Have you ever been with someone just because of their looks?

[Anonymous]

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Maybe? Unsure, my first 2 relationships, during teen years, were not very profound nor long lasting lol.

They didn't last more than a week each. They were based on physical attraction, and a relatively blurry (to me, back then) level of feelings. Plus, I didn't really chose the girls, they chose me. I doubt they chose me for my personality since the extent of our conversations was probably equivalent to a fruitful day in the comment section of the shallowest hashtags of Instagram.

[Subtle_Luminescence]

Nope. But looks are certainly a major driving factor

[Genie23]

Never. I see so many good looking men all the time but it doesn't make me want to be with them. But if I see them do something sweet like some kind gesture or if I notice he has a good sense of humour and are intelligent, it gets me interested. If we get along well and he treats me right. We understand each other and I feel he has a good heart that's what makes me want to be with him.

[Anonymous]

No never. Looks and personality both matter

[AviatorTom]

I've told the story, many times, of my date with a female escort after my divorce. Let's just say I didn't choose her for her personality. 😐

[ManOnFire]

Never just because of their looks, although once upon a time that was a huge factor for me. There was always still some other factor in it, usually if they were particularly kind or easygoing, but never entirely for their looks. I've refused to approach tons of hot girls because they had a nasty demeanor or you could just already tell what they were about.

[sawno]

No, the girls I dated I really liked their personality to. Granted one of those I gave to much credit and was love blind and another proved to be a cheat. My last relationship as a result my standards were higher and it took ages to find that girl, but she was beautiful inside out. I've never been interested in relationships where I have to pretend just to get sex, I want real connections.

[TheorionMage]

If you're honest, "Oh hell, YES!" Your Subconscious responds FIRST and sets HOW you will feel and interpret the interaction with their 'meat suit'~~ YOUR 'animal' intuitively becomes tumescent both visually and tactilely... NEVER forget the survival potential of YOUR genome is Nature's unwavering nascent 'prime directive'

[rtj1211]

No, I'm not good looking enough for anyone that good looking to want to be with me for my looks.

'A beautiful woman approached George Bernard Shaw, the playwright and said: 'You and me should get married: with my looks and your brains, our children would be incredible.'

'Ah yes madam. But think of the appalling possibility if they were to inherit my looks and your brains...'

[Zack-Bann]

Looks are good for about 5 seconds
If the person has 0 substance and personality the looks will lose effect and you wouldn’t want to be with that person


That being said I have chosen to get to know girls just from looks alone, at first.
But the ones I kept around and wanted to see again all eventually showed me that they’re more than a pretty face

[YourFutureEx]

Yes a lot of the time tbh. I knew from the get go that it's going to be short term so physical attractiveness mattered more than the intellectual attractiveness.

But as I am open to getting into a long term relationship, I will strictly prioritise personality because good looks can make you blind in detecting red flags and even if you do, it makes you ignore them which I won't now.

[Genie23]

YFE was a playaaaa! Jk. That kinda explains why you chose this username 😆

[YourFutureEx]

@Genie23 I wasn't really a playaaaa, the girls were. I was more of a walking dildo with a radio function that tells jokes.

When I was little I wanted to be everybody's future ex. When I grew up, I became one. And then there came a time, I no longer wanted to be everyone's future ex lol. I have a love-hate relationship with my username.

[Genie23]

I'm sorry to hear that. That sucks 🙁

I don't understand why would any kid want to be someone's ex when they grow up. When I was a little kid, I wanted to just marry whoever I fell in love with , lol. Well, that didn't work for me and then I stopped believing in marriage 😆 I can understand your love-hate relationship with your username though. Same here.

I'm sorry about teasing you earlier 🙊

[YourFutureEx]

@Genie23 nah don't have sympathy for me like that lol. I am lucky to be surrounded by amazing women. Some of them wanted more (of course why won't they :P) but they understood the dynamics as we've been very honest with each other.

Who in this world doesn't want love? I have always wanted to save my virginity till marriage. I have a long story to tell but I can't in the comments. It's just that I had a bad image of myself because I was racially bullied as a child so, I thought I won't get anyone. But when things changed, I started craving for more and I was careless. My username tells three stories about wanting love, getting love in twisted ways and failing at it eventually in many chapters.

I don't know if it's because I'm old and science says that testosterone dips after 30. But I just want to water some plants in the mornings, and put two chairs in the courtyard as some lucky girl makes two chais for us and we read newspapers and discuss our opinions as we mentally fuck with each other. That's the goal.

It would be hypocritical of me to say that I understand where you're coming from as I do not know about your story and cannot feel the pain you felt. But as someone with a similar amount of experience in life and similar miseries, I hear you! I don't know why you would hate your username. Genies fulfill your wishes and make you happy. You deserve all the happiness because that's what you really give to all of us here when you communicate.

You'll be sorry if you stopped teasing me as that's the only way to keep me in control.

[Genie23]

Ah! In that case, I take back my sorry 😆

To be honest, It's really amazing that you actually took a look inside you deeply at such a young age and understood yourself, what you wanted, why you did what you did and things that led to certain outcomes. It shows you've always been very insightful and had awareness which most of the people at that age (even many older people don't have it) don't have. When I was 19, I was so clueless about many things including about myself. I was just too busy watching Disney shows and playing video games and being dreamy 😶

I know what you mean! I'm Sapio, so I always wanted a bonding like that because I believe mental stimulation is not only intense but it also increases the odds of you never getting tired of the person because your bonding isn't just based on superficial level. So, you'll always admire and adore that person because they have other things to offer other than looks that will make you feel deeply connected. I really hope you'll meet a great girl like the one you described someday!🫶🏻

[Genie23]

Awwww! That's so sweet of you. It really made me smile as it means a lot to me. ☺️ To be honest, I've had my shares of painful experiences be it trauma, heartbreaks, loss of hope and broken dreams. It's kind of funny I'm known as Genie when I couldn't even fulfill my own wishes and I couldn't even make some people happy even after I gave it my all (put my best efforts). But to be honest, that's not why I share a love-hate relationship.

I was 23 when I created this account and as I was trying to come up with a username, I started humming the tune of "I dream of Jeannie" show that I would watch often as a kid and then it hit me "Hey! Why not Genie?" But now... not only am I much older than 23 now but most people think of a bearded blue Jinn when they see my username 🤣🤣🤣



So, it wasn't exactly very wise of me to pick this username 🤣

I see. Alright then.. I'll make sure to never stop picking on you xD

[YourFutureEx]

@genie
"It shows you've always been very insightful and had awareness... When I was 19, I was so clueless about many things... I was just too busy watching Disney shows and playing video games and being dreamy"

Me listening to your compliments after spending my day watching YouTube and playing video games at the age of 30

Yeah exactly! You cannot bond only with the looks. You need admiration for their behaviour and character to truly be into them. I hope you'll meet a great guy that you cannot even describe!

Genies cannot fulfill their own wishes using their power (even they need to work hard and get lucky). They can only fulfill others' wishes. Normal genies only fulfill 3 wishes but you kept on fulfilling wish after wish after wish but you know what? Some people are incapable of fulfillment. As a genie, you can only fulfill wishes, you cannot control how the other person will feel after their wishes have been fulfilled. Someday you'll realise that you should love yourself and can only do your part, what you can control and other people can be fundamentally flawed and malicious.

I don't know if it's your filter, makeup or your fitness, but you still look 23! So, the username suits you and is still relevant! You would look cooler if you let your beard grow tho.

[YourFutureEx]

@Genie23 (forgot to add the "23" in my mention, guess you were right, the 23 wants to go 🙊)

[Genie23]

ROFLMAO!! I do that too sometimes so.. there, there 🤣

I guess you're right. I'll try to focus on myself and just be happy that I gave my best regardless of outcomes and reactions. Thank you so much for the advice.

What you call is my ectomorph body not letting me gain weight. I stopped using filters in my early 20s as I started finding it childish. However I do use black and white mode every now and then because I like it. I do wear lipsticks and liners and rarely mascara but I can't wear foundation and other stuff as I'm highly allergic to most makeup products but I do have to give credit to my dad because of him, I am aging slowly. I hit even puberty late 🤣 So, I'll thank my dad for that 😅

Lol! This genie can only grow a moustache (like in last picture) not beard. Sorry to disappoint you 🤣

Lol! Told you! Great. Now some girl named Genie is going to read out conversation. 🤣

[Anonymous]

No. I don't do hookups and trust is a big thing to me when it comes to relationships. And earning trust takes time. So I don't care how attractive she might be in the beginning, if she's not a beautiful person on the inside she's going to get ugly pretty fast.

[ProbablyClueless]

No, but I have totally misread someone’s actual personality because I found them physically attractive.


That was a miserable relationship. Not sure if you could even call it a relationship, in hindsight

[andreasderjuengere]

Of course: all first impressions are visual. It's a kind of filter for the next steps.

Where... ONLY looks and nothing else will not do the trick.

[lilBigPotato]

No. It might raise initial interest but it needs more to develop into something meaningful

[TheLovelyWoman]

Yes. I was so in love with him. I did everything for him. I had sex with him whenever he wants, and he didn't love me the same.

[Nikki1989]

No, never. Personality makes up for at least 90% of the attraction.

[lyrem04]

Never been with anyone but heck no… a bad attitude automatically makes you ugly and unattractive

[_piotr]

"bad attitude automatically makes you ugly"

How? Attitude does not influence outside looks of a person.

[Qwerrtty]

Nah, more interested in characters/personality than looks

[exitseven]

Maybe I noticed her because of her looks but they is not what made me want to date her.

[Anonymous]

I have never been in a romantic relationship with a girl just for her looks, but I have sometimes chosen a girl in other situations just because of her looks, a hairdresser for example.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Nope. Looks are required but not enough on their own.

[Mangospacho]

Yes, many years ago before I was married, I dated someone only because of her looks and it fell apart pretty quickly.

[LiamJHayden]

No. That might paly into initial attraction, but I won't hang with someone qith empty eyes and an empty mind.

[Grond21]

No, I haven't. Looks would have grabbed my attention, but not kept me around on their own

[Anonymous]

Yeah and regretted it. And never done that again.

Fell for a wrong person, but looks get normal after sometime. She cheated on me with multiple guys

[Anonymous]

It was a strong indicator of what made me want to be with them. Its pretty shallow

[Bklynbadboy12]

Yes when I was in high school. Have you ever done that

[serious]

No, I have always been single.

[molonski2]

Oh hell yeah.. multiple times.

[NathanDavis]

never for that one reason alone, no

[NathanDavis]

not as the primary reason either

[RavVid]

No but I would.

[Avicenna]

lol, no

[MikeTheBartender]

90% of my first dates.

[Prin97]

Damn right! Many many times.

[theionano3]

No it’s important

[IngeCZ]

Yes but it didn’t last long…

[Vegasrunner]

Every man in the history of the world has.

[Wise4myage]

No, I am not that shallow.

[Jeff51]

Nope. Haven't been that lucky.

[hello4433]

Nope, character matters to me more

[Anonymous]

I've never been in a relationship.

[wkhan_87]

Only look doesn't matter

[Anonymous]

I haven't, this is disgusting

[Caroline91]

Nope.

[robocop666]

this is normally how it works

[yk9998]

No , whole personality works

[WhitneySnow]

No..

[Anonymous]

yes if it was just for sex

[nl171]

Yes all the time

[jahaims]

No, I'm not retarded

[dudeinohio]

Nope

[In_Trance]

nope

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

nope

[Jenny212005]

Sorta

[Anonymous]

Only once

[Anonymous]

Doh
Yes