What should I do if I think that my ldr boyfriend is cheating on me, but I have no proof?

[Anonymous]

Long story short, he's been showing quite a few signs and deep down I'm almost sure he is, but have no proof of that. He's coming to see me next week and I don't want to ruin things before, but either can't act like I believe everything he says. I'm having a conflict with myself. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

If you’re feeling this way honey then communicate it to him. What you’re doing is sweeping your feelings aside because you don’t want to ruin his visit or cause an issue, but that logic is one of the prime reasons LDRs fail. Because moments like that are so precious, often times real issues don’t get addressed because someone fears messing things up, but part of a relationship, LDR or not, is the ability to be open about your problems. Also not to treat your emotions and concerns as burdens out of fear that he will leave or something, because that is stressful and unrealistic. One thing to truly consider with this relationship is the longevity it can have, bc LDR is absolutely meant to be temporary, with an intention to move closer, move in together, or something with an actual time frame on it and not just you two fantastizing. When there’s no silver lining it makes this arrangement pointless. Someone will grow bored, or frustrated, or tired of no physical touch or interaction in general. The fantasy can quickly fall apart.

[Asker]

Yeah, I've tried to before and he says that's not the case. I'll see how he acts in person this time, and call it quits if something feels off. I know my gut feeling isn't lying to me.

[Opinion Owner]

I’m glad you have this thought process, because it’s hard to make these choices but you have to trust your gut and not sacrifice your peace of mind/mental health. Wishing you luck with whatever route you take🙏

[Asker]

Thank you so much!

[howhigh420]

what kind of things are happining to make you feel this way i have a lot that made me find out nd feel in my gut my ex was cheating

[Asker]

He's not jealous of me anymore (before he used to be), sometimes vague with his plans, takes much more longer to reply when I text him and always has an excuse for it.

[howhigh420]

yeah that exa tky what mibe started doing making excuses not to answer to my texts aswel has he done anything else quit suspisious i could probs help a good bit awl try my best anyway thats all i can to ma dear anything else you wish to say awl help hun

[howhigh420]

yeah my ex was doing that to and sayed he was places st his friends or cousing nd in the future i found out he was with the other girl he was with u can pm to speak private if u prefer if u dont want to let anything else out hun just howhigh420 and awl have a nice talk doll nd help as much as i can because i know its difficult I've been through it all a good few times and this one i just left was the worst lier ever

[howhigh420]

follow me and message me nd we can talk hun its ok

[howhigh420]

did u pm me

[Nahid1707]

What is the situation? You two aren’t talking much?

[Asker]

No, we're in contact a lot, but he's kinda vague with his plans and whereabouts, not jealous at all anymore (before he used to be) and lately he's been giving some lame excuses like (I fell asleep in the car or going to sleep (way earlier than usual)

[Nahid1707]

Oh I’m sorry