How do I tell a guy I’m not looking to just hook up?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been seeing this guy for about 2 weeks and so far he seems genuinely into me and in just those short weeks we talked every day & seen each other a couple times.

How do I tell this guy I’m not looking for any casual hook ups & hoping to find a genuine connection? I enjoy spending time and talking to him a lot and so far it seems like he does too. I’ve already spent a night at his place and just as of yesterday he started calling me “babe” or “baby”

I just am afraid of continuing to spend time with him only to find out he thinks we’re only hooking up or he’s looking for a hook up.

[Anonymous]

Through your actions. i. e by not hooking up, not having sex until established as exclusive and by not staying the night. In other words by having strict boundaries of how you act, and enforcing them. With strict boundaries you don't need to worry so much about another persons actions.

[Anonymous]

Have you had casual hook ups in the past with other dudes?

[Asker]

I have and it’s not something I’m looking for but those guys were. I’m at the point where I want to find something meaningful and not waste trying to figure out if a guy is looking for something casual or genuine

[Anonymous]

Just be honest and straightforward with your feelings.

[In_Trance]

You say I'm sorry I'm not looking to just hook up