Do you need friends to get a girlfriend?

[scott04sa22]

[WonderBell99]

No, both are completely unrelated. However, if you need someone to set you up on a blind date with someone else, or ask for advice, friends are needed. I don’t think it’s a requisite though

[scott04sa22]

I never been on blind dates

[WonderBell99]

Well, if you’re able to find dates by yourself, I don’t think you need friends to get a girlfriend

[WonderBell99]

Thanks for the MHG by the way. Much appreciated

[scott04sa22]

I never been on any dates in my life. There was one person who was interested but she ghosted me then that’s it

[scott04sa22]

Your welcome

[WonderBell99]

I think you should keep trying. If you don’t try, it’s almost impossible to find a partner. Put yourself out there, go on dating apps, meet new people, volunteer at an animal shelter, old age homes etc. or join a club you’re interested in

[scott04sa22]

I tried all those but no success. On dating apps I got screwed pretty badly from someone on there and your right it’s almost impossible to find someone good nowadays

[WonderBell99]

No, I don’t mean nowadays. There are plenty of good men nowadays who are relationship material. You have to go out. People ghost a lot on dating apps. I’d never recommend it unless you’re looking for hookups or something casual

[WonderBell99]

men and women nowadays*

[JoyGirl]

Nope, I don’t think so.

[JoyGirl]

Thank you for the MHO. 💜

[HighlyVolatile]

Typically I think someone struggling to make friends of their own choosing among strangers might benefit from working on that before graduating to trying to get dates. A lot of those social skills carry over to talking to women and asking them out successfully. I don't think it's necessary to have friends but I do think it's extremely useful to have the ability to make friends whenever desired.

[scott04sa22]

I never had any success on asking someone out

[HighlyVolatile]

The way that I found most comfortable (as one who is not very smooth or one who wanted to risk doing something too forward that would make women feel awkward) is to chat with everyone around me: men, women, young, old. I never really "approached" women. I'd just talk to everyone around me.

That gave me a lot of practice in developing conversation skills with strangers, and every now and then I'd sort of stumbled into an engaging conversation with a pretty girl who seemed very enthusiastic about talking to me. Then I'd steer the conversation to a casual invitation to hang out together (ex: from a mutual interest in activities, music, or food to an invitation to experience such things together) and that usually worked.

But moreover, I think this is the most fun way since we can make a lot of friends along the way. Those friends also often have connections. For example, I befriended a girl long ago who turned me down after I asked her out. But I asked her out so casually and innocently that she was still smiling and friendly after she rejected me, and we became friends. Then she invited me to a picnic where I met my now-wife (my wife was her friend).

[HighlyVolatile]

* [...] (as one who is not very smooth [and] one who [didn't want] to risk doing something too forward that would make women feel awkward) [...]

[scott04sa22]

Yes, I know sometimes the right person comes unexpectedly. The people who I met from the past have a higher chances meeting their true soulmate and not me. For awhile i through I was cursed with good luck Chuck syndrome but it turns out I’m not cursed. it’s seems the girls who turned me down from the past until now are breaking up with their man who they got together after meeting me. I guess karma is biting them.

[ShadezMcgee]

It definitely helps, but it isn't necessary. One can get a girlfriend without friends, but you will only have her in your life and a lot of that responsibility can be overbearing and taxing for one person to be the one who is focused on alone.

Having friends and relationships outside of a girlfriend keeps it balanced and removes added pressure on them.

[AviatorTom]

No, but it helps, since your friends can introduce you to girls.

[scott04sa22]

My family or friends never introduce me to any girls

[WhitneySnow]

No, but it helps. A lot of girls especially in high school don’t want to date a complete loner. Plus your friend can be your wing man at like parties and stuff.

[Anonymous]

not exactly but it could get you faster possibilities because you meet more people, so more chances of meeting someone that's willing to try something with you, as oppose to no friends means meeting less people and less chances but it doesn't mean it's impossible.

[HawkPerception]

No you definitely don't, but having girls know you are socially apt will increase the chances of them being interested in you.

[Anonymous]

No. I did it with having 0 friends. But never tell a woman you have no friends. Some will hold it against you. Many jump to the worse conclusions. Like you must be a killer. Many of them really think that way.

[CuriousMufuxka]

No, I put in the work myself. I shit you not, this is where I learned my method..

https://www.youtube.com/embed/N7FVmeJXwCY

It's more of a numbers game.

[kinggeorge007]

The question isn't clear I guess. I'd like to be her friend first and then date, if it is what you ask

[007kingifrit]

no but it does make it easier to approach a woman. but you don't need one, just get on a dating site (not an app)

[Lionman95]

Yes because women are more likely to choose guys that socialize with others well than loners and outsiders.

[zagor]

No. In fact having friends could hinder instead of help.

[exitseven]

No, I think you can get by just fine on your own.

[scott04sa22]

The question in general is not about me. Plus Im not looking anymore lol

[exitseven]

I am using the royal"WE". I do not have many friends. Sometimes I would see a girl at a bar and if I was with friends I would try to get rid of them somehow and then go back to the bar and try to ask her out. I did this twice. I got a 1 for 2.

[Cherry234]

No; it's not a requirement although it may help.

[UniquelyBasic]

If you need like a wing man

[NathanDavis]

you need gravity

[scott04sa22]

Gravity?

[NathanDavis]

yes, as in... 9.8 m/s^2

[DizzyDesii]

No. They’d likely steal her from you

[scott04sa22]

OK… that time huh?

[DizzyDesii]

No im not saying you specifically. Im sure you’re fine. But i dont trust friends. Too many have underlying intentions to go after everything you have

[Iron_Man]

That has nothing to do with that

[Guy__]

No, just be handsome and smart.

[Creampiekarl420]

Technically yes because you need social skills

[TrillXHippy]

No you don’t need friends to get a girlfriend

[clemdenim]

What would that have to do with it

[Guy13]

Hell no…

[Guy13]

You need jokes and the ability to make one laugh to get a Girl. Memorize 5 animal jokes. If she laughs then she’d yours. Tell her punchlines when she drinks. BEST Strange I’ve ever had was from the girl who had cider run out her nose caught between laughing, swallowing, and not spewing out of mouth…

[Anonymous]

No, my self esteem is just fine.

[Ringstretch]

Not necessarily

[In_Trance]

No you don't

[penteractgaming]

No but it helps

[Anonymous]

Not really