A guy I was talking to who also goes to my gym told me he’s not sexually attracted to me and now I’m uncomfortable going. What can I do?

[Anonymous]

I was talking to a guy for a little while and basically he just friend zoned me out of nowhere and I asked him and basically he “kindly” said he just sees a relationship with me as a friend/acquaintance. I feel really self conscious and not even comfortable being around guys right now especially at the gym because of things he said to me. What can I do to work past this?

[CaptainOverthink]

If he just dropped it out like that I can see how it might be a bit awkward but at the same time, he was just speaking to you as a human being and wanted to be clear about his intentions because it can get even more awkward if there's actual rejection.

There are plenty of times when men speak to women without a sexual/romantic intention and him clarifying that early on is a sign of respect, not something pivoted against you.

Don't switch gyms based on this one thing, decide for yourself to work at not letting it bother you by not letting it affect your behavior.

If anything, if you are looking for a man/partner, being friend to this respectful guy might work in your favor. Not only do you get a friend of the opposite sex (everyone should have one) he might be able to introduce you to good people that DO find you attractive.

I say, build on your internal strength by not letting your environment get to you. Exposure is the only way to numb it out, none feels good about fleeing the scene every time there's a bump in the road.

[integrale77]

I'm confused don't most women want to be seen as equals and not sex objects. Surely now it should be better knowing he's not undressing you with his eyes!

Also maybe he's gay so that could be another reason he isn't into you.

[Gwenhwyfar]

He’s just not into you. There’s always some guys who just aren’t. Woman up and move past it. Find another crush.

[Avicenna]

It's OK if you want to change gyms- that would be awkward for anyone. He should have handled that better.

[Asker]

I mean not trying to be insecure but now I’m not even comfortable with how I look. I’m going to think every guy isn’t attracted to me now and overthink the whole thing.

[Avicenna]

There will always be lots of guys attracted to you that never give any indication.

[Asker]

I find it weird that he kept communication with me if he wasn’t like attracted to me. Why would guys want to talk to a girl who’s not attractive to them? Unless, say their close friends for a long time and stuff

[Anonymous]

Don't worry about it.

[In_Trance]

I wouldn't worry about it

[Iron_Man]

Switch gyms