Have you ever fallen in love with someone just based on looks?

[coachTanthony]

Yup

Nope

see poll ( Coach I have seen your photo and I am in love )

[Adventurer23]

Have I ever been attracted to someone based on looks? Oh, most certainly. Have I ever fallen in love with someone based on looks alone? Never.

Ultimately, looks aren't what I fall for and what causes me to fall in love with someone. It's who she is and all her traits as a person that makes her attractive to me in addition to how she looks on the outside. She could be the most beautiful girl on the outside, but if I have no real connection with her, or say she's a bad person or something, there's nothing there for me to fall in love with. Admiration for looks only is lust, not love. For me, a focus on looks alone is shallow and empty. The complexity and power of love is so much deeper than that.

[NathanDavis]

no, not love...

even when I had that dumb crush in middle-school... it was way more than just the looks

attraction to looks, is not love... just attraction, now you might "love" the looks of someone yes, but that's a very different thing than actually falling in love

[coachTanthony]

so many people out there saying I knew the first time I saw her. I guess they are crazies. No?

[NathanDavis]

no, they are not crazy... coincidences do exist

I do actually know a lot of people who were extremely infatuated right away and they felt like "they knew" that they were going to end up with that someone, but the actual love, as love is... that one does develop eventually, sometimes way faster yes

I actually felt that way myself, or my ex-girlfriends felt that way with me "I just knew we would end up together" but no... we didn't know, we hoped lmao...

[coachTanthony]

I think for the most part it's not a good idea to assume based on first look they are the one for you. It does amaze me though how many have done it and like you said there are always "one off's" in life for sure.

[NathanDavis]

yeah, I usually hold my horses right away... and I don't release the hounds til' later, when I am sure sure about things, especially, how they feel about me in the first place, lol

also funny... about 99% of the times I met someone for the first time and she's strikingly attractive, she's already in a relationship with someone else so...

[coachTanthony]

I remember one chick who sent me a photo and I thought OMG she is going to be trouble and she was. lol It was a one off though because that never happened again

[NathanDavis]

I felt the same way the first time I ever saw my high-school to-be-girlfriend... lol, in a good way... thouh

[SpokenTruth]

@NathanDavis How do you define love what is your definition of it?

[NathanDavis]

@SpokenTruth I only call it love... when it is a feeling that's shared, mutual and reciprocated between two that are together and on the same page

if it is one sided, then I do not call it love... I could call it a crush, infatuation, lust, desire even obsession and fixation, but not love..

this is of course, my very personal perspective, it does not have to apply to others and their experiences

[SpokenTruth]

@NathanDavis I think of it differently. I know when I'm in love with someone because I have very strong feelings for them and I think about them all the time they are on or in the back of my mind. And rather they accept that I love them or rather it's mutual between us or and that is given they are ever even made aware that I'm in love with them I'm still in love with them regardless even if I keep it to myself forever I still love them. I see it as one sided love me in love with them even if they never are even aware of it. I think of lust as something that's purely sexual with no potential of actually falling in love someone that's out for sex in other words.

[NathanDavis]

@SpokenTruth we have had, very clearly... different experiences

[SpokenTruth]

@NathanDavis I also left out too that someone you truly love you never forget them.

[NathanDavis]

@SpokenTruth are you married?

have you had girlfriends before?

[SpokenTruth]

No I have never been married and I have no children of my own lifelong bachelor. I had two intimate girlfriends that didn't last long.

[NathanDavis]

@SpokenTruth are the two of them... the ones you're talking about? in love with?

[SpokenTruth]

Neither of the two that I broke up with they were before them all the way back in grade school. To this day I still think about them and I will never forget them.

[WolfBaneHunter78]

Lust is NOT love.

You feel LUST when you fall for someone based solely on looks. And UNLIKE love lust fades. It's a temporary thing, meaningless in the long scale.

Love considers everything - personality, their nature / mannerism, and to degrees looks. But love considers looks to be of the least important. If that wasn't the case people who've been scarred through accidents, war, surgery, etc. would end up dying alone but they're oftentimes surrounded by LOVE and their SPOUSE and their family/friends.

[coachTanthony]

Let's be real. How many times have you heard I knew from the minute I saw her she was the one? So not buying the premise.

[WolfBaneHunter78]

@coachTanthony - ROFL. Life isn't the movies. Only dullards believe that bullshit.

[coachTanthony]

So you are saying it's never happened before and if it has happened and it was long lasting they are simply dullards?

[WolfBaneHunter78]

@coachTanthony - don't ask questions if you are going to harass people that disagree with you. It shows your ignorance.

[WolfBaneHunter78]

@coachTanthony and to answer your question - it's a rarity that that happens, use your head. WHY do you think it is the fantasy storyline of movies. Because fantasy, not reality SELLS.

[coachTanthony]

LOL why you so mad bruh? I hope things get better for you. Thanks for the comments.

[WolfBaneHunter78]

@coachTanthony - do you require a dictionary so you know what the definition of "mad" is? Wherever have I been "mad". I simply stated facts. Don't ask a question if you're going to harass people that disagree - it shows / proves you're ignorant.

[coachTanthony]

You sound mad as hell. lol

[BigWhiteWolf87]

@coachTanthony Nice post - Honestly why are there so many ignorant people on this site? I mean someone posts a question & if you disagree with their ideology they harass you? ↗ - here. Maybe you should give your wise opinion

[coachTanthony]

Oh damn you are really mad so mad you made a post about how mad you are. Damn. Again hope it gets better for you.

[WolfBaneHunter78]

@coachTanthony - hmmm I see you're rather inferior

[coachTanthony]

If you are being harassed why you keep coming back? lol It's the internet you can just not reply.

[SpokenTruth]

What would you define as lust?

[turnpost]

Loves fades as well

[jennifer_bloom]

I have never fallen in love based on looks but there were three times where I liked somebody I did not know well based on their looks. For me liking somebody is far from loving them. I separate the two very easily.

[Guy13]

Nope in lust but two times opening that mouth and I was done.

[AviatorTom]

Fallen in LUST... Yes, but in LOVE... No!

[Anonymous]

This just happened to me at my gym with a girl who saved my butt. I usually work out late and usually there is just me and two girls there at this time of night. I was forced to take a month off due to being sick and was dumb enough to try to go straight into my highest weight squat instead of easing back in. Needless to say, I was not able to handle the weight.

One of the girls came to my rescue. She even helped me correct my form. However, what made me fall in love was the look of pure joy she had at showing me what to do. I could see passion in her eyes (green eyes, which I am a sucker for) and her smile was amazing. I complemented her on both her smile and her strength and we talked for a bit and somehow I got the courage to ask her out. We are going on our first date Wednesday.

[hahahmm]

I'm not convinced that men should use the word 'love'. It's a word women use because it has 20+ different meanings. It's like a used car salesman using the word steal in an advertisement or something.

[TheorionMage]

If by "fallen in love" you mean visually-attracted ENOUGH to immediately fantasize intimate contact sufficient to motivate ME for the opportunity to correspondingly arouse HER likewise.
Hell Yes! <3 ;)

[dynamicyandere]

Nah. It’s more like I just think to myself, “I like her XYZ.” Then it stops there. I can appreciate beauty, but it’s going to take some chemistry and connection to really draw me in.

[DizzyDesii]

As a kid, all the time. But the love is lost just as quickly the moment i find out their true persona

[RobT312]

Yes, and then it fell apart when the rest of the chemistry wasn’t there…we had nothing in common

[OfMiceandMen]

Nawww. I may have thought wow! They are very attractive, but I have to a have a connection with someone before I fall head over heels for them.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

I always have to know the person. But I'm demiromantic so that's why.

[Nikki1989]

No, but I have felt deep attraction many times.

[Finchie40]

No, it takes more than just looks to love someone , but to be infatuated by someone from their looks happens if I see a girl that is absolutely beautiful to my eyes , but to fall in love with her I would need to feel chemistry and connection with her

[KostasKouvalis]

Many times. Once I even fell for a girl just because she had a sexy pedicure

[Twalli]

I've been physically attracted by looks, but I won't even consider dating someone until I've met them.

[fredaarhin]

He had the looks and his body wad just great😋

[Avicenna]

Not in love, only in lust

[WindAtMyBack]

Love? Nope

Seriously wanted to know them better? Yep

Flashing a gorgeous smile that stayed with me all day? Oh my god yes!

[clampfan101]

Yes and no. I fell in love at first sight once, but it was much much more than “pretty = loved”. That’d just be a crush. Something told me she was a good person when I saw her. (I’m not sure how else to explain it.)

[notwoke]

great looking women in the pics. Perfect sized!

[Anonymous]

My first girlfriend had red hair wore glasses and had that whole cella thing going on but underneath the clothes she had a killer body, big tits with a real fat ass.

[Anemone978]

Yeah a guy I like right now is basically based on looks because he has a shit personality :P

[legalboxers]

once, blonde hair blue eyed, kinda chubby. nice butt, about a B cup. Really knock out, think of Danielle Fishell with Jessica Simpson and Christina Argulria mixed

[humanearth]

Yes, then I got to know them. That's when they turned ugly

[___Clara___]

No, I've never fallen in love with someone based on their looks.

[Yumix]

No, I can love how someone looks but that doesn't make me fall in love with a person. Don't believe in love at first sight either

[Anonymous]

While I love her for her wonderful personality too, Marina's looks were why I got a crush on her at first

[worldscolide]

No, it takes more than a pretty face and nice body to get me

[Dinosaursandanime65]

If you mean in some kind of metaphorical way or something then……… maybe. If you mean it literally then that is literally not possible.

[MrOofMan]

I've vowed to myself to get to really know someone before even considering dating them. I just can't see how someone can fall in love just based on looks.

[Gloree]

yes. I liked his eyes. but I'm glad nothing happened between us.

[SpokenTruth]

I don't care what anyone else says yes I have done so absolutely have.

[LovingJo]

Not real love. But lust probably.

[Gabriel-Chicanito]

Love @ first site, will make a believer, outta you!

[Anonymous]

Why yes, I sure have. But Id say it was lust, and not love.

[SpokenTruth]

What is your definition of lust vs love?

[Opinion Owner]

@SpokenTruth Lust is a one night stand.

[RMorus]

Totally, with the universe :)

[Anonymous]

A lot of times it's infatuation.

[Blackcupcake]

nope I’m not shallow lol

[turnpost]

What height do you want your husband?

[Blackcupcake]

I don’t care as long as he’s not shorter and me.

[turnpost]

How tall are you?

But regardless your response is normal and fair enough.

[exitseven]

no, it was just lust.

[douride2]

On looks alone. Nope never happened.

[UncleBilll]

All the time, more of a lust, but yes

[Anonymous]

If his hi irritates me looks don't help much

[boobliker]

she was just so good looking and sexy

[Christoff92]

Nope her confidences, and her honestly.

[Jamie05rhs]

Yes haha. When I was 10.

[msc545]

Not in love, but DEFINITELY in lust!

[Guardian45]

Yup, for all its worth. Total fantasy!

[Pohjolan]

Not love but crushed yes.

[Anonymous]

That ain't love Coach.

[jjj101010]

No but fantasised a lot

[melanieeeB]

In love? No

[OhyeahCumHere]

No lol

[AsaKyo]

Nope

[NostalgiaSenpi]

Nope.

[KrakenAttackin]

Lust not love.

[AFretiredTXn]

all of them