My boyfriend has been accusing me of cheating. Is this a sign that he’s cheating on me?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend has been accusing me of cheating on him he accused me of sleeping with my neighbor because he knocked on my door to use my charger he was locked out of his apartment and had to call his girlfriend our other neighbors do not speak English and I also told him I wanted to go to the gym and get a trainer and he told me trainers only want to sleep with there clients and he can help me work out himself and if I go to the gym he would break up with me he just recently started saying these things I never Cheated on him Is this a sign that he's cheating on me?

[GlassTop]

Did your boyfriend go to a club/party/vacation by himself? Does he hide his phone or not let you see certain things? If yes to any of these things, then it’s possible he cheated. But he may just be insecure. He probably doesn’t like you disappearing or hanging out with other guys. Maybe he noticed you are distant or not texting/calling him like you used to. Personally I’d skip the personal trainer. It will make your boyfriend uncomfortable and they aren’t really useful except for motivation. That’s a lot of money you pay just for motivation when you can watch proper workout videos online and get motivated that way. I think personal trainers should be for people who REALLY need help. It doesn’t sound like your relationship is too bad to end it. Just assure your boyfriend you are not cheating. Give him some peace of mind by letting him know where you are or letting him look through your phone or something. If you aren’t cheating then you should have nothing to hide, and it will shut him up. If you aren’t willing to do those things then you might as well just end the relationship.

[Diodoro]

Not per se. But it is controlling behavior and it's possible he is cheating. That said, he's right a lot of personal trainers wanna fuck their clients. And your neighbor coming inside while he's out does look bad even if you're innocent.

He has to decide whether or not he can trust you in that moment because it looks bad. I wouldn't say him getting the idea you might be cheating if there was enough things happening that are questionable stacking up.

If my girl had our male neighbor over while I was not home. Even if I knew the guy. If we had no plans to all hangout I wouldn't like the looks of that. Especially if I heard it from third party neighbors not involved

[Diodoro]

Find it odd how many guys just say he's insecure. He might be. The being ardently against a personal trainer kind of is insecure. But he's also right in what he said.

Plus. Would any guy honestly be okay with a dude staying with your girl alone in your home while you're gone? I wouldn't unless it was her brother, gay friend, or something through and through non sexually threatening

[Tweetybirdii]

He is either really controlling which is extremely toxic.
Or he is definitely cheating on you. Cheaters are manipulator at core so he would try and make you feel that your everyday activities are somehow actually you actively engaging in cheating, because he knows what he does behind your back possibly when he is “running errands” or “at the gym”

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

That alone wouldn't necessarily mean he's cheating, but definitely controlling and insecure... Not good traits in a partner

[aWes0MeNeSs]

I would say it's a definite red flag, unfortunately. He's extremely insecure and obviously doesn't trust you at best, which is also a very bad sign for the health and longevity of a relationship.

[ohshee]

I have a somewhat of a friend no matter what comes out of his mouth is a lie and anytime that you talk to him about something he'll ask a question and he'll say I know you're lying

No why would you say that because everything comes out of his mouth is a lie so he thinks everybody else lies

I know a guy that was cheating and every night he would come home he would try to pick a fight with his wife and accuse her of cheating I threw a big temper tantrum out of control just stupid to take the focus off of him to put it on her so it would look like he would never cheat people are sick I swear to God LOL
I don't know your boyfriend so I don't know what he does but you do and for you to even ask this question makes me think that you know something that you don't know yet if that makes sense

[kmg9150]

he's giving ultimatum, he's struggling with his own insecurities therefore trying to take control so he feel better with his own lack of self respect and confidence. He lacks masculinity and therefore feels that you'll cheat or leave him when someone displays more than him. Relationships are built on trust and freedom, not control and conspiracy. Your choice if you think he's capable of seeing that within himself and wanting to change. Have to weigh out what you have invested and decide. My experience is that most people need to have those awakenings on their own or from someone their not intimate with...

[Moose304]

I get asked this question a lot. In fact, so much it surprises me. This is what I always tell the girl. Go get alone for several hours and try to think like him for a while. Are you putting out bad vibes? Some men are really good at sensing something is amiss. Then if you can't see anything ask a close friend if they are sensing anything. The point here is to do a self-analysis of yourself. Then after doing this have a sit-down soul-searching discussion with him. Cheaters do have a tendency to blame shift so be advised, this relationship has taken a direct hit. How this ends will be decided on if both of you can act like adults and find a resolution. If not, you two are done! Do you want to know just how easy it is to set off red flags? Just something as simple as losing weight. Getting more secretive. I'm just assuming you are NOT cheating. Just make sure before you attack him for blame-shifting.

[seannnooo]

Secretly it turns him on thinking about you being a dirty cum slut... His fantasy runs wild in his mind. He wants to prove it because not gets him rock hard. The only better thing than hearing about your dirty stories would be if he were there with you..

My advice start by putting and anklet on the appropriate ankle and go to a known swingers bar. Let random guy and girls hit on you. After you get hit on or felt up by random strangers grab his cock and give him a deep kiss. Reassure him your his FIRST and when you grab him you will know how turned on he is by his slutty hot wife.

[zoe1989]

From my past of being cheated on, I accuse my partner of cheating As I assume all men are the same and will cheat when someone better comes along. I don't cheat as it's hurtful so it's not always a case of projection of cheating.
I would say more people accuse as they have reason/suspicion of it as the partner is Acting differently whether daily life or in bed maybe a position they suddenly seem to favour or the way they touch you even x

[OpenMindblowing]

No, not at all. He is afraid losing you. Something came up in its head or someone gave him that feeling, you do have a little bit concern that he doesn’t loose himself upon it and getting paranoia within his thoughts. Cause once he screw it up with you, he has gotten on the point that stalker behavior could be facing. If you love him, make sure he knows it. For him it’s probably in the details. What always do good is for example when u talking with a other guy for a while just walk up upon your man and share him a kiss to show , your his and everyone may see. Good luck

[laurieluvsit]

No, it's a sign that he is extremely insecure and that you have a long term problem if you stay with him.

I would get out of this relationship before you have serious heartbreak... just saying

[Mofunfour20]

If he works out already it's a bit suspicious that you'd circumvent asking your boyfriend for training tips. Plus people that truly want to go to the gym work out at home and at the gym, that's if you really want to.

His accusations are coming off as desperation. I wouldn't worry if my girlfriend was cheating, if I got her I can always just get another one 🤷

[GlassTop]

Clearly you’ve never been cheated on. Even if you can get another one, the feeling of betrayal hurts.

[ManOnFire]

While cheaters often do accuse their partners of cheating because they're paranoid, in this particular situation it doesn't seem like he's a cheater. He could be like this because maybe he was cheated on in the past by another woman and is paranoid. You should ask him about it.

[Citizenkirk]

Does your boyfriend usually put you on trial for things he does? It could be a guilty conscience making him do this.
Call him on his 🐂💩 and demand too know why he suspects you of cheating. Backing down can be interpreted as a sign of guilt, so don't take that nonsense from him.

[petitedollbabee]

Usually when someone in the relationship starts accusing the other of cheating, it’s the person throwing the accusations that is cheating, and trying to hide it. I’ve learnt that from experience sadly.

[Asad1ONE1]

If that is true that is beyond evil. I hope it's rare.

[anton_dee]

Either you were stressed out when you wrote your question or your punctuations need a much needed upgrade session. 😁

So now coming to your point, he is not cheating, he is just jealous and insecure about you getting into a scenario where you might get someone else.

[AviatorTom]

He may or may not be cheating. My guess is that he's not, and is just insecure in your and his relationship.

[Anonymous]

it's a sign that he's a psycho and you need to dump him either way. no need to write all of that to figure that one out.

[Anonymous]

That’s sounds very possessive, insecure and controlling. I don’t think you should care whether he is cheating or not!

what you should decide is whether or not you want this control freak in your life.

[AvaOneLasTime]

Could be, yes. He is trying to distract the attention from himself that away. Unfortunately, that is how he BRINGS it and it will be his downfall.

[Miristheiss]

If either thinks the other cheated... then why are you two even together?
If he thinks you've cheated he should break up.

[Gwenhwyfar]

Could be but it could just be him getting paranoid. Either way he’s being overly controlling and you should consider breaking up with him.

[maverick2022]

I would say that people who accuse others of cheating without evidence is either because they themselves cheat or because they were cheated on in the past.