I got question for ladies specifically about men?

[Anonymous]

So about a year ago i was involved with a woman i cared deeply about. She was the second time in my 26 years of life i felt truly in love someone. Things ended badly but even now part of me still loves her. Both of us had mental health issues but she had some severe trama that made it almost impossible for her to touch others let alone have sex. At one point she adressed it and was worried it would end our relationship. I dont really know why but when i thought about it i didn't care, i loved her too much. Id never had sex before at that point and basicly decided that to me love was more important than sex. My question is if you had said problems and the guy you were dating said it didn't matter to him as long as you were together what would your rection be and how would you feel about it?

[devilish-cutie]

of course id be happy that he loves me and would be able to accept such major thing you would expect every guy wants like sex
but i myself dont think id be with someone who wouldn't want sex with me, i maybe would give it time and all if i loved him but it would be deep misery for me and id want it to change at some point

[Asker]

She actually adressed that and put forth the idea of doing the moddern family type thing but it didn't work out in the end. She kept needing more and when she found out two of my friends were fellons it stressed her out and she said them or me. Thats were i drew the line and she ghosted me. It wasn't a fight we discussed the issue like adults but her trama couldnt take it. She basicly lived a life where she had no choice but to live in a home where she was abused physically and emotionally by her mother and her father was so distant he might as well not have even been there. Even her brother was so far on the autistic spectrum that they had attacked her with a knife for touching him cause contact freeked him out. I know it never would have worked but i still think of her fondly. I kinow that the whole "me or them" thing is like a major red flag but i actually understood why she couldnt cope with any kind of stress. She lived a life where she had 0 control over her own fate so she was desperate to have any kind of control anywhere she could. I wanted to stay friends but she just blocked me. I at least wanted closure but apparently that was too much for her. Sadly this was the healthiest relation ship I've ever been in my entire life. It was the first qand only one where i actually felt loved back instead of just there.

[devilish-cutie]

Im sorry it didn't work out and its not ypur fault. Try to let it go, what is meant for you will be. She clearly has a loz of issues and it couldnt work. Wish you happines and zo find another love!

[Asker]

Thanks i still haven't really figured out how to go about doing much of anything in regaurds to staying on the dating scene i just dont feel like there's much point anymore.

[devilish-cutie]

Give it time, you should heal and not force ysf.