I got catfished one time by a woman on a dating app. She had pictures which I realize now were pictures of her taken previously, it looked like she had an extra 5-15 years and possibly some hard drug use since the photos were taken. I don't remember if she misrepresented her age or not. The photos looked like she could be from19-25, the person who showed up was somewhere between 30-45.
Even the photos she had, I thought she was kind of cute but not really drop dead gorgeous or anything. We were both local and she was eager to meet so I thought why not get to know her and see if there's some chemistry. I met her for a drink and I didn't even recognize her when she approached me. There's no way I was interested, and was confused then and later what she thought would happen sending me a picture of herself clearly very different from who showed up.
Here's an image I found that gives a rough idea of the "before and after" that I dealt with.
I wasn't rude or anything. I chatted with her for a bit while I finished my beer and was pleasant, but then I said I had to go and left.
Yes, many years ago. My boss kept trying to set me up with his friends daughter. I kept saying no until one day my phone rings. He has giving her my number. I was 21 and never really rejected someone at that point (felt cornered and bad for her) so I reluctantly said yes to her invite to a music festival the following day. I hoped for the best but expected the worse. I was not attracted in the least and then whole date I asked her a simple question,"What type of music do you like?", etc. She'd answer then ask me the same question in response. I'd answer and she'd back track and change her answer to what I said. I couldn't wait for it to be over and mad at myself for agreeing to go to the festival. It got worse when I dropped her off and she wouldn't get out. She kept dragging it out with awkward small talk while positioning herself fir a kiss. She wouldn't take the hint of "So here is your place. Tell Ron (my boss) I said hi." or "I got some errands I should probably get to". It took about 7 our 8 minutes of me dropping hints for her to get them duck out without saying "get them duck out". Luckily she did and I wasn't forced to be an asshole. Unfortunately she thought the date went great and kept pestering my boss about why I never asked for a second date. In turn he pestered me for the next three months. Wish I could say I learned my lesson but I went on another blind date a few years later and its was about the same.
I fell in love with my sons dad over the phone not knowing what he looked like. After 3 months of talking for hours every night my dad drove me from northern California to southern California to meet him. We had family down there we stayed with. So he came to my aunts door and when I opened it I wasn't that physically attracted to him at first site.
But I still loved him.
We went on a few dates and everytime he became more and more attractive. A month later we moved in together and ended up having a son during the 15 years we spent together.
This is why I know being attracted to someone isn't just physical. His personality was the most attractive to me.
My blind dates were usually as a group with friends, the ones who thought we'd be a good match all going together. Sure some times he was so quiet that I felt like I was doing all the talking.
Even so, just enjoyed time the best I could and at the end was polite and said, it was nice to meet you, have a good evening.
IF he did try to ask me out again, then I'd say that I wasn't interested but thank you for asking.
If I was really interested and he didn't ask me out, I'd say. This is fun, we should do this again sometime, if you would like we can.
Often we just became friends and nothing more though.
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That’s right, you go in not knowing who you are going to be set up with, but in the hope that the people who set you up, know enough about you or care enough about you to choose someone that is a great person, who you will be compatible wit.
But if that is not the case, then it’s one date, surely you can find things to talk about for say 30mins/1hr and be kind and considerate to that person. I mean you can even joke about the fact you were set up, that you’ve never been on a blind date, that it’s a bit awkward etc. it breaks the ice, and makes things light hearted.
Even if you don’t find them attractive, they are a human being, a person, you don’t find your friends attractive but are kind to them! So treat them like a buddy for the time you spend on the date, thank them for their time, say it was nice meeting them and enjoy the rest of the day/night and goodbye, see you around.
It’s not that hard. Dont think to far ahead or into it.
I’ve been catfished on dating apps twice. Both girls were much heavier in person then in their pics.
I was still nice to both of them. Fortunately they were cheap dates (one of the many reasons I never do full restaurant dinner on first dates). One was just coffee and the other I made dinner for at my place. I talked them up but obviously didn’t make any moves not show any physical interest. When they followed up later I was honest that I enjoyed chatting with them but wasn’t interested in dating. Just treated them how I would like to be treated.
Now I’ve never catfished anyone before. But I’ve been on dates were the girl didn’t find me attractive and was f*cking rude about it. One cunt said she had to use the bathroom and then ditched me. The conversation wasn’t going well earlier and she was tired from a long hike earlier but still that was really low. She was a grown ass 31 year old woman too.
The way I see it is if the chick turns out to be a straight boogawolf... just because she's not what you were hoping for or expected.. doesn't give either of you grounds to be rude.. hurtful.. or disrespectful in anyway.. just keep it 💯 till you can respectfully pull off the great escape... stay calm be nice and jump on the first thing flying by without hurting her or it's feelings... cause trust me it's a small world people talk... you don't want them all thinking you the asshole... you will never get a good chick with a bad rep...
Yes, blind dating is or can troubling. . I was set up for a blind date, all i knew he would have a white rose in his hand.
I got glammed up and went to the resturant,, I saw this guy , he was about 50, . I like older guys so i thought lets go for it. To my surprise i really enjoyed myself. Admittedly when we got in the car , he gave me the impression that he had provided the food i had to return the favour of my body.
Until this came out i was toying with the idea of having sex , but as i told him, i am not for sale. So i gave him my share if the bill. Got out of the car and went home, in a taxi.
I had just got home, when rung me, groverling to say the least. And begged for a chance to redeem his self. After a little teasing i said yes..
OOOOH, YESSSSS!! We were doing a LOT of sweet talking online when we first met and we set up a date and THEN she sent me her picture!! HOOOLLLLYYYY FUCK!!! She looked like a big, beefy trucker!! Really short hair, kinda chubby, HORRIFIC grimace of a smile!! I don't scare easily but her picture sure did the trick!!
I used to go on blind dates occasionally when I was much younger and it was fashionable to do this. Some of the dates were really a disaster and quite honestly others wound up being relationships. I would say the one of the most important relationships of my life started with a blind date. Overall it was worth it to me. On a blind date I met somebody that I spent many satisfying and happy years with before she went off the deep end and begin doing things that I just couldn't countenance.
That never happened to me, however had that happened I would hope that I would at least be respectful and try to have a decent time with him all the well knowing it was never going to go any further after this date which would be short, cozy but non sexual.
I've not been on a blind date before, but I would do the same as if a first date with someone turned out to be lousy. I would be pleasant and see the evening out as not to spoil it for them, then I would tell them honestly I would not see them again.
I wouldn't give them false hope.
I think this question should be (Have you ever been "catfished")? I have not. Not because I am some kind of a Jedi master. I have not simply because I don't use dating sites. Yes, I have been on blind dates, but these were set up by people I know and trust! If you use online dating sites chances are at some point you are going to get "catfished". Sorry! It is just how it is today!
I knew who I was going with (HS senior prom) , but it was a bummer. Found out I was a "safe" guy and she was "involved with" some a guy in another state, so, yeah, that was not the best evening in my lifetime.
It wasn't a blind date as such - it was from a dating site. But her pic online was an airbrushed professional headshot. I knew this, and didn't expect the reality to match the shot, but was surprised by just how much it differed from her RL appearance, and, as you'd expect, not in a good way.
I would be polite, treat her nice, proceed with the date and attempt to have a good time but I wouldn't extend it. And, when over, tell her, "Thank you for going with me," but I wouldn't call her for another date.
Sure have. I could even see her with the blindfold on! Ok that was stupid, but really I went on a date with a chick that looked nothing like the pics she sent me. Her personality was far less attractive.
I've only been on one blind date. My sister set me up many years ago, before I got married. The date went really well, so well in fact that we ended up making out back at her place, and had a nice summertime romance. It ended when fall arrived.
Ithink I only went on two blind dates. Neither of them were bad looing, we just did not have much in common.
Blind dates are by definition buying the pig in the sack. Otherwise they could show pictures and tell you about them. Never been on a blind date and I probably never will.
i don't go on dates with people where basic physical attraction doesn't exist at the bare minimum level. thats why i never go on blind dates unless I hear that this guy really is IT.
I was never on one, alone cause of the fear of this happening lol but I guess I would just enjoy a nice evening with a friend and then go and never talk again
I mean I’ve been in both ends so when I wasn't the guy’s type I already figures it out by the time I was back home plus he didn’t actually asked me like if I was home safe or smth went and straight up ghosted me afterwards.
when I was the one who didn't feel us vibing I made it clear by mentioning it straight ahead being pretty much forward so yeah its expected that u will either find the other person to be ur type or not.
I haven't been on a blind date. I've been tricked before because of filters or camera angles.
With being tricked, it always ended up as thinking about an exit plan and being polite.
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