I reconnected with a guy I knew a few years ago. We've been hooking up about a month. At first I liked him and was pursued hard by him - we were acting like a couple and having deep conversations, cuddling, intimate moments, etc. His interest slowly waned, and I started feeling less validated and more insecure. He ended up *thinking* he had an STI (Im negative, so he just assumed he did in the end) and didn't text me all week while he cured it because we couldn't have sex I guess. Before, he would text me consistently saying he misses me/is thinking of me, and I felt special. Tonight we had plans and when I told him we shouldn't have sex because I wanted to get another STI test beforehand, he ignored me for two hours and I was frustrated and waiting. I ended up just turning off my phone and did my own thing all night. He ended up messaging me at 9pm saying we should meet and that he's fine to have sex now and 'wants me' and messaged a few times because I didn't respond. I ended up being chill and responded at 12am telling him I did my own thing because he took too long to respond and we can hang out tomorrow if he wants.
Basically, his behavior isn't working for me. Treating me like an option, always wants me at his house instead of ever taking me on a date. It's clear he only wants sex. Part of me knows this is the reality and he doesn't like me that way, and that I should just end it with him. The other part doesn't want to jump to conclusions because he acted like he DID like me before. So what should I do? See him tomorrow, hook up, and tell him when I leave that I'm not into how things are and want it to be different if he wants to see me? Or should I just text him something nice and tell him I enjoyed reconnecting, but this isn't it for me? I hate forcing people into doing what they don't want to, and his motives are crystal clear. What's the best way to handle this? I also don't wanna sound crazy, but a guy who likes me wouldn't make me feel that.
