Why do single men fuckzone me?

[Anonymous]

Most people would describe me as very introverted and shy. I am not a flirtatious person and I dress modestly. A few men (college acquaintances, coworkers etc.) have expressed their interest in a fling but take no interest in getting to know me as a person. Some of them even dislike me and act rude while being nice and welcoming to everyone else.

I know these men have crushes on other women they want to have relationships with. What do these women have that I don't? Am I just not pretty or intelligent enough to be considered girlfriend material? I know I'm not acting needy because I was never expressed any romantic interest in these men. What do you think?

[ThinkFitness23]

Life is about balance, this balance touches everything & everyone.


For some reason these men want a few eggs in your basket out of the dozen available to them.


Don’t take it personally this is just a guess:


Maybe they view you as below Par..


Emotionally open and available..


Too attainable rather than desirable..


Would be interesting to see you to gage your overall appearance as young men are the most visually driven beings on earth.

[Asker]

Below par in what way?

[ThinkFitness23]

As a whole…

[lightbulb27]

The way I see people... it's energy, what we are projecting emotionally influences how others respond. "If you look like a sheep, then a wolf is going to be interested... in eating you".

So you draw the wrong energy. If you look like a victim, then others treat you like that. Think about the women who are prostituties... they don'twant that job and likely were beaten or abused into it, but they feel that is whom they are or have no choice. Some pathetic guys will be happy to fall into their swell and use them and walk away. Then they will go try to find a real girlfriend they can respect and value.

You have to "put yourself out there" while as well, project value, values, standards and be ok with your answers. Shy is a very dangerous thing in this fallen world.

In the heart the answer lies...

[Allyfax]

Babe it impossible to find a person who wants to settle down most of them are animals who just open up or act rude to sleep with you the world nowadays is sick like that just so many hurt broken people so id say the right one will come if you ready for him /her but never forget to have fun , time passes so fast , you wouldn't want to be that granny or gramps that said i wish i could to back , and slap myself to get out of that broken heart situation and just have fun cuz shit sometimes i want to and im just 30 think she will come when its time but lonely ness sucks 2 people are scared of dating nowadays

[jojopi]

Do you wear revealing clothes or something? You maybe looking like a person who'd let anyone as long as they can impress you so men get into a competition, this also depends where you hangout.

People could be thinking you are so hot that you definetly have a boyfriend or something, it's not easy to know if a guy wants a long term relationship. Easiest way would be to ask them althou never forget some guys will always lie in order to get a night with you.

A guy who'd want a long relation ship will most likely want to know more about you before he can decide to settle or not, perhaps some of your friends or past friends have tried to play the long game but they never got the chance or they were shy to take action etc.

Worst case you gave them wrong assumptions, if you seem like loose person that doesn't care, as an example: Girls who wear revealing clothes.

Then some people that want long term might not even approach you.

[jojopi]

Another thing is you maybe making guys desperate by making it seem impossible to have you open up and talk more, so they go to their last option which would be sex.

First thing a guy decides about is what he can see with his eyes so main reason is that you are attractive-

[Adititte]

I'd say that you are introverted doesn't help. Men are relatively simple. If they don't see that you would open up to them they won't consider you as "girlfriend material". But if they think you are hot they still would fuck you. It's kind of like a trade off. If they don't think you'll date then they would at least fuck you

[FilmGuy93]

One problem I've noticed that a lot of shy girls have with men is that the women don't feel comfortable opening, so guys never get a chance to bond with anything but her physical appearance. She hasn't given him anything to fall in love with. So of course he fuckzones the girl; the only thing he knows about is her physical appearance.

[boggboss]

Sounds like because u are introverted people don't get to know u so the only intrest they take is in your looks which Leeds to them only wanting to fuck u as wanting more tends to require them knowing u a bit

[Asker]

I thought about that too. On the other hand men oftentimes crush on introverted shy girls so I tend to think it has something to do with my looks.

[boggboss]

They wouldn't want to fuck u if they didn't think u was somewhat attractive crushing tends to be based on looks

[Asker]

Yes, so maybe I am attractive enough to fuck but not to crush on?

[boggboss]

Sure it's a possibility not the one I believe but it's possible

[Truthatanycost]

'I know these men have crushes on other women they want to have relationships with.'

That means nothing. Are all of those women already taken?

[Asker]

well that means that they are not just fuckboys who just want to sleep around. Some of those women are single others are married.

[jshm2]

Like you said, you're "introverted" and not very bright in picking up the signs and hints from guys and girls.

They probably think you're lesbian or stuck up.

[Anonymous]

Either you aren't good enough (in their eyes) to do something serious with
OR you just simply make their dicks real hard and they can only think about sex with you not love.

[Asker]

Good enough in what terms? Looks, intelligence?

[Opinion Owner]

It depends on what that guy wants and values. I don't value intelligence. I don't overly value above average looks anymore. I value kindness, courtesy, inclusivity, romance, desperation (desire), boundaries to protect a person standard, etc.

Don't try to be what a guy wants. Be what you value. If you value kindness. Be so kind that everyone notices how kind you are. Most people are conditionally kind not unconditionally kind.

Everyone has their own vision of love and just because you dont fit in someone else's vision doesn't make you less than.

[TheSpaceGnome]

If you never expressed any romantic interest in any of them, why would any of them see you as girlfriend/wife material?

[Asker]

lol their crushes don't like them back either but for some reason they keep chasing them for years and consider them girlfriend material

[Cedman]

You have to learn how to flirt or give guys signs that you like them. Otherwise it looks like your not interested and guys stop pursuing.

[Headstrongcrazylover]

I would like to be your friend, if you are willing to try on an Personal and emotional level. Dm me

[Anonymous]

You let them. Women who wait for marriage don’t get fuckzoned

[Asker]

I never had sex in my life

[Opinion Owner]

Then how are you fuckzoned?

[Asker]

They keep pushing themselves onto me and make suggestions but don't want to get to know me on a personal level.

[Opinion Owner]

Ahh I see. Well good then. You’re avoiding the men you want to avoid

[Anonymous]

Dunno, probably it is easier to just see you.

[TheMajesticKing777]

If I knew the reason I'd tell you

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

You are offering it.

[Asker]

I'm a virgin and I'm not even friendly to these men

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

My bad. I miss understood your headline question and didn't bother to read the details.

Some men just desire sex, it's your job and responsibility to weed them out.

[Anonymous]

You're hanging out with the wrong guys.

[Asker]

No man has ever expressed interest in my personality which is why I have never been on a date nor in a relationship in 25 years. It can't always be only the mens fault.

[Opinion Owner]

Well the guys around you are obsessed with sex. Not all guys are like this; so it would be worthwhile for you to find a place where guys are interested in relationships. Changing yourself for the wrong guys is not going to be helpful. The right guys may actually like your personality. The changes you make that attract f-bois are probably the opposite of what relationship guys want.

[Asker]

The men in question might be obsessed with sex but I know that they have crushes on other women and treat them differently to me.

[legalboxers]

-blinks-

[Asker]

Can you elaborate please?

[legalboxers]

maybe its the ones you attract. All single men purposely out to fuckzone? no rhyme or reason? what vibes do you give off for them to get to that summation

[Asker]

I give off disinterested and indifferent vibes I've been told

[legalboxers]

well then there's your answer ma'am

[Asker]

lol, I have seen men crush on women who don't even notice them. You don't crush on someone because they are interested in you

[Anonymous]

🤣🤣🤣

[Asker]

What's so funny? Enlighten me