Why do only fuckboys hit on me?

[Anonymous]

I’m told I’m sort of the package - I’m very attractive, model, young, have long pretty hair, lots going for me personally and professionally. I’m told I’m kind of intimidating but I don’t think so. I’m not perfect (no one is!) but I respect everyone around me and I have a good reputation.
Everything is good but my dating life. Only fuckboys approach and hit on me and try to waste my time.

[Finchie40]

The fact that you said you are attractive and a model is what is drawing these fuck boys to you , They are drawn to your outer beauty without being drawn to your heart , their assumptions to you is they think since you are so beautiful on the outside that you probably fuck random guys and that you are high maintenance and that you don’t know how to settle because you can get any guy you want and just assume that you aren’t relationship material , when people focus on outer beauty to be attracted to someone they are setting themselves up for disaster , finding someone that values your heart and beauty is the challenge we all face , Just because someone is beautiful on the outside it doesn’t mean they are beautiful in the inside , I see beautiful girls all the time but the only one I would go for is one that is beautiful on the inside as well , A girl that knows what it means to be in a relationship , a girl that makes me feel wanted and appreciated and only has eyes for me , Her heart is what matters most , if she has an amazing heart her outter beauty becomes a 1000 times better is how I look at things , the problem with most people is they assume things , they judge books by the cover

[TheMajesticKing777]

I hope this fuckboy phase crap dies out soon, it was brought to us by pornography and trending hip hop, apparently fucking girls and having money and flashing guns make you cool, don't let my pfp fool you, I'm just a gun addict

[Asker]

I’ve completely given up at this point. I’ll try finding love and meaning in other areas of my life instead.

[TheMajesticKing777]

I feel like love will find you, just let God guide you, after all it will most likely happen where you least expect it

[Asker]

I try to believe that. However I’m not even sexually attractive so I have to have that in order to keep someone intrigued.

[TheMajesticKing777]

If you weren't sexually attractive you wouldn't have fuckboys attention, let's not mention that love is beyond sexual attraction, love can be very blinding

[Asker]

Then why do they treat me like I’m ugly and worthless (especially after lovebombjng at first)? Their attention also gets spotty.

[TheMajesticKing777]

It's what a fuck boy is, let me guess, they wanted sex but since you didn't want to give it to them they stopped talking to you?

Something humans seem to lack ironically is humanity, people don't think of other people's emotions and only care about their own, when they selfishly seek for something out of someone and don't receive it, they don't stop to think of the other person, when they selfishly change on the person, the problem here isn't you, it's them, they are living a sinful and lustful lifestyle, you were just targeted

[Asker]

Well it’s almost like they treat me like I’m way less than I am. Like bare minimum compliments like saying I’m just cute or no compliment on my physical appearance after at first love bombing me. Or they “friendzone” me and move on really quickly. I take it really personally, and they treat me like I’m disgusting or something

[TheMajesticKing777]

What happened to the confidence I was reading in your question tho? You say you are the whole package, I can't really speak for other people but I feel like you are thinking too small, you will run into the wrong people until you run into the right person, it's how it works, don't give up because of a few people, after all the world has millions

[miadee]

Even though I'm not conservative person at all, I suggest you to dress more modest, and don't seem like a party girl-chill girl material... From my experiences I realized you can eliminate fuckboys in that way. Male brains don't work complicated. So your brain shouldn't either. Set a goal: what kind of a guy you really want to be with? Then ask the other question: what kind of a woman would that man want to be with? Become that person.

[Lurkergao]

you might be very intimidating and hard to approach. fuckboys are immune. i just found out a girl liked me and i had no idea, every time she saw me she would glare at me (she was squinting because she has her glasses off when we meet each other) i thought she hated me for some reason.

[Vikkrram]

How you can differentiate between a fuck boy and a guy havin genuine feelings for you. Let's say you both didn't talked but by his behaviour how you can differentiate that?

[Asker]

I find out they’re a fuckboys after talking a little bit usually

[Shamalien]

Good men rarely approach anymore because we’ve been convinced that any sort or sexual initiation with a woman could label us rapey or creepy. Only drunks and douches approach these days for the most part

[HawkPerception]

Accurate

[TheLastRhodesian]

We fuckboys are looking for sex, I mean, we're looking for easy women (they wear chokers, have piercings, are tattooed, dress like sluts). If only fuckboys are looking for you, it's because you seem like an easy woman.

[Asker]

Um no I’m not at all. I dress conservatively and am classy in how I behave and speak. That’s ridiculous for you to say.

[what_the_hell]

I know right this guys pathetic

[Nidal_AA]

Do you think you are hard to get?(which is good for
Cuz if so then yeah only those boys would risk rejection..
Im just guessing

[Asker]

Yes I’d say so. If I like a guy I let him know but I don’t sleeep around outside of relationships or anything like that. I’m respectable and have value.
Yeah then I show interest to the fuckboys (not knowing they are) and then they treat me like I’m ugly and have no value and put in bare minimum.

[Nidal_AA]

Yeah well then thats the reason... And there is nothing wrong here to change... Best of luck ^_^

[Asker]

What’s the reason?

[Nidal_AA]

I meant how people think you are out of their league...
Based on what people say about you i wouldn't even try to talk to you thinking your too good to come true hahha...
Fuckboys however are used to rejection so they just go for it..
Again im just guessing this could all be wrong.
As ro why someone would give you the bare minimum, it could be because he is afraid of rejection so he does it himself instead...
Anyways... Ignore all these people and focus on yourself until you find the perfect one

[Asker]

Thing is I have no idea how to find the perfect guy. I don’t have any positive experiences and now I’m getting uncomfortable about it. I think I’m at a point of no return.

[Nidal_AA]

The how to find the perfect match is a whole other thing that a 7 yo in your country would know more about it than me 😂😂
Im arabian so here when the man is ready to marry, his parent start asking relatives and friends for recommendations, he meets the girl, they like eachother, engage, and they marry...
Only thing i can say is that since you have this good reputation.. Then there is a reason behind it... You will get your match easier

[Asker]

Well the guys at my gym are tools who hit on me and then act like they don’t know me at all and like they never even complimented me before.

[Nidal_AA]

Thats really weird and im sorry to hear it but yeah i have no explination other than what i said... U seem like a cool person dont worry u will be fine

[RSav4013]

It's just a numbers game. Fuckboys hit on anything that moves while respectable guys don't. That's why the majority of guys that hit on any women are fuckboys.

[Anonymous]

There are guys who want loving relationships and there are f-boys. F-boys will target anyone, especially if your clothes signal that you want sex like short shorts because they will think you're a easy target. Another way to avoid them is avoiding online dating because online dating is only for sex

[FilmGuy93]

Because fuckboys hit on everyone and the genuinely nice guys are too respectful to bother random women in public.

[Imsmurter1]

Well you're probably not that respectful if you use a term like fuckboy to describe men. It's like if I said only bitches hit on me but I'm so respectful. Uh yeah right.

[Cowboy6666]

Do you want commitment or marriage?
How tall are you?

[Asker]

Yes. And 5’8”

[Cowboy6666]

Well then you are perfect girl for me to marry. 😊

[zagor]

Because fuckboys use the shotgun approach and don't care if they get rejected.

[Anonymous]

It depends where you meet these guys, but maybe good guys think you're taken if you're very attractive.