I'm 23 and a 2nd year university student while also working a part-time job and I also do some student services work voluntarily on campus. I made friends with a much older guy about 18 months ago who is currently in his last year of his uni degree. He's 31 so 8 years older than me, and he works full-time but also makes time to do some student services work, which I do too which is how we met. He is single, no kids, had a relationship with a woman for 6 years that ended about two years ago and has his own place. He's kind and funny, charming, popular, has a harmless affectionate nature and I've really started to like him. We've been friends for over a year now and see each other on the regular and some uni friends of ours and us would do dinner or lunch, drinks or see the odd movie together but that's about it outside uni. I tend to secretly crush on affectionate older men a lot but never dated one. In my previous job I had for 4 years I had secret crushes on some older guy bosses I had. No one knew tho. Never acted on them. Seems I have a thing for older men. I don't know if it's an authority thing and some kink? I secretly like having an older guy care about me and act nurturing and affectionate. I have started to really like this uni friend over the last couple months but try not to make it too obvious. I keep up with my hobbies, my degree, my paid job and my volunteer work but I always really, really look forward to seeing him and shamelessly admit I put extra effort in to my hair and makeup some days. Once or twice a month we'll get a meal and a drink on campus or in the city together and I always feel so heard and well understood by him rather than guys my own age. I have dated a couple guys and I've had a previous relationship that lasted a couple years but all around my own age, but older guys seem different. Is this odd? I'm very cautious and aware of myself.
Why Do I Feel Attracted By Older Men?
