Do guys get tired of initiating texts with their girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

If he's the one who mostly initiates will he get tired of his girlfriend?

[virtue2332]

For me it's not an issue as long as it doesn't turn into some kind of weird ass test where the frequency of me texting is some how a way to gauge my interest in that person. I can get busy and when I'm doing something it gets 100 percent of my attention until it's done. It's not easy for me to switch gears and do something else. I'm a lose track of time work through lunch guy. It's something would like to work on but I guess the plus side is it has it's advantages because it also means I'll also lose track of time and do whatever needs to be done to ensure the woman I'm with gets 100 percent of my focus making sure all her needs are met as well.

[TwinTonyz]

I've come to think of it as the opposite. If a guy initiates texts, or any conversation, that indicates she's disinterested in him/he's too clinging and that's a red flag.

This is one of many trends which seem illogical in modern dating, but tend to precede the collapse of a union: Attentiveness. When a man reaches out to his partner too often, it signals to her that he's more needy than her. Few women want a man who appears so insecure in his ability to self-manage.

Based on this assessment, I'd wager any apprehensions to reaching out are based in the same ideology. If he has to keep chasing you in an established relationship, it will degrade your perception of him as a man, and he'll register this as you're becoming bored or distant.

[TwinkleLily5]

It sucks when the guy I’m dating doesn’t text me, I so miss it. We texted ever other day for 2 weeks now he has slowed down on the texting and I had got so use to the constant cute texts. I guess that was to win me over lol. He text about 2x a week now or I’ll text him.

[Asker]

Twice a week? He's your boyfriend?

[Vegasrunner]

Sounds like he's doing something right

[TwinkleLily5]

No we are casually dating..
@Vegasrunner haha he does only what I allow and I’m cool with it 😎 not everyone crabs a committed relationship fyi

[TwinkleLily5]

*craves

[TwinkleLily5]

@asker I’m sure men get tired of texting first all the time, just to answer your question. Because he seems excited when I text him although and replies back asap

[TwinkleLily5]

*Typo

[Vegasrunner]

@TwinkleLily5 Men should always be casually dating that the advantage of being a man. You allow him not to text you what does that mean?

[TwinkleLily5]

@Vegasrunner Don’t misconstrue what I said. He can only do what I allow him to do to me, with that being said I hope you get the point.

[Vegasrunner]

@TwinkleLily5 Sounds like he's just doing what he wants you're the one posting about how it sucks when he doesn't text you. Sounds like he's doing everything right guys shouldn't be reaching out to women, women should be the ones doing the chasing since they need validation from relationships more. He's pulled back and now here you are.

[TwinkleLily5]

@Vegasrunner I’m not complaining about him not texting I said it sucks when he doesn’t text me, I have a happy and productive life it’s not like I’m waiting around on his text and if he’s pulled back it doesn’t mean nothing to me because single and mingling lol it’s his loss if he lose me, and he knows that that’s why he comes back.

[TwinkleLily5]

* I am..

[Vegasrunner]

@TwinkleLily5 Tell yourself what ever makes you feel better, but that literally the definition of a complaint. Why would it be his loss if he lost you? There's billions of women in the world he could just get another one.

[TwinkleLily5]

@vegasrunner yeah but there’s only one Me lol

[Vegasrunner]

@TwinkleLily5 I'm asking why would he care or anyone care for that matter? Are you the only woman he's able to get?

[TwinkleLily5]

@Vegasrunner obviously he cares lol he still wants me. And no He’s a good looking man and has no problem getting women. I’m his ex that he don’t want to go of. I think I must be doing something right for him. We’re just trying to relate since he keeps coming back. Are you in relationship or single?

[TwinkleLily5]

*redate

[Vegasrunner]

@TwinkleLily5 Good looks isn't enough for a man to get women. He also needs to have an abundance mentality. If he's still worrying about you the most likely he doesn't have any other option. Yes I'm in approximately 4 1/2 "relationships"

[TwinkleLily5]

@Vegasrunner I know he has no problem getting women he has a good status as a man. He comes back to me because he said he had fell in love with me in the past and he wish we can work it out. And your in a 4.5 yr relationship so you probably are a little rusty in the dating game unless you cheat.

[Vegasrunner]

@TwinkleLily5 I said I'm in 4 1/2 relationships not a 4yr relationship. So currently I'm actively learning about relationships at a 4x rate then you are since you are currently in none.

[TwinkleLily5]

@Vegasrunner 4.5 is 4 1/2 🙄🤣. Hey my situation works for me rn and when it doesn’t on to the next.. you should be married by now stop wasting that lady’s time.

[Vegasrunner]

@TwinkleLily5 Ahh I see where you're confused. I was currently in 4 and a half different relationships. As of Saturday I'm in 5 1/2. So what "lady" are you referring to?

[Desconhecida]

If you don't show any interest soon, then he eventually will find someone else who does.

[Lionman95]

It strongly depends on her reactions if she was receptive and we have an on going conversation even if it was always me starting the conversation.
But if I feel like it´s uncomfortable or boring to her than because she answers in only few words or mostly emojis I stop.
So it depends on the flow of the conversation to me.

[Cormac995]

I have yet to meet a single man in my entire life who isn't sick and tired of woman only replying and them always having to carry the conversation. Its even worse with online dating. Most woman won't give more than a one word reply sometimes days at a time between it actually pisses a lot of us off and those who aren't pissed are stressed out over it

[ChiTown33]

I'll initiate and do it a few times. If I feel like I'm the ONLY doing it I'll just stop texting her altogether. I'm not in the relationship alone. If you make me feel that way. I'll just decide to be alone. It's that simple I don't play these power games. 🙂

[BHooper]

Yes. If he is the only one initiating the texts he'll think you don't want to talk to him and that he is unwanted. Usually we will stop initiating the conversations and if we don't get a message from the person we're talking to then it shows they aren't as eager as they are.

[LiamS345]

Most certainly. It makes us feel like we’re doing the heavy lifting and it makes us feel like you don’t care much for our conversations. We need to feel like you enjoy talking with us, it creates a synergistic relationship that way. Otherwise we feel like you don’t really enjoy our company.

[spartan55]

It doesn't matter who does what involving texting. Guys get bored VERY easily if there is too much texting. Girls can't/won't understand this for some reason.

[Anonymous]

Yeah.
I did an experiment to a few different girls.
Just not write for once and see if they show up themselves.
1 day has passed, then it was 2 days, 5 days, 1 month...
Never happened.
Therefore I stopped watering dead plants. If they miss me, I will know.

[Pyrofox]

I mean it's perfectly okay to start the chats. Just be careful to be clear what is a want and what is a need. As some guys are willing to drop anything for a girl they are actually in love with.

[DaveJord]

ABSOLUTELY!!! Guys find this most annoying about women you think they will only reply to a text and never be the ones to text first or just say good morning or good night.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Oh gawd I hate texting. I am always getting told off by everyone I know, "look at yer damn phone"
I can't be arsed though.
Best way is to meet up in person more!

[noamazia]

i won't get tired of her, but i do get tired of needing to remember to send a text. it's not in my nature. my nature is to dissapear from the face of the earth and emerge 4 days later.

[Kaamraj]

Yes, if we are in a relationship then I should see the effort in both initiating the texts and quantity and quality of replies. I want to feel appreciated.

[Wester1967]

When texts end like this followed by nothing, yes

"Thanks"
"Same"
"You too"
"Que buena"
"OK"

[DeepPassionateLover]

I just keep things face to face, really filters those that aren't really interested in pursuing a relationship out.

[Dragonstarterplus]

...

Try thinking of it like this: how would you feel about a so called friend you had who never initiated any conversation with you?

[Jamie05rhs]

I totally don't mind at all as long as she responds. But if she ever leaves me on read then that's a point against her. After 3 to 5 strikes, she's out; I'm not bothering with her anymore.

[Satyromaniac]

I use the same formula

[Paul09]

Omfg yes. But for je it's dm ING women in interested in on dating sites. They are so boring, I'm always initiating the conversation. Rarely they do. So annoying, talk back
Feels like I'm interviewing them.

[Realbanger87]

Yes... he's probably only doing it for sex, since you have no interest in showing kindness

[YoitsEl_Baby]

yeah most likely since he’ll start to feel like he’s putting most of the effort and feel like he’s the only reason y’all talk

[Jay3344]

I think it’s better if both people try to take part in the relationship however that manifests itself. So if he’s initiating texts and she’s initiating in other ways it evens out

[TheSpaceGnome]

Why would you not be texting him just as much? I don't even have this problem with friends.

[Juxtapose]

"I don't even have this problem with friends." Illuminates this issue very well.

My friends don't play mind games with me, why should a deeper relationship involve something I hate and detest? I can't fucking stand mind games.

[TheSpaceGnome]

@Juxtapose agreed

[Passion_Devil]

I think that if the ither person never initiates, it would send mixed signals.

[ElvenMr]

Yes, i would. I would like her to text me a lot. In return i would text her a lot too.
Text whenever we can, it shows that we are interested in each other.

[Jaykrisss]

Absolutely it feels like your SO is not into you or something. If you meet your SO regularly then if might be not a big issue but in long distance relations it could be demoralising

[innerman]

Relationships should be push and pull... if am the only one doing all the work, I’ll eventually feel like am forcing something and I’ll gradually loose interest

[Icybread]

I don't think he'd get tired but if it were me I'd sure feel lazy and wouldn't text much

[Juxtapose]

If you can't text me as well as my friends can then why would I even be with you?

[Ratpack60]

Yes I do get tired. I feel like I’m being tested. When this happens I walk.

[FoArm03]

It's will get tired with initiating a conversation with any girl. We do get exhausted by it. It making me annoyed.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Being entitled and expecting to not put any work in wears on our nerves.

Why should we put in all the effort?

[Zygum]

Yes, when boy is tired and have some stress, he avoid inciating sex

[Jltakk]

I get tired of initiating texts with friends let alone someone I like.

[Anonymous]

Yes, but I am autistic. So it might be different for neurotypical guys.

[Honesttguy]

Yes it definetly boring

[jahaims]

Any one sides relationship is tiresome

[jahaims]

Sided*

[Anonymous]

Reverse it, would you? That.

[CuriousMufuxka]

Quite the opposite for me.

[IsoUser]

For me personally it's annoying at times

[he-takes-a-part]

Im mostly about face to face convo

[spartan55]

Ding ding... this guy gets it.

[Cowboy6666]

Yes I expect girls to initiate texts too :)

[Anonymous]

yeah he'll get tired of it after a while

[Anonymous]

I never did it by the way

[TallAnon]

Yes, we do

[Satyromaniac]

I agree 👍

[Waldoe]

yes we do

[Tstrbrainer]

Don't text

[ACR130]

Absolutely