Don't assume every person is like that, judged a person as an individual.
You have to keep looking for a person who wants a relationship and you will find out that is very hard in this day and age, as we are in the instant gratification/pursuit of pleasure here in America. Every corner people just want gratification. In high school, there are some great people who also want a relationship, yet it is hard and rare they work out since they are also thinking about college, the future, family, etc. In college I would say things are more slanted towards open sexuality and not a relationship since people are focusing on school not a relationship it seems!
Now, I am in high school like you. I know there are people who seek relationships and such it just comes down to who are surrounded with are where you are looking. Also who you are and who you want to be with. In high school most guys are more immature than girls since girls mature faster, so the odds are harder. That doesn't mean there isn't any! There is always someone even if you are in the minority! In your case, you are in the minority group who actually wants a relationship! Which is a good thing since you don't want to give yourself away so quickly, which is a trait many men would like to see.
Now, you sound like you have a good standards of what you want. Which is good, keep them, are you looking in the right place? Maybe it isn't the right time and you need to better yourself for the right man to come along. Are you at the same standards you want your dream man to be at? If not, work on yourself!
If you look in the gutters of the world, any city, street, or country every gutter is the same. If you only look in the gutter for water, you will get dirty water.
It may take time to find a guy, but there are good ones out there. Try and dress more modestly and concealed. Don't seek validation from others, you should be confident in your own skin and not need others eyes for approval. You may not be seeking a hook up, but if you dress like you are, then what do you expect will happen? Guys like the ones you mention will think so. That is why you should dress modestly, cover up.
Cheers!
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"dramatic and be greatful for the attention."
- The grass is always greener right? You could be on the end of the stick of no choices rather, they are on the end of the stick of being able to be selective.
-- Why are they dismissive about your "issue?" Well... it's like hearing a rich person complain "my farrari has been in the shop for at least 2 more hours then expected."
- So unfortunately, when you unleash your problems.. it will spawn some envious emotions, this is something you'll have to just deal with as an adult as to who the audience is you are griping to.
However... back to the task at hand. I can tell you this... as a young man in my 20's, i told myself i wanted a relationship and liked girls for their personality. After reflecting.. i just feed myself BS stories and only appreciated women for their looks... why?
-- well at that age, guys are far behind in terms of their knowledge and understanding of "people." Women are innately intuitive and given they are emotionally driven, can see an undesirable personality trait and have that be enough not to pursue someone.
I can recall some of the guys around me at the time who were labled "nice and wanting relationship," they expressed "it's about personality" only to go after a girl whos a bimbo and air head.
Advice:
-- In a way, try to be grateful that you have the cards dealt to you with the power of choice. The flip side of course is "no boys want me and i have 0 choices."
However... with that, you are also going to have to deal with unsolicited attention and a lot of hidden agenda guys. After typing all this.. perspective from another female maybe in her 30's whose had the same quandary will probably have better insight.
You are a WISE woman to know that sexual attraction is not grounds to be lucky, or proud. You can't stop hormonal boys from liking you. You can only wait until you find someone who shows genuine interest. You are not just a sexual object. You are a person.
You CAN tell them that sexual harassment is not okay and tell your parents and teachers! It is not your responsibility to ignore, or tolerate disgusting behavior.
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Because you have to talk to people to be attracted to anything beyond that, but physical attraction is the first step
Everytime a girl says this sort of thing I roll my eyes because I know exactly what is happening.
You say ALL guys BUT you are only talking about the guys you are interested in of, LIKE ALL girls/women, you are only interested in jerks, popular guys, etc.
I've been watching this for 30yrs. My next door neighbor gets drunk and calls his girl names, they fight, he hits them and they hit back, he ignores then then they break up but every month he has a new girl. And endless supply.
See, girls like jerks and then complain about how they cheat and treat them bad.
On the other hand there is the guy who is loyal, emotionally supportive, sensitive, honest, sympathetic, etc. The type who values your thought as a human being.
And all the girls don't see a point into liking him. He's not popular, he's not black, he's not a huge sport fan, he's not loud, etc.
So if you want to be treated good then meet a geek, gamer, or someone who is shy or passive.
If not then don't whine because the popular ones mistreat you.At your age most of the guys like me who want relationship are in hiding and don't associate with those whom they don't know are for them. You'll attract the colors you show, show loyalty and choose well, and hopefully the right guy will notice and ask you out.
Actually most of the guys get immensely turned on seeing such a girl. And when they are young teenagers, the hormones are raging... and they can't help but think about the body and all.
Guys who are more mature would go for a serious relationship while appreciating your body at the same time. You just need to find someone matured for their age.Physical attraction is the first step,
after that your personality, behavior, caring nature and all that things good about you are going to get you a very serious boyfriend. Its not our fault cuz You may stay beautiful for like 35 max after that its you we have to bear and live with and after 3 years your attraction will fade in our eyes.As said by others.. wear less revealing clothing. It's pretty obvious that if you wear revealing clothing that you'll get attention from fuckboys.
Since more trustworthy and loyal guys won't go for that kind of type since its pretty much the same as the so called "fuckboy". No guy wants her girl to be looked at permanently and revealing everything to everyone :p
Pretty obvious in my view but that might just be me.
Tip: wear more formal clothing and act more towards passive guys since they are mostly the loyal types and romantic aswell since they will give their 100% for 1 girl to make her happy.
The way I read your story... you sound pretty naive and act the opposite of way to reach your goal.
(Personal opinion) :)It's the age that your at, and the age of the guys that would be into you. As we men grow older and become more mature we start to become more long-term thinkers, and therefore our interest in relationships increases.
What I may think may be an issue, is you may have body language/facial expressions when out in public, that turns off most guys.
Seeing that the only ones that approach you are the fuckboy types that "seek a challenge"... this makes sense.You are under 18, what do expect.
It is hard to find a grown man in his 20's how about a boy?
Also, if you want a grown up guy whom is serious, you will find him as a boring guy, and you will reject him before even getting to know him.If u think it's a nature of a guy... There are so many cases that will discuss about guys body parts and all
yeah sounds like attitude problems. like you say, your friends say you are lucky (you are) but you manage to find a problem in it. you sound a bit spoilt tbh
so stop wearing tight or low cut clothes. make them get to know you when you're NOT showing off your body. If they refuse, then they're not worth knowing in the first place.
coz you're a women and men only think from their freaking penises. -_-
Change your dress and change your attitude and you will get a different attention.
You are gonna encounter fuckboys anyway if you are desperate to get in a relationship.
So why keep dressing in attention seeking clothes?
Its the nature of guys, they just can't resist
Stop dressing like that
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