Spent 5 days with his family, is it too soon to bring up the relationship talk?

[Anonymous]

I have been speaking to this guy for 1½ month, he asked me to go with him to his sister's wedding before we even had our first date. I live in his home country and he lives in the UK. Had our first date the day he arrived - before be drove to his family home which is 3 hours away. Initially I was only going to be there Sat - Sun but he asked me to stay for 5 more days. We had lots of PDA, I met his entire family & his mother, godfather and grandfather absolutely loved me.(We also had sex). He went back to his country & we've spoken about me visiting in a few weeks. Still haven't spoken about what we are doing, should I bring it up or go with the flow? We speak everyday if that matters. Should be worth mentioning, I'm an African woman & he's Polish.

[Anonymous]

So everyone is saying too soon. I’d say the same, but the fact that he asked you to his sister’s wedding, you met his entire family plus more, then you stayed w them for 5 days. That to me is something that only happens when you’re further along in a relationship. When you’re serious about someone. There’s no way I’m introducing a girl to my family after 1.5 months. That’s way too early. I didn’t even bring my son around my girl who I’ve been w now for 15 years till about a year into our relationship. Simply because I didn’t want him to get attached to her after a couple months only for us to breakup now he’s wondering where she’s at. Same thought w meeting his family. You don’t bring random girls around only to breakup w them after your mom falls in love w her, dad likes her, etc, etc.

[Anonymous]

As soon as I saw you write (We also had sex), I knew it was all over. Until you ladies truly understand the value of sex, you will never be taken seriously for any relationships. Once you understand it's true meaning and purpose, you will never have causal sex again.

[SueShe]

In my opinion, it is a little early to bring up that relationship talk.

You only know him for 1 1/2 months and you already done more in that time than many people in years. His family loves you apparently and that is one very big hurdle that you did master.

However, how much can you know of a person in that short time? You are so young and I believe that you are taking a risk, mainly in view of the fact that you have such different backgrounds and live so far apart.

Think it over very well and do not rush any decisions you may regret later. But if you have the feeling that both of you are ready, then by all means, go ahead.

If I were confronted with this situation, I personally would still wait. Good luck.

[sheikalana]

Wow this was interesting to read. This is what I have to say. How did you feel comfortable in staying with his family for five days, meeting his family, going to his sister's wedding, have sex with him but still feel hesitant in asking what's the status of your relationship? You already did the 'hard' part bringing the relationship talk should be an easy thing to do and you deserve to know where you both stand after all that.

[Asker]

I don't know how I did it but it just felt natural when I was with them. We laughed a lot and they were just happy to see me i guess.

I'm going to see him in the UK in July so I think I'll bring it up in person :)

[sheikalana]

Seems fair. Best of luck to you!

[TommyMountainFigure]

The relationship is going smoothly. I would question why you feel the need to give it a label. That is what adds pressure to a relationship.

[SotiCoto]

Just get it over with. Do it.

[moneymagnet24]

Girl go slow it's a trap..

[Anonymous]

If he's interested, he’ll bring it up

[In_Trance]

Too soon