Why do people place all the blame on incels?

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You can say it's their personality, they hate women, etc, until you're blue in the face. But that never stopped really good looking guys or women from getting laid. Also let's be honest, you'd be super frustrated and it'd effect your mental health too if you weren't getting sex and kept getting rejected. It just seems fucked up to bully and push these people. Many end up shooting up schools or committing suicide. But it's somehow justified to attack them and have them end themselves because they're frustrated that they can't get laid?

skytatoe · Accepted Answer

If society is rejecting you, maybe you're doing something wrong.
I'm not a fan of bullying, I think only a lowly piece of shit gangs up to prey on weaker or more vulnerable people. But if it does happen, it's also an opportunity for self reflection.

'Why me?' yeah, actually. Why you? That's the perfect time to do some self reflection and accouting on yourself. What are you doing wrong? What image are you projecting? How are you coming across? etc... It's an opportunity for tremendous growth if you make it into that, or for a pure mental breakdown if you don't have the strength.

Bullying is tough. Usually what happens when you're mistreated by everyone around you, when all that you experience from the world is aggression, viciousness, pain (physical and/or emotional), rejection, humiliation, manipulation and betrayal, over time, that will shift your world view. Over time, that will become the norm. That's how human interactions are to you. People aren't nice to each other, or if they are it's fake. People aren't kind, they're selfish out to get what they want and need. People prey on the weak. Etc... Once that becomes 'normal' to you, you're fucked. You don't live in the same world as normal people, because all you experience is that unrelenting negativity, and after a while you will become exactly like the people who dish out the bullying. But worse because you don't anything to balance out the negativity. You'll be aggressive, vicious, callous, uncaring, selfish, unempathetic, manipulative etc... you name it.
It takes a lot of strength and a lot of willpower to get past something like that, to rewire your world view, to work on yourself instead of getting caught in spite or tit for tat hate. It's not easy. So, if you add to that mental health issues, which makes it basically impossible for them to recover, and easy access to guns and you have a perfect recipe for a school shooting. Also worth noting, is usually these are committed by teenagers, whose brains are still in development. Depending on their mental development that capacity for self reflection might even be quite limited.

These aren't just basic 'piece of shit' human beings. They're crazy. Their world view has been so distorted that to them killing random people is the best course of action (can you imagine how warped your logic has to be to get to that?). And their excuses seem reasonable to them. Of course any sane person would disagree, but at this point they're no longer sane (if they ever were to begin with).

If anything, I think that just points to severe mental health care crisis that is just being ignored in america at the cost of many innocent lives.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Because they are whiners and we need to go back to teaching males to take it like a man and stop complaining. Men will always be creepy no matter they do, wanting sex, not having sex, having a toy vagina, it's all looked down upon. After all this time you think we'd be numb to it and accept being the expendable gender

We need to allow prostitution in more countries to shut them up. If incels and feminists still complain after that then ignore them and let them die out with natural selection. It's not our fault being born made us strong and good looking. What am I going to do, not try to bang every available young hot chick? Yea, not gonna happen especially when college is the one chance you are surrounded by them

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

To make fun of and bully someone is of course not ok, however that’s exactly what so many incels do. It’s like they dedicate their whole existens towards spreading hate against women calling them all sorts of derogatory things and making fun of them. That behavior is not ok just because it comes from an incel. They do this and then cry and play victim if someone mocks them back? Like no you’re not getting away with that. They’re acting extremely immature and pathetic, it’s not about them not getting laid it’s about how they handle it. The way they handle it and their mindset shows exactly way they’re not getting laid in the first place. And yeah, as you say some of these incels go out and murder innocent people, and for what? Some sort of revenge over women he finds attractive not allowing him to put his dick inside them because he wants to? If you don’t understand how messed up and insanely sick that is then you are part of the problem. These are mentally unstable murderers and no, they deserve no pity. ”Stacy didn’t let me fuck her so now I’m going to go out and shoot them all” buhu cry me a river. These people belong in an asylum. They need serious professional help and are a danger to others as well as themselves. And no, being upset or frustrated that you aren’t having sex is absolutely zero excuse at all and it’s also not normal to let it get to you that way, and that’s because these people aren’t normal to begin with because they have mental issues already not at all related to the sex thing (and by the way no, I would not be at all frustrated without sex. I’ve not had sex in years and I don’t even think about it) and that’s why they don’t belong out on the streets. They’re ticking time bombs, who knows when they’ll explode and decide to murder people for some sort of pathetic perceived injustice. You have no right to sex and nobody owes you shit. Try harder (a lot of these incels don’t even try to approach women) and be better or be without. Simple.

Msputiton · Accepted Answer

It is so easy to push the blame off on someone else instead of taking responsibility for someone's own actions.

Incels may not deserve full blame.

But the vial hate they spew because they do not want to accept any fault in them being single, or unable to have sex is the problem.

The good looking men with bad attitudes don't get laid dispite bad attitudes they are fake and pretend to be nice and usually have perfected this fake persona.

Incels running around saying i hate women, and bash them nonstop, and then are shocked they can't get a woman, and say it's not my fault it's women fault.

Women are not perfect and we have flaws but if you can't do something billions of people do everyday, maybe start looking in the mirror and saying what am I doing wrong?

MCheetah · Answer

Because 1) people suck, 2) society always likes to sh*t on men and people who they deem "losers", 3) the far-left woke feminists are the ones controlling the media narrative right now (or at least, that's the perception), and 4) they're an easy target when you can lump them all as being "school shooters" like Eliot Rodger and potential rapists.

Yeah I know they had that /r/incel subreddit a while back, but come on... It's REDDIT! Everyone on that entire site should be monitored by the FBI. That's like saying "there are rude people on Twitter."

I'm not one, but I understand what they're going through. To be given sh*t no matter how hard you try, and then when you give up, people give you MORE sh*t? Ironically, it's usually the same people who always talk about "bullying being bad" who immediately calls someone who disagrees with their idiotic, usually feminist viewpoints on the internet "an incel." It's such projection.

Speaking of which, feminists and incels are the EXACT same type of people, and yet feminists are celebrated and get to host The Oscars, while incels get to kill themselves while no one cares and women sit around going "good; he was a misogynist anyway" while they were the ones bullying him online and calling him names to begin with.

TL;DR: People are sh*tty. Sh*tty people create more sh*tty people. That's how incels are created.

Anonymous · Answer

Guys do it because men are gladiatorial. And in nature the animal that APPEARS weak will always get attacked.
Women do it because there are 2 types of guys to them "friends" (harmless trusting simps.. you might as well be one of their girlfriend's) and and "sharks" the guys the both love and hate at the same time. They're sweet but mean, attractive yet arrogant, tough and rugged yet soft and attentive, aloof, distant and mysterious. Most the time women see what they want to see in them and then they're left their smashed feelings when they finally come back to reality lol.
But the former group of guy the " friends" you have to understand they don't really see as men. These guys don't fulfill her desires in anyway. They'll never this guy as anything but a friend. And when these guys complain about it. You become one of their "girlfriend's" who b****ing too much. S h e may pity you for a bit. But like anyone who complains to much you just become a girlfriend that's a pain. And then she just has disdain for you. So basically an incel is just a guy that a woman has no respect for as a man.
If you take away anything from this post remember this. There are good women and bad women and how they treat a guy is different. But neither have any respect for a guy that doesn't respect himself. Incel or not, NEVER let a woman decide your value. A man just IS! Treat women right! Treat them well. But do it BECAUSE you're a man. And no other reason.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Because they deserve it. When they stop ranting and raging at people who have done nothing. When they stop murdering defenceless children, a 3 yr old with a life ahead of them.

slatyb · Answer

The problem is not that they are frustrated, it's that they blame the world for their problems instead of trying to do something to improve their attractiveness. There are plenty of men who are short, or bald, or not conventionally attractive, who have lovely partners. I had a colleague, about 5-5 and prematurely bald, arrived in town about 180 pounds. He got into climbing, got fit, met a woman on Coffee Meets Bagel and they've been together since.

Watch "Murderball". There are guys in wheelchairs with beautiful girlfriends. If the incels would stop whining and do something, they wouldn't be incels.

HighlyVolatile · Answer

It's a self-fulfilling and self-defeating prophecy as I see it for a man to call himself an incel while wanting to get laid. How clueless is he about socializing with women? They can call themselves voluntary celibate like some monks if that's what they want. Calling themselves involuntary celibates just seems dumb. What are they expecting, for women to sleep with them out of pity? Why do these people focus so much on the idea that looks are needed to get laid when they're broadcasting the most anti-social and unappealing message that almost guarantees that they'll never get laid?

Lionman95 · Answer

Because they make the mistake of putting sex on a pedestral that´s not there. We live in an over-sexualized culture but sex in itself isn´t the main thing in life. These guys and I´ve been one myself have the problem that they are too focused on sex thinking they are entitled to getting it just because they are a guy. But that´s not how life works.
Another thing is that at least those I were contact with never had any interest of being in a relationship or had any ideas that it would actually be harder than they imagined to be.
Many of them also don´t love themselves, so who is going to love you if you hate yourself?
I think it´s wrong to throw dirt on them but it´s still important to really talk to them because many have bad misconceptions about relationships and sex and are simply not ready for either.

DaveJord · Answer

An incel is a member of an online subculture of people who define themselves as unable to get a romantic or sexual partner despite desiring one.

Well if you define yourself as some one who is unable to get romantic... then who else are you supposed to blame for not being able to invest in a romantic relationship?

So it depends on what type of relationships you are pursuing and if you being honest about your intimacy issues with your partners before engaging in a sexual relationship.

DownIndaDumpz · Answer

It's one thing to be rejected and it's another to take it out on innocent people, I've been rejected by girls my whole life and I'm still a virgin, I've been very sad about it, but I know it's because I'm doing something wrong so I have no one else to blame but myself.. to take it out on innocent people who done nothing wrong my own mistake is jus dumb,
Being rejected doesn't make you kill people,

These incel killers jus don't have the maturity to own up for their own mistakes and blame others

SnakeBoop · Answer

because they turn that frustration into toxic mindsets and go and shoot up schools for no reason.
lack of sex means fuck all, and if they can't handle it, they shouldn't be around. Because to get so incensed over that is fucking stupid.

IMuser · Answer

So your fundamental assumption is that a lack of love and sex is what frustrates you and turns you into someone who commits murders

My question to you: why should you be loved and why would a girl (or a guy if you are gay) have sex with you?

genericname85 · Answer

i think "incel" is a bullshit word to begin with. "involuntarily celibate". everyone can get fucked if they "want". "wanting" meaning doing what's necessary to get laid. that most likely includes lowering your expectations. if you don't do that, you don't get laid. but then you're voluntarily celibate, cause you choose not to do what's necessary.

Hedera · Answer

OP, have you tried rubbing one out and then focusing on something to do with your life other than sex or a relationship? People aren't obligated to give you sex and you shouldn't be upset when they don't. That's what fleshlights are for.

Zolly99999 · Answer

They have mental health issues for sure. It's like sitting on the couch all day and bitching about not being rich then not even bother to look for a job..
You know if people put a little effort into themselves they would be more successful! I know this first hand... I"m not attractive at all (4/10) but I have no problem attracting women.. I put a little work into myself and worked on my self confidence and personality and that's was the key for me.. do I can do it anyone can do it !!!

Anonymous · Answer

For the same reason people blame feminists. They words and actions show their hatred for the opposite sex.

Anonymous · Answer

It’s a joker situation this is yet again a monster that society created I have no pity for any of the victims either

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