You should have told him like in yesterday like in 2 months and 3 and a half weeks ago! especially since you've been with him for 3 months what the heck are you doing you're wasting his time stop playing games it's only going to get worse if you're afraid to hurt his feelings well damn you're definitely going to hurt his feelings no matter which way you look at it it's been 3 months. Stop leading him on and get it over with he deserves to know the truth
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asap, this way not to waste his time or yours but also not to mess with his emotions. meet him to talk and tell him
There's never a good time for bad news but it needs to be done.
Don't hang out, just tell him you need to talk: meetup with him, and do it.
That's how my ex dumped me, and while it hurt at the very least she respected me enough to say it to my face. And so we ended things on good terms
I’m in that situation right now. Seeing a girl, I want more but she is going super slow…. I think she isn’t interested in having me as a boyfriend but she won’t say that….. so to answer your question AAA a guy in that situation I want to know right away. Don’t drag it out.
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Simple answer... as soon as you decide that you're not interested in dating him. Set him free so that he can find someone else to date... and maybe establish a nice relationship with.
Depends how serious things were and what was promised/agreed upon
As soon as he is hinting to you that he wants more then just friendship with you, is when you should tell him or otherwise he is going to feel like you are just stringing him along , giving him hopes that he actually has a chance with you. Sadly your friendship with him will probably fade away once he knows you aren’t interested in him that way , so be prepared to not really see him much anymore , Why Guy’s and Girl’s can’t really be friends especially if one is attracted to the other , Most guy’s that like a girl will invest a lot of his time into her , a guy isn’t going to invest his time into a girl that he isn’t attracted to period. It’s just the way it goes in most cases. When someone really likes you they aren’t going to need much space from you , always remember that , When someone needs a lot of space from you they aren’t truly into you period , People will try to sugarcoat it all they want but the truth is they truly don’t value you , they like the convenience of you
I’m glad you told him tho I don't know how long it was until you told him. But the important thing is you told him. I know bad news is the hardest thing to tell because I can speak for myself only but you may feel the same I don't know. But I really don’t like hurting anyone’s feelings. It’s a good thing and bad thing for me lol. But also don’t want to never tell the other person because then seems like you’re leading him on. I Can tell you seem like a very nice person so I don’t think you’d do that but it can seem like it.
hmm. From a guy's POV, the fact you give him attention means he has a chance. So even "hanging out" is a form of dating if he made it clear to you that he's interested. Of course, if you told him you're not sure then it's on him if he keeps "hanging out". But it's not good if there's confusion. Best to not hang out with a guy you know is into you if you have zero interest.
It looks like you already found the help you needed. But I'll say it again. Never wait with this. Leading someone on isn't good for both you and him. Even if it's not his intention, it's good to let him know beforehand.
Always say it face to face and in a respectful manner, because you are going to hurt that person's feelings if you know that he likes you. You can only soften the blow.
Well in better homes and dating magazine they say after 15 dates
But they say 11 dinners one movie two lunches and one roller coaster ride
I think you should tell him the very first time he called youDude, guys who have sex are doing a lot better than me. Don't feel bad for just having sex with a dude, from his perspective it's a hell of a lot better than not getting laid
When you say “you were seeing him” does that mean you were actually more than friends during that time?
As soon AS you know so. Don't keep someone hanging on.
The moment he shows interest in, you don’t string him along
One the 2nd date but that's not written in stone but as soon as I feel like a relationship is not going to happen I let that person know so I don't waste there time!
I would tell him asap. Don't string him along. Are you two having sex?
before.
why do you not want to date him?
As early AS possible. Give him the possibilty, to find His girl. Givee him free
ASAP. Meet up him, its better saying this face to face than in the phone. Both of you deserve respect and its the best thing. You must tell him to not waste his and your time.
Just point out for everyone - sooner you tell her/him you are not intrested of them more easy it will be them to recover. Please do not waste their time. Mixed signals or giving them hope are the worst
As soon as you know you're not interested, it's time to let them know.
during but at beginning. then continue in friends zone
Simple. Wait until he declares his undying love for you in an epic poem or skywrites your name with a fleet of drones. Then, and only then, can you break the news. Timing is everything, my friend.
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