My boyfriend has sooo many trust issues its ruining our relationship, what should I do?

[Anonymous]

His ex girlfriend cheated on him and he is taking it all out on me. He first asked me to delete instagram… so i did. He then took some of my clothes and told me I shouldn’t wear them anymore; i agreed and i told him if my clothes make you uncomfortable i will dress however you want basically he hated my yoga pants and suggested i wear cargo/sweatpants. He also has commitment issues he breaks up with me every 2 weeks. He accuses me of all random things and is super suspicious of me. He asked me to stop talking to my male colleagues in university & work. Yesterday he asked to check my phone as he accused me of cheating tbh that was the red line. I broke up with him and he came back later to apologize & promised me to change and seek therapy. I told him i will only go back under certain conditions and we will WRITE RULES to enforce boundaries, some of the rules that i want to write are things like respect, no checking phones, asking and listening before jumping to conclusions etc do y’all have any ideas or smart rules or approaches to address this situation?

[Guy13]

Oh my, I am sorry to hear that as this sort of thing can be personally devastating. He's not ready for the degree of commitment that you desire. He needs about 1-1.6 years of alone time to get his mess together. Is he one of these control freaks that snoops through your phone without permission, wants you to call him when you are out, set your locator on your phone.

I am assuming there is already a disconnect with strong negative undercurrents inhibiting free and easy communication. It sounds like no boundaries or even an understanding of the needs and wants of each party.

At some point, one has to back out and give him/her time to grieve and process their past relationships instead of body hopping from rebound to rebound individuals. Good luck with him...

[DaveJord]

Break up with him, if his behavior is causing that level of distress then get of the relationship.

You can try to set boundaries and give him opportunities to change his behavior, but if that fails end the relationship.

[Anonymous]

Is it mandatory you must stay with him?
Why do you make life so hard.. just leave what the fuck don’t be stupid
Go find a stable men someone who can provide for you fully committed to you and who’s mentally capable of protecting you. Rather than than damaging you. Don’t waste your time

[Anonymous]

He's broken, and unfortunately I can relate. I've been cheated on by two girlfriends and it has definitely affected me.