Why do I Only Attract Fuckboys?

[Alyssa1111]

By the way, I dress normally everyday, like I don't wear revealing clothes everyday (before anybody points that out).

Whenever I like a shy guy, he doesn't like me back. Perhaps because I'm a loud extrovert kind of person...
But yeah am I doing something wrong? It's always the fuckboys who are trying to get with me.

[genuinlysensitive]

As for fuckboys, yes dressing slutty will get you even MORE attention from them, but in their mind it a numbers game. The more women they ask the more will say yes, so eventually they will ask every woman they see. They don't care how many times they get rejected.

Shy guys can be tricky, especially for extroverts. Most shy guys are natural introverts, it sounds like you just are handling them wrong. Remember what comes natural to you isn't natural to shy and introverted guys, its hard for us.

I'm guessing you like to hang out in loud places with lots of people around as a "loud extrovert?" Try someplace quiet like a coffee house, let them talk, and make sure you remember that being social doesn't come as naturally to them as it does to you. Make sure you NEVER seem bored around them as they will take it personally. Use your extrovert charm to make them feel special, and that you enjoy spending time with them, even though they are not the social butterfly you are. Also, read a few books. A lot of introverts and shy people are avid readers, and like to discuss books they've read, and liked.

Might I suggest "Quiet" by susuan cain. It will help you get into the mind of introverts!

[Levin]

It's doubtful that you only attract fuckboys. But rather, only the guys who don't give a shit have the balls to approach you, especially at your age :) Guys your age tend to be rather timid...

[TayTay21]

Oh sweetie, it's not just you lol! Most guys our age are colossal fuckboys. Not all, mind you, but most of the ones who hit on girls a lot are complete douchebags. The problem is that so many of the better guys are too shy for their own good. It would be nice if they would get some balls and start asking out the girls they like.

[Yeahno12]

Fuckboys try to get with every girl... But it may be the extroversion that's intimidating the shy guys. It might not necessarily be that they don't like you back, but they might be so shy/nervous that it SEEMS that they aren't interested.

[Beaver19]

I don't mean to be rude but often fuckboys have lower standards, contradictory to what many believe the guys who often want something real and are truly sweet have incredibly high standards on looks and personality, if we are going to be with one girls she's got to look far above average and be sweet. Even if the guy is subpar looking I've noticed that guys who want something real are typically much more picky on looks as well. I'm not meaning that to be shallow just honest. I know I'm this way with my high standards on body and mind in a girl before I give her a shot and I want to wait until marriage for sex

[Alyssa1111]

yeah i understand, no offence taken haha.
I'm generally told that I'm pretty but I don't know...

[Beaver19]

I'm not saying to accept a fuckboy just realize they are simply playing odds and are saying that to every girl.

[Alyssa1111]

yeahhh, thank you.

[Beaver19]

People are also right when they say that guys who want something real are slower to approach girls as we don't want to be mistaken for said fuckboys so we are careful and also we actually care what the pretty girl thinks so when we are rejected we actually hurt some and it's harder for us compared to others who just want sex if that makes sense.

[Alyssa1111]

well hopefully i'll meet someone like that one day.

[Beaver19]

If you hold out you will, at no point did I mean to say you weren't attractive I never saw you so I couldn't say I just mean I'm sure every girl has issues with guys like that.

[Alyssa1111]

yeah dw, i know that, its cool :)

[helloeveryone100]

because they are attractive.

the media has made good guys/real men unattractive beleive it or not.

this is why you see women in their late to early thrities lose their power (looks, youth) and want nerdy guys, or good guys... shy etc.

women are also slaves to emotion and feelings... a man who does what he wants, selfish, seemingly happy is attractive and intriguing... its challenge...

we all like whats bad because its attractive then get hurt, have those types become associated with bad feelings and settle down with someone very different.

[Alyssa1111]

I always reject them though. Like I can't stand them no matter how good they look.

[helloeveryone100]

maybe you're a pretty attractive chick thats why.

chubby sub average chicks are often obsessed with good looking guys while pretty chicks want to be treate like princesses and like giving personalities. we all want what we can't have... we associate value with scarcity.

[Ghost513]

I dunno... maybe you're on some secret Fuckboy hit list or something. As a typically introverted guy, I'll say that I prefer women who are loud and extroverted because they can keep the conversation going or even bring out a side of me I don't show often.

[Alyssa1111]

yeah, and i feel like i'd get along with introverted guys that way too.
That's good to know.

[Rangers]

Why don't you try to surprise him by making the first move. As a shy guy I can tell you we're shy because we are worried we'll say something lame, and we know the smallest mistake will easily kill our chances of getting a girl. To make matters worse you don't seem shy at all and they assume you want a guy more like you. If you strike first the shyness will disappear and things will fall into place. No promises it will work I'm just telling you what I think will work for you. I wish you all best of luck

[Octavius]

It may be the places you hang out. Can't really say for sure based on what we know.

As for shy guys maybe you come on to strong with them. Maybe just slowly work your way into getting to know them before you try to make anything happen. But if you are seeing signs the whole way that say he doesn't like you then assume that's the case.

[Alyssa1111]

yeah, apparently i'm intimdating to them. I guess i'll try to be softer...

[Keiran1995]

Because the shy guys are shy and the fuck boys have got huge game and pursue you. Check mine ! www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q2060912-why-hasn-t-she-rejected-me-lol

[accomplice]

Instead of asking why do you attract one group perhaps ask why you do not seem to be attracting another.

Perhaps the shy guys are deterred by their shyness and by something you project. The fuckboys are deterred by nothing. The challenge, then, is how to get the shy guys to overcome their shyness.

[Pac-Man]

Every half descent looking girl will attract fuckboys lol cause thats what they are, fuck boys. They will try with everyone so don't take it personally.

[Anonymous]

Fuckboys hit on girls constantly, so every girl is hit on a lot by them.

It's like asking 'why is my email so often spam', or 'why are so many phone calls telemarketers.

Spammers, fuckboys, and telemarketers aren't that common, but they spend huge amounts of time cold contacting people.

[RedVulcan]

As a shy introvert guy, I would definitely be less interested in loud extroverts. Imho they just feel like a different sort of person that won't work out so well with me.

[oldanddecrepid]

At 18 most guys just want to get laid, so you just have to keep your eyes open for the one in a thousand.

[Anonymous]

Its not only you, its what this feminism thing has done to men. Just like how feminism is hurting mens lives, dating and relationships are hurting women. It both ways. My advice, just focus on your career, most people will end up single and lonely in this world.

Women have to be incredibly competitive because the dating pool consists of very few good men and a large population of good women

[Alyssa1111]

Feminism? LOOOL okay

[Jayded1]

The curse of being really hot is fuck boys try to get you and shy guys think you only want fuck boys.

[AhGojira]

Because you're the type of person that uses words like fuckboy.

[Anonymous]

Well of course, because theyre fuck boys, they only want to fuck you, thats all.

[AleDeEurope]

Maybe you don't have more to offer than your body?

[Words_and_Wisdom]

Maybe you should stop labeling everyone as a fuck boy.

[Alyssa1111]

But they are :(

[helloitsmethere]

Fuckboys don't care about what you're wearing.

[Alyssa1111]

i just thought some opinions would point out the idea, that dressing in a certain way asks for a certain type of attention...

[Isnifffarts]

Maybe you're a fuckgirl

[Alyssa1111]

HM perhaps

[Trending]

Body of a goddess but personality of a bitch

[Alyssa1111]

LOOOL to be honest, yeah kinda.