I am an age 23 year old woman with a learning disability. That I will stay near my area of liverpool and manchester. I didn't always struggle that much when I was in college and now I have started to notice that I don't seem to get attracted to guys that I first started talking to a guy about. Yep I even tried to find guys in real life and so far some of them are already taken. Guys have to have a learning disabilities. Yep I even tried joining groups to pep people with learning disabilities and haven't any interested in or being attracted to guys. Yep I tried online dating. Both disabled dating sites. Zero luck. I am doing anything wrong. I am looking for trustworthy , faithful , respectful, kind and know from right to wrong. Be respectful, kinda. That's what i look like.
What can I do struggling with finding a guy that is the right fit for a relationship material?
Why do you say the guy has to have a learning disability?
It's hard to find someone who loves you for you but it's even harder if you limit yourself to a small number of people.
We all have different skills. Maybe you will find someone you have a lot in common with, maybe you will find someone who has different strengths and weaknesses. Both are equally good.
Don't think you are less because you are different. I'm really smart but I suck at a lot of things. Sometimes I make things too complicated and don't see the obvious answer. Sometimes I think too hard and don't just enjoy the moment. Having a learning disability doesn't mean you have less to offer.
The best way to find someone who is right for you is to try to meet people by doing things you enjoy instead of by going out to look for a date. Most people at bars and on dating apps are only looking for sex and will try to take advantage of anyone.
But if you have a hobby, or something you like to do, and you can find a group to join, you will have fun either way and meet people you already have something in common with.
Don't listen to the guy who said to cut your hair and wear makeup. That's how you get someone who likes your hair and makeup, not someone who is right for you.
You are cute. That isn't the problem.
You have to try to meet people you have something in common with and then go from there.
I have a hard time because most girls don't like motorcycles and video games, so I'm trying to find thinks I like that girls like too.
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My hobbies are video gaming , golf , walking , and guys at golf already married. Walking. Only with my mum and my dog. So why hobbies if k can't find single guy. Yep o even tried youth club and has not found any single yet. I am not sure about it. I just think hobbies I am not going find a guy that that is single and looking for relationships i have to date men with a learning disabilities because my mum made a rules.
Mom's always want to protect us. Mine didn't want me to date anyone. 🙄
They mean well, but at a certain point we all grow up and get to make our own decisions.
She is trying to make sure no one takes advantage of her, but having a learning disability doesn't automatically make someone a good person and not having one doesn't make someone a bad person.
Guys love video games. It's also a very safe way to meet people, get to know them, talk to them, and see how they act without ever being in the same room as them.
Find some games you like where people use voice chat. Some people are assholes, but some people are nice. Especially to girls, guys will be fighting to be on your team.
Find the ones who have your back and get to know them a bit!
What kind of guy would you say is the right fit for a relationship?
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I am not looking for marriage any time soon. I am not looking for men that just want to play the field. I am not looking for stupid men. Not looking for cheaters. They have to have intelligent , respectful, good and knows from right to wrong.
You look beautiful and you have the right to find happiness and love. You aren't doing anything wrong at all, love is a battlefield. Can I ask why do you search only for guys with learning disabilities? If he is honest, caring, nice and all he won't stop at your disability. Plus even with your issues you have more scholar achievements than most of the population. I'm sure you will find happiness 😊
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Is my mum that a made it a rule. To only date men with a learning disability. because of very bad men
Ok I can understand that. But have you talked about finding a boyfriend with your mom? What does she think about it? And if she is afraid of the bad men maybe you can look together? Like a fun activity with your mom?
She always judges men very quickly each time i throught they had a learning disabilities and will sometimes get into argue. About about that I am not all men. Just some bad men. That will be used and look for women to take advantage of them.
Oh honey no! Not all men are like that! But don't argue with your mom about that, you seem mature and calm maybe you can have a serious conversation with her? About what you feel, what you search and that maybe you feel she judge too quickly and protects you a bit much? Not that it's bad at all, it show that she loves you very much and want all of the best for you. But you can talk to her? You are a grown woman
My mum always judges men and argues about talking about bad things like always. R word comes. My mum doesn't seem to listen to what I want. I don't argue. My mum does only me. I ask my younger sister is my mum always like to you and my younger sister said no.
Can I ask you a question? Did you get bullied at school or had troubles with other people because of your disability? Maybe she is very afraid for you. Have you asked to talk to a professional? Someone neutral between you and your mom without any bad words and arguments. It could be a good thing
Not from boys. Some girls did bullying from high school and then college. Both are special learning disabilities school and college. Is was more younger women in college did bully and cyberbully. Some Younger women to gain my trust to temp guys that I did have a relationship when I was in college.
I get it. Yes girls are sometimes very mean and I was bullied to, even Lady Gaga was bullied. But I mustn't stop you from finding happiness. Like I've told you before maybe you can find a family counselor? Or even your grandparents? I'm sure you mom doesn't mean no harm to you. She is just afraid for you. And I understand perfectly
You didn't say anything about Family counselor. Been through threapies. Doctors and the mental health team. None help. My granny is much better listening then my mum will ever be.
I have seen therapist and yes often they don't help. But if your granny is helpful you can talk to her about dating! Maybe she will be a good help 😊
I don't know what to say I'm terribly sorry, I don't want to put you in trouble with your mom. But I'm sure you will find a good guy because you deserve it 😊
Maybe try looking in church. I’d hope someone in there has the qualities you mentioned.
You’re super cute by the way and I’m sure you’ll find the right guy for you one day, and hopefully soon. Best of luck in your search.
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I can't meet guys at church since they going to be mainstream men. I am not a allowing to date mainstream men. Is have to be a learning disability or I never date again.
Are you sure there’s none there with a learning disability?
Why must he have a learning disability? What if he was just willing to accept someone with a learning disability and understood them?
I myself have a learning disability. I go to church regularly. I’m also married to someone who doesn’t have a learning disability. My step son also has a learning disability.
I just said I am not allow to go alone with my self. Church there going to be more crazy and abuse. None of guys go to church have a learning disability. Yes I did ask guys.
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