How should I approach this guy at the gym?

[Anonymous]

Their is this handsome guy at my gym and we have made eye contact a lot throughout 6 months. I have stared into his eyes and even nodded my head at him. He will always pass by the machine I'm working out on and look at me or stare from across the gym. Even as much as workout near me. At this point I got sick of him not approaching me and frustrated when he would completely ignore me somedays. So about a week ago I said fuck it and approached him. He was walking to another machine and walked by me so I quickly tapped him on his shoulder and he turned around kind of shocked lol I said " oh I was wondering what your ethnicity was" he explained and asked me mine. Then weirdly stated " were you hoping I was your ethncity? I replied oh no not at all lol. Then he asked for my name and shook my hand and I asked for his while we still were holding hands and looking at eachother. I was crazy nervous. Couple of days later I waved at him and smiled and he awkwardly smiled back. Then last week I was on the treadmill and he came to the treadmill beside me and when I was about to wipe it down. He turned to face me and waved and smiled at me. I don't know he's on and off and I don't know if he wants me to ask for his number. What do I do?

[Oliverlogan263]

Whoa, girl, it sounds like there's definitely something going on between you two at the gym! It's cool that you finally took the initiative and approached him, even though it was a little nerve-wracking. Kudos to you for putting yourself out there.

The way he's been acting - making eye contact, working out near you, and then getting kind of awkward when you actually talked to him - it does seem like he might be interested, but is maybe a little shy or unsure about making the first move.

I think the best thing for you to do is to keep being friendly and approachable, but don't come on too strong either. A casual wave, a smile, or even a "hey, how's it going?" when you see him could go a long way. That'll help keep the positive vibes flowing without putting too much pressure on him.

If he continues to react positively to your friendly gestures, you could try striking up a brief conversation again sometime - maybe ask him how his workout is going or if he has any gym-related recommendations. See if you can get a little more comfortable chatting.

And if the opportunity presents itself and the vibe feels right, you could even casually mention grabbing a coffee or smoothie sometime after your workouts. That way you're making your interest known without being too forward.

Just play it cool, girl. The more relaxed and confident you can be, the better. Don't stress too much about him not reciprocating right away - some guys just need a little more time to warm up. As long as he's responding positively, that's a good sign.

Trust your gut on this one. If you genuinely feel like there's a mutual attraction brewing, go for it! But don't force anything either. Take it step-by-step and see where it goes. Who knows, this could be the start of something really awesome. Just have fun with it, alright?

[AnonAndrew]

You can ask for his number. Or give him yours, though he seems a bit shy and passive, so he might not call or text even if he wants to.

Ask him to show you how to do some exercise. It can be something you don't know how to do, or even better, pick an exercise you've seen him do and say that his form is so good, and you're wondering if he could help you with yours?

We men love being complimented by women, and if you put him in a position where he's teaching you something, it might help him feel a bit less shy/passive as well. :)

Plus it's very low-risk - the chances of him saying no are low, because normal gym etiquette says you help someone who asks for help unless you're really in the zone or in a rush.

How he responds to that might also give you a hint as to how he feels about you.

[Asker]

Thanks 😊, good idea, just don't want to put him on the spot. I just can't tell if he likes me or not lol. But I'll ask him if I can muster the courage lol

[AnonAndrew]

You are welcome. :)

It's nice of you to consider how he might feel about the whole thing. I wish you the best of luck! :)

[NicholasRedone]

Genuinely asking and please not judging : how come your interest (or if I may, lust even) hasn't faded after such a number of months? What happens if it continues to stretch on or just fades? Curious 🤔🤨

[NicholasRedone]

♀️ or asker comes across a hotter man or even picks poorly - you never know lady 🤣😇

[NicholasRedone]

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[Asker]

Right, but it hasn't I still really like him, I think it's bc he's my exact type I don't know.

[NicholasRedone]

Hmm what if it keeps continuing on, just one just move on to the next eye candy or do you always linger ever so small "What could've been" even if this stretched years ahead "I remember when I had a crush" she says lol 😹😆

[Nikki1989]

Don't set your standards that low.

[Asker]

Thanks, I try not to. I just assumed he was shy to considering were at the gym lol

[AnonAndrew]

@Nikki1989
Well, she said he's a handsome guy, and he seems nice enough. Obviously works out regularly too. Just a bit shy or passive. :)

[Anonymous]

well this is a very interesting question

[In_Trance]

Don't