Why do I always attract fuckboys?

[Anonymous]

All the guys that approached me or I was interested in, have been fuckboys.

1) been very straight about wanting only to get in my pants.

2) the worst ones: manipulating me, making me feel like they like me, even buy me gifts and spends much time —> ghost me after sex

... I’m never overly sexual nor do I give desperate vibes. I don’t wear revealing clothing, tasteful and womenly. I’m considered “universally” beautiful (long fair slim body etc.)

What can I do? Those guys who turned out to manipulate me didn’t even first seem like there was something wrong with them.

[Anonymous]

At the end of the day, if you're having sex with men you wouldn't want as the father of your children, then you are giving it up too easily. Think back to the real reason why we have sex (think beyond pleasure and dopamine), then you will get some idea of why it's happening. This culture has taught everyone to place a very low value on sex, and in the process people have forgotten what it is for.

You attract fuckbois because those are the types of guys that get you hot, interested, and uncertain. It's as simple as that.

[mattmanyah2]

Don't have sex for a long period of time. This will weed out the mass of them. Date for marriage look for a husband the character of a man you could spend your life with. On one of your first few dates make it a conversation date and talked about what you want out of a man and what he wants out of a woman be honest and demand honesty. You are a beautiful woman and you deserve respect. Good luck

[itsmyownname]

That's a difficult question. Are you straight about what you want from the beginning? Where do you met them?

[Asker]

Bars or tinder. In my country men don’t really approach women easily in the streets.

[itsmyownname]

Maybe that's the problem. Women rarely met men with honest intention on Tinder. Can I ask from which country you are?

[blutwolfe]

Well if we're going down the list, if you're attractive as you say you are, you're gonna get attention from all crowds, particularly fukbois, and another reason is you seem to be easy, they get what they want.

Another reason is you're interested in fukbois, how about changing your type?

[Asker]

I can’t just change my type. And I really don’t give it up easily. Maybe after 1 month of dating

[blutwolfe]

Well if you're forever gonna be attracted to fukbois you got a hurtful future ahead of you. And one month after dating isn't that long, some girls wait 3-6months.

[Asker]

Is it bad to have sex on the 3rd date?

[blutwolfe]

Ya I'd say that's easy, 3rd date can be early as three days

[RLovesD7792]

you want to talk about manipulation try being in love with someone for over 2+ years just to have her make you feel like you're not good enough to be with her when all she does is chase one guy after another right in front of you while stringing you along for her own amusement

[miMichael]

What was her name, I think I know her eich

[crazy8000]

Most of those you are really after doesn't take initiative because you must show you really interested and can go for what you want with own drive. the opposite is many times considered as nothing special for them, they have nothing of value in a relationship.

[Anonymous]

"I’m never overly sexual nor do I give desperate vibes. I don’t wear revealing clothing"
Has nothing to do with it, so just let that idea go.

"What can I do?"
Take responsibility for your own experiences, take initiative, make a move on men.

Your mistake is expecting people other than "fuckboys" to approach you.

[Jersey2]

Find a genuine guy instead of waiting for one of them to find you. Use your knowledge of fuck boys to weed them out and target a good guy and ask him out.

[miMichael]

So you can't find someone who really likes you, your guts never told you anything is wrong?

[Asker]

At first I wasn’t experienced, so my gut didn’t tell anything. In the end I just hurt my feelings. Now later with a bit of experience with dating, it has never worked out because of these guys only wanting to get in my guts. They were great manipulators and I really thought they liked me for who I am...

[KrakenAttackin]

You get what you put out. Do you dress and act like a "fuck girl"?

[Asker]

Nah I don’t. I act like high value woman.

[KrakenAttackin]

You are probably attracting the studly Alphas who are used to banging hot girls. Perhaps you should gently seek good man.

[zagor]

https://www.youtube.com/embed/cH_rfGBwamc

C'est la vie

[hatim_tai]

just be yourself dude... take it easy... you run into bad people, you run into good people... your circle of friends may have a lot to do with this as well...

[Therisinghero12]

Simple, don't have sex with them until you're confident that's not just what they're after

[Asker]

That’s what I do. Because of this, the dude just cut me off after the 2nd date cause I didn’t give it to him.

[Therisinghero12]

But you still have your dignity afterwards, if he leaves because of that then you know he isn't the right one

[TheFlak38]

Think about the thousands of nice guys you have friend-zoned.

[tasleen]

That's ok... they always look attractive

[Rob7792198]

well why do some men attract fuckgirls

[scooogy]

I used to attract hoes at university.

[Anonymous]

You're either a hoe or bad at sex

[Anonymous]

Maybe you look sexy