For me it's not an issue as long as it doesn't turn into some kind of weird ass test where the frequency of me texting is some how a way to gauge my interest in that person. I can get busy and when I'm doing something it gets 100 percent of my attention until it's done. It's not easy for me to switch gears and do something else. I'm a lose track of time work through lunch guy. It's something would like to work on but I guess the plus side is it has it's advantages because it also means I'll also lose track of time and do whatever needs to be done to ensure the woman I'm with gets 100 percent of my focus making sure all her needs are met as well.
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I've come to think of it as the opposite. If a guy initiates texts, or any conversation, that indicates she's disinterested in him/he's too clinging and that's a red flag.
This is one of many trends which seem illogical in modern dating, but tend to precede the collapse of a union: Attentiveness. When a man reaches out to his partner too often, it signals to her that he's more needy than her. Few women want a man who appears so insecure in his ability to self-manage.
Based on this assessment, I'd wager any apprehensions to reaching out are based in the same ideology. If he has to keep chasing you in an established relationship, it will degrade your perception of him as a man, and he'll register this as you're becoming bored or distant.
It sucks when the guy I’m dating doesn’t text me, I so miss it. We texted ever other day for 2 weeks now he has slowed down on the texting and I had got so use to the constant cute texts. I guess that was to win me over lol. He text about 2x a week now or I’ll text him.
If you don't show any interest soon, then he eventually will find someone else who does.
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It strongly depends on her reactions if she was receptive and we have an on going conversation even if it was always me starting the conversation.
But if I feel like it´s uncomfortable or boring to her than because she answers in only few words or mostly emojis I stop.
So it depends on the flow of the conversation to me.I have yet to meet a single man in my entire life who isn't sick and tired of woman only replying and them always having to carry the conversation. Its even worse with online dating. Most woman won't give more than a one word reply sometimes days at a time between it actually pisses a lot of us off and those who aren't pissed are stressed out over it
I'll initiate and do it a few times. If I feel like I'm the ONLY doing it I'll just stop texting her altogether. I'm not in the relationship alone. If you make me feel that way. I'll just decide to be alone. It's that simple I don't play these power games. 🙂
Most certainly. It makes us feel like we’re doing the heavy lifting and it makes us feel like you don’t care much for our conversations. We need to feel like you enjoy talking with us, it creates a synergistic relationship that way. Otherwise we feel like you don’t really enjoy our company.
Yes. If he is the only one initiating the texts he'll think you don't want to talk to him and that he is unwanted. Usually we will stop initiating the conversations and if we don't get a message from the person we're talking to then it shows they aren't as eager as they are.
It doesn't matter who does what involving texting. Guys get bored VERY easily if there is too much texting. Girls can't/won't understand this for some reason.
Yeah.
I did an experiment to a few different girls.
Just not write for once and see if they show up themselves.
1 day has passed, then it was 2 days, 5 days, 1 month...
Never happened.
Therefore I stopped watering dead plants. If they miss me, I will know.I mean it's perfectly okay to start the chats. Just be careful to be clear what is a want and what is a need. As some guys are willing to drop anything for a girl they are actually in love with.
ABSOLUTELY!!! Guys find this most annoying about women you think they will only reply to a text and never be the ones to text first or just say good morning or good night.
Oh gawd I hate texting. I am always getting told off by everyone I know, "look at yer damn phone"
I can't be arsed though.
Best way is to meet up in person more!i won't get tired of her, but i do get tired of needing to remember to send a text. it's not in my nature. my nature is to dissapear from the face of the earth and emerge 4 days later.
Yes, if we are in a relationship then I should see the effort in both initiating the texts and quantity and quality of replies. I want to feel appreciated.
When texts end like this followed by nothing, yes
"Thanks"
"Same"
"You too"
"Que buena"
"OK"I just keep things face to face, really filters those that aren't really interested in pursuing a relationship out.
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Try thinking of it like this: how would you feel about a so called friend you had who never initiated any conversation with you?I totally don't mind at all as long as she responds. But if she ever leaves me on read then that's a point against her. After 3 to 5 strikes, she's out; I'm not bothering with her anymore.
Omfg yes. But for je it's dm ING women in interested in on dating sites. They are so boring, I'm always initiating the conversation. Rarely they do. So annoying, talk back
Feels like I'm interviewing them.Yes... he's probably only doing it for sex, since you have no interest in showing kindness
yeah most likely since he’ll start to feel like he’s putting most of the effort and feel like he’s the only reason y’all talk
I think it’s better if both people try to take part in the relationship however that manifests itself. So if he’s initiating texts and she’s initiating in other ways it evens out
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