up, im where you are, i just went through it the last few months, if you message me ill tell you happened, its crushing, but i refuse to give up my person is out there

[Asker]

I just followed you

[Kate090]

Oh well you’re not missing out on anything, please believe me when I say that. I have friends and family who didn’t get married until their mid to late 30s. It’s better to stay single than to swim in a pile of poop later 🤷‍♀️

[DARKCLOUD1945X]

Pick yourself up dust yourself off and go right back out dating may be with a greater knowledge of what kind of men that are out there from the honest and sincere to the outright scumbag. Also take your time before getting involved with a new person and see if there any similarities between one and the other if interested in a guy please no rebound love take your time. There are plenty of nice guys out there you may have to look maybe a little harder. This also pertains to guys who have had this happen to them.

[Honesttguy]

Why were u so naive? Ofc 20y old male wants to fuk as much as he can. Question is why couldn't u see that? That inability to see is what made you follow these fools for false hope. Improve your own judgment dont follow fools, learn to recognize there were plenty or giveaway signs.

[HighValue]

Try being with a guy that has a different type of personality than whoever you were with before. When you find someone that may interest you, go approach them and don't wait for them to do it. Don't waste more time, focus on finding the right person. If you don't have kids and you want a good guy that also doesn't have kids I would say you have a couple years left to find him before your chances decrease a lot. Good luck in your search. :)

[Wesj89]

Realize your only 29 and that you've got loads of time. Relax, maybe spend a few years focusing on you.

[DianaWest]

if she wants kids i am not sure if she has loads of time.

[Truthatanycost]

Take responsibility for your own actions, own them, learn from them and discern so you don't repeat the same mistakes. As soon as you blame others, you rob yourself of change.

[dovendyret]

Focus on yourself, the things you enjoy and you'll met someone. At least that is what worked for me in the end.

[TheBigGuy9]

Focus on yourself and develop meaningful friendships with people and if it is meant to be, it’s meant to be. Don’t be jumping in bed with men on the regular.

[UdontNeedtoknow]

Find a good guy who likes you for who you are. If you remove money and looks from the equation. You will find love. You could probably find a ok looking guy who is poor that makes you happy. Hypergamis is the ruin of many women and there happiness.

[cookiecrusher]

Build a time machine.

Change up the type of men you select.

Attend therapy so not to bring all that past shit into a new relationship.

And enjoy the fruits of your past bad decisions, not much else to do.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

You should do the simplest thing of them all, live your life my friend.

[driven159]

just be yourself enjoy life no rush to get into anything till its right for you how many are 29 and divorced be happy you are not one of them

[GlassTop]

Stop sleeping with guys and expecting them to marry you if you are already giving them marriage privileges.

[DianaWest]

hard to do that when most men consider sex a "very important" part of a "healthy relationship." yes, and a week later they leave.

[GlassTop]

@DianaWest if they leave you for no sex then you just saved yourself wasted time.

[skyeee_]

don't lose hope. you'll find the one. however, feel free to take a break from dating if u wish to

[Darine123]

Move on and when is it the right time the right guy will come

[Anonymous]

Guess you should have tried one of the good men instead of the bad boys lol.

[DianaWest]

fuck off with all that bullshit. most men nowadays (like 96 percent of you) like to fuck around and want to settle down when they're 70. the only "nice guys" are the bald fat ones who think opening doors for women makes them husband material.

[Opinion Owner]

@DianaWest fuck off yourself feminazi. You're just pissed because it's true. Incidentally, I don't fuck around, nor do most of the decent men that women overlook and turn down for fuckboys and douchebags. Any woman stupid enough to fall for the same shit over and over gets zero sympathy from me. Get lost.

[DianaWest]

ah, so are you bald and fat?

[Opinion Owner]

@DianaWest I'm neither. 6'3 and 190. Muscles and all, no problem with me, unlike you being triggered by truth. Women really shouldn't write off 70% of guys because they aren't "edgy". If anyone falls repeatedly for a fuckboys garbage, they deserve to be used up and alone at 30.

[DianaWest]

you seem very bitter. if you are so hot and muscly, women should be kissing your feet. maybe they sense your nasty personality and misogynistic mindset that feels all women are worthless past 29.

[Opinion Owner]

@DianaWest nope, not bitter unlike yourself, just realistic. So many women follow this same pathetic pattern, it's become cliche.

[Staximus]

Relax. There's millions of guys out there, go find one

[Anonymous]

Just earn and spend it alll on yourself be happy that you're not stuck at home being boring travel have sex with different flavors go get it girlll

[Anonymous]

Take a break I guess, or find a nice guy but you probably will have to do the asking

[Asker]

Yeah probably do all those idiot guys just pretended they wanted something but nothing ever happened

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah maybe some do

[Anonymous]

How many guy you have In the friend zone?
And what's your body count?

[Asker]

2 guys I've had body count

[Opinion Owner]

Well probably you met dishonest person that's all however you were probably into drama and the bad boy. you're still at late 20s so your appearance probably is fine if you have degree and your life is going fine then don't look into the drama it's late because once you go beyond 30 the depreciation will begin live your life and be successful and don't go for drama and bad boy. Some good man have seen bad enough to be good.

[Asker]

I can show pictures of my appearance

[In_Trance]

you want different results? Do different things

[Asker]

The hook up culture has taken over

[jahaims]

Figure out what makes you pick bad partners

[michael1469]

... keep working on your professional life.

[blueazure]

Just do what you want and be happy.

[Anonymous]

The person i love is 29

[gag2021]

Keep looking...

[Anonymous]

What happened?

[Asker]

Just pretended they wanted a relationship