I have a question for men Is that true men can't be with a one woman Like you usually think to cheat on your partner like your girlfriend or your wife.. Because I feel it's hard to find a man to be loyal for his woman to be honest. But I need answer if I'm right or not And thanks
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As a woman, you can determine with probably 95% accuracy if the guy you like is the kind of guy who is going to cheat on you eventually - BUT you have to do the work up-front and you have to be honest with yourself about the answers.
Is he so attractive that women are always hitting on him (and I don't just mean physically attractive - his money or status or talent might make him similarly attractive)? If he is, he's very likely to cheat.
Does he have a history of cheating on women in his past? Then he's almost certainly going to cheat in the future.
Is he selfish and self-centered in other ways? Meaning, is he rude or cruel or thinks nothing of hurting other people or screwing them over to benefit himself, even with little things? These guys will definitely cheat on you.
In all of the above examples, the men are ALREADY the kind of men who are cheaters, and people very rarely change who they are, and when they do, that only ever happens because THEY want to change THEMSELVES - no one ever changes like that for other people.
What does this mean for you? It means that the guys you find the MOST attractive, the MOST exciting, and create the STRONGEST feelings, are likely to be the worst men for you. And if you step back and examine their history, their attitude, and their behavior today, you'll see that that's true. Such men are often VERY attractive, VERY popular, and VERY highly regarded by people who aren't looking to be a relationship partner with them - because they won't be negatively affected by his faults.
You need to vet every potential partner, and you need to specifically look at their morals, values, and life-goals. Does he want the life you want? Does he want marriage? Children? Is he religious? Is he financially responsible? Will he need to travel or live away from you for his job? What are his morals? Does he put you first when he reasonably can? If so, why?
Morals, values, and life-goals are the things that are going to determine whether your relationship can last long-term or not. They're the main things that matter. Whether he likes sea food or country music or traveling or pets - that crap matters WAY less than you think. So does his looks or his status. He could be the most attractive guy in the world, but if he's banging your best friend, will his looks keep you together? No - they don't matter.
Could a rare exception slip through your vetting process? Yes, it's POSSIBLE, but it's quite unlikely. For the most part, whether your man cheats on you or not depends largely on who you pick in the first place. If you pick a man with high risks for cheating, can you be surprised when he cheats? And if you fail to vet a man at all, or do so sloppily and incompletely, is it not at least partially your own fault for picking a cheater?
Your job is to pick a man who ALREADY has the morals, values, and life-goals you're looking for. You cannot take a man with bad morals, values, and life-goals and change him - he won't change. Out of every 10,000 men you meet, maybe one will change - 9,999 are going to be the same man on their deathbed as they are today. That's why you can't just leave things to change - you MUST have a solid and thorough vetting process focused on the right things.
It depends on the man as well as his integrity as well as a lot of women cheat as well. Look people chest because they loose their connection over time bur they are so deep into the relationship that cutting it off is a major risk as cowardly as it is. Divorce can be messy, it can ruin your reputation, you can loose a lot of stuff, even your children. As well as people worried about their children.
But even just long term relationships without marriage people loose that spark but they have a lot on the line. They know they will loose friends as well as if they’re getting something form someone. Such as social status, financially, and other things like that as well as someone who picked someone for those reasons but never built a genuine connection.
The biggest reason is too…. Not only dark personalities chest. People who are empathetic feel horrible for it at least at first. But they have low integrity and morals. A opportunity arises at the right place, at the right time, and they believe they won’t get caught.
Men also get caught more on average. Because on average women are a lot more methodical when it comes to chesting. Don’t get me wrong some women are impulsive and some men are methodical.
Women more often then not will plan out cheating for a long time before they act on it as well as plan on how they will cover their tracks.
But there is a caveat that some women get caught before the man because…. Men may sleep with random women. They meet at bars, clubs, etc. Not anyone whose close or they know. Then never speak again
As where women have more long drawn out affairs that are also emotional at least to them. A lot of times they will be cheating with someone you already know or know ahout.
So…. It really depends atually. Men are more reckless as where women get caught too because they do it with someone close until you can’t hide ir anymore
Aiming to bust the myth that all men can't be loyal! While some men might stray like lost puppies, there are plenty out there who can commit and hold your heart close. Just keep an eye out for those red flags and don't settle for less than you deserve. Love isn't about possession; it's about sharing trust, respect, and a little bit of fun! 😉 Not all guys are players, and loyalty is sexy!
Any statistics about infidelity rely on people self-reporting whether they have ever been unfaithful, so the statistics are inherently unreliable. However, mpst surverys suggest that between 20% and 25% of both married men and women are unfaithful to their partners.
Anyone who cheats tries to rationalize their misbehavior and it is common for guys to claim that men are incapable of being monogamous. . . but over half of all married men ARE monogamous and faithful. Most of us understand that we can't expect our wife to remain faithful if we don't remain faithful, and. . . many guys will dispute this because of their false machissimo, but most men actually do want a long term, committed, faithful relationship.
There is no secret formula for finding a partner who will be faithful but my best advice would be to proceed carefully in dating and not be too eager to jump into bed. As soon as you have sex with a guy, you are likely to start thinking of names for your first-born child and you will stop evaluating his character objectively. A guy who wants a long term relationship will wait for you, and if he is unwilling to wait past the third date. . . there's your sign!
Most of us men want loyal partners’ and we want to be loyal to her as well. I can’t speak for every guy , but I value relationships and loyalty and honesty , things I need to have with a girl, for me to even consider being in a relationship with her. Unfortunately most the girls’ I ended up giving my heart to , turned around and shit on my heart eventually because they were selfish girls’ that only truly cared about themselves. So after having my heart shit on a handful of times from selfish girls’ I no longer rush into a relationship with a girl whatsoever, unless she is completely honest and perfect for me. And only time will tell whether she is or isn’t. I don’t get into relationships to eventually cheat on her , I get into a relationship hoping she is choosing me the same way I am choosing her , I will only end a relationship with a girl that lies to me , or cheats on me , or back stabs me . That chooses to no longer make me her priority , When a girl starts to treat me like I am a convenience, she will become my convenience as well as I am slowly walking the other way
I don't not think you are right. I suspect the notion of men not choosing a woman to remain faithful is because women may have experienced the "players" while younger. Most men are not players any more than most men are not professional athletes. The player is the one young women meet first most often and this shapes her notion of "men" and that she may be a suitor of his and see that he won't change his ways for her in spite of her being who she is and trying to get him to become hers. They pump and dump and this creates a negative stereotype of "men" in her eyes that they are naturally promiscuous. The same men are the ones who are able to manipulate and cajole women into bed so they can add another notch to their tally. They're using women for gratification because they are conventionally what young women believe to be desirable. Most men are not desirable to most women but when hormones and young bodies are around each other women will choose the desirable men over and over again. The majority of men though aren't endowed with the same traits so wait till their chance usually organically comes around and they will fixate and overlook some issues in order to make something work with that ONE person. Just look at divorce stats. Women far more often choose to end relationships with that ONE person they'd vowed to stick by through thick and thin, rich and poor but alas vows are just words with no consequences.
This question can be asked of both men and woman in my experience. It comes down to the person, Im a man, I have never cheated on anyone, not that I don't find other woman attractive or think out being with someone else, I think that's natural for all of us. However, if I am in a relationship with someone, I have made commitment to that person for all the reasons that brought us together in the first place. The grass may look greener on the other side, but most of the time it is not. If I'm in love with a woman then I am not giving up what I have for the unknown, and lose all the great things that I have. If I don't cherish what I have then I should move on.
It depends on the man. It depends on the woman. If one or the other is not making any good faith effort to meet the needs of the other then people will go find what's missing in their lives. If he's buried in his work and she's an afterthought. If she's using sex as a weapon instead of communicating. In my opinion the other person is justified in finding other solutions. And divorce may not be possible in the moment because of kids or economics. I'm not gonna condemn those people trying to make something out of a bad situation.
I think it's correct to say that ''our'' (men's) instincts tell us to spread our genes widely. In present days sex has more become a pleasant and symbolic ritual rather than efficient reproduction.
It now depends on the 'quality' of an individual man how he goes about it.
Loyalty, and sexual mindfulness are two different things - to me.
It's also correct to say that women tend to be possessive over their sperm resources - or their present equivalent version of symbolic ritual.
In any case: a reward must be deserved. Where (undeserved) ''participation trophies'' have become the norm somehow. On 'both sides', b. t. w.
So it is that the weaker among ''us'' just screw anything that's too slow to escape onto the next tree.
Real men can be with one hot, sexy woman, and be happy. However, it has to be the right woman, who can satisfy a man’s sexual desires, and creates an environment of trust and respect.
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9 mo
So the woman should be perfect with flawless for her man so he won't cheat on her?
No it's not true.. There are men throughout history that have gotten depressed and tried to end their lives because they couldn't be with a certain woman.. There are men who are in sexless marriages but would still never cheat on their wives..
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9 mo
Ok, a lot of men feel that when the couldn't be with a certain woman because people usually tend to value things or person that the couldn't have.. But my question about loyalty in general
Yeah, I mentioned sexless marriages where men are not cheating on their wives.. But yes what I mentioned before is also loyalty.. Plenty of men throughout history loved one woman..
It is not at all true. Particularly in your age bracket. In the 20s there is a lot of competition. In the 30's there is far fewer available potential partners and it is more important to stay partnered. Plus there is a lot more investment.
It might be you are hunting for the top 10% like every other woman. Those guys probably don't need to be faithful and therefore won't be..
I think the reason for that stereotype is due to the top 10% or so of men. Not only do I encourage every woman whom I date, serve and sponsor that she will be much better served if she restricts me from ever having intercourse with her, I also let her know that she’s welcome to engage in casual sexual relationships with other men, and that if she chooses to do so, the results it will produce in me will be thoroughly satisfying, impressively lucrative and wholly unforgettable.
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Anonymous
(36-45)
9 mo
Most men are loyal. The fact that most women are dating the same attractive men who are only not taken because they are disloyal is not a surprise.
You should have asked yourself why he was not taken already and gotten a good explication.
it depends on how man perceives the female sex and the concept of relationship. if he is the kind of man who only wants woman for sex, yes he will cheat. if he is the family guy type of man he will stick to his principles and live a happy life with his wife
Temptation can be there due to our biological nature but I never cheated and wouldn't cheat on a girl I love. But feeling temptation i'd have to decline I can imagine happen if another were to seduce me.
Mmmh look not all men like each other because some of us want to cheat for many reasons and there is a A bunch of us don’t wanna cheat but no, I’m a man and I don’t like cheating if I’m not Feeling OK with my girlfriend I would tell her I wanna break up with you because if I I’m not breaking up with her I Will cheat so what’s better? And I am an honest person I would tell her I’m not comfortable with you
Not true. Women are the ones that cheat because they no longer feel "tingles". Women are the ones that have easy opportunities to cheat, most men love for real, women just pretend until they find someone better.
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Anonymous
(45 Plus)
9 mo
Of course not. If it's hard to find a loyal guy for you it's just simply because you're attracted to cheaters. If you want that to change than you should probably address why that is.
I know quite a few more men that have been cheated on by women than the other way around. It's probably about equal, but women seem to have a knack for rationalizing their behavior when they do it.
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9 mo
But usually women have been cheated on by their men more than men who have been cheated on by thier women
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