Should I keep letting this shy guy at the gym approach me slowly?

[Smiley32]

Today was better but I did notice he stayed around the area I was and pursue his workout routine and I continue my workout session and before I left a I give a small smile to him and he noticed but didn’t do anything back. I believe he was nervous. Do I keep letting him slowly interact until he is comfortable?

[HollyK21]

That really up to you. If he were to ask you out and you think you’d say yes then sure, keep letting him try to chat. If you’re not interested and just think the attention is flattering, cute or whatever then no, you shouldn’t keep fueling that, as it would give him false hope.

[Smiley32]

Im not giving false hope I agree but I want him more comfortable. If you know what I mean

[HollyK21]

I’m trying to figure out what you mean actually lol. I was basically saying that if you aren’t interested and let’s say he is, then what’s going on now would give him false hope, because far too often people will take actions that are meant to be friendly and welcoming as that person trying to relay a crush. If you are interested however, then what’s going on you’re doing is fine.

[Smiley32]

I will up on it because some people don’t interact right away

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Is it me or is there an influx of gym stories lately?

I don't experience anymore this kind of socially silent situations you describe. If I were you, i'd try to small talk him, to see how he responds to that. From there, I would try to gradually crack him open. Because what really matters to me is who I'm facing, without this then it's just about looks, which isn't especially attractive.

[NathanDavis]

listen...

there was another girl here... posting similar questions on a similar gym situation

that thing went on and on and on... for what? three or four years?

just think of a dog... simple, clear, short, intructions

- hey

- you

- and me

- lunch, now

done

[Smiley32]

Not that simple

[NathanDavis]

it can be...

[Smiley32]

He is very shy

[NathanDavis]

any luck yet... ?

[Anonymous]

You are 29. Figure this BS out for yourself.

[Smiley32]

How about be nice Kate

[Smiley32]

Wait Karen

[SamIam96]

How old are you in real life?

Does a 29yo really still give ambiguous signals because she needs an excuse to say she isn't interested if he doesn't ask her out? Soo embarrassing.

If you're interested in the guy, talk to him. If he's so cripplingly shy that you can't stand being with him, then you're done; walk away.

Seems kinda obvious.

[LC75LC71]

Yeah, I'm 2 days late, but not too soon to remind you what gyms are for! 3 more reps lets go.

[bowenw]

If you have a good feeling about him, let it continue to see what happens.

[Smiley32]

Thank you

[Iron_Man]

You gotta show him that you’re interested. It doesn’t hurt for you to smile and say something to him. Why do men always have to do all the work for everything If not, you women just give up

[Hunter-40m]

Yeah you are on the right path 👍

[MasterKS]

You must have attractive body, seduce him.

[Smiley32]

Nah I’m simple

[MasterKS]

@Smiley32 messaged you.

[Smiley32]

No thank you

[WhitneySnow]

Sounds good

[oldman26]

Sure