For the longest in our relationship my boyfriend has been accusing me of cheating and messing with other guys. I don't talk to other guys, barely go out and im really shy. We've only been together for 5 months and about to make 6. He's been like this before we got together, before he even heard my voice. Before he met me, he told my friend that I most likely have a "work husband" or flirting with guys I work with. As we were in the talking stage I did remember him telling me he didn't have a girlfriend because he didn't trust women. He calmed down when we finally got together but for the past two months he's been accusing me of sleeping with other men non stop and broke up with me multiple times. Several times in one month he accused me of cheating without evidence and dumped me. I can't meet up with him anywhere all dressed up because then he will accuse me of looking good for another man.
Last week he dumped me because something I said to him wasn't adding up. I talked to him, calmed him down and apologized and said he freaked out. Again, he calmed down, we talked it out... Three days past, neither of us text or call each other.. he calls and goes back insane to accusing me again as soon as I answer his phone call and tells me we need to break up because im driving him insane and doesn't trust me. Right now he's thinking about the decision and needs time. He has made the choice to break up but since I begged not to he wants to think about it. I really love him and it will be difficult to let him go when I invested so much into this relationship. What do I do?
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Sounds like never ending cycle of distrust and distress
It's important to prioritize your own well-being and emotional health in any relationship. It sounds like your boyfriend's constant accusations and lack of trust in you are causing you a lot of stress and emotional pain. It's not healthy or fair for him to constantly accuse you of cheating without any evidence, and it's not your job to constantly prove your faithfulness to him.
It's understandable that you love him and have invested a lot in the relationship, but it's important to consider whether this is a healthy and sustainable relationship for you. It's not fair for him to constantly accuse you and break up with you without cause, and it's not healthy for you to constantly be worried about whether he trusts you or not.
Ultimately, the decision to stay in the relationship or not is up to you, but it's important to consider your own well-being and whether this relationship is making you happy and healthy. If you do decide to stay in the relationship, it may be worth having an open and honest conversation with your boyfriend about his trust issues and how they are affecting you. It may also be worth seeking the help of a couples therapist or counselor to work through these issues together.
However, if you feel that this relationship is not healthy or sustainable for you, it may be best to end the relationship and prioritize your own well-being and emotional health. It can be difficult to let go of a relationship, but it's important to remember that you deserve to be with someone who trusts you and treats you with respect and kindness.