Less than 4 hours after we broke up, he messaged him ex. Counter argument: “well you broke up with me”. Am I bugging?

[Anonymous]

we’ve been together 1 and half years so far and we’re pretty serious. Except today we had a huge falling out over something completely different. I didn’t feel he heard me and valued what I was upset about. He felt hurt I went there and broke up with him. Both understandable. however… I find out that he messaged his ex within 6 hours, i confronted him when he was drunk, he told me he wanted to move on and said I’d find better (because when we fought I said mad people would love your place). He told me what the exchanged messages were but deleted them from him phone already. Now I’m at a standpoint because I understand he was hurt, I don’t know how you can message an ex…. Especially when we pretty serious with him talking about marriage and all that other shit. So what you think… should I stay or should I go.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Go.

He's not gonna get better. He's only gonna get worse.

I left my ex-fiancé of nearly 3 years because he lied to me about having his immigration taken care of, but I was already considering leaving because he was entertaining homophobic tirades from his QAnon best friend.

Despite me being a flamingly gay bisexual.

It was clear to me my ex didn't share my same values (LGBTQ rights and respect) or principles (don't stay silent when speaking up makes a difference).

Those kinds of people don't change without significant work, effort, time, or trauma.

Your ex is done with. Don't entertain him. Block him, move on, and find someone who will be able to tell you "sweetheart, I'm drunk as fuck right now, can we please talk about this when I'm sober so I can really give you the attention you deserve?".

I do this frequently not just with my partners in the past, but with my beloved friends today. If I'm not feeling in the right spot for a serious talk, I speak up as soon as I can.

Move on. Find yourself a good communicator.

[NZGirl07]

Him saying he wants to move on is clear, and messaging an ex a few hours later shows he has been thinking about her anyway. He's a red flag, move on.

[boggboss]

Because u needed it breaking up ain't some small thing if u where that serious in the first place u wouldn't have jumped the gun and ended ir impulsively like it or not he didn't do anything wrong but seek comfort from someone where u was now his ex