Is it bad to date your bsf brother?

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[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Not necessarily, but it is something that should be discussed with your best friend first.


We all have these “girl codes” and “boy codes.” These are loosely but firmly defined depending on the relationships between people. For example, two girl friends would have a “girl code” that says you can’t date their brother or their ex, because it goes against their “girl code” (their boundaries/off limits).


If your best friend doesn’t mind it, doesn’t find it weird, or doesn’t care if you date him… Then go for it. Just ask for her approval first, because these types of things can be off limits and deal breakers for some friendships. It’s better to respect your friendship/your friends boundaries so your friendship doesn’t break, instead of just following your desires and disregarding your own best friends feelings.


It can get messy sometimes. But again, it depends on the relationship dynamic of you two. Girls have a tendency to get jealous with best friends, if their best friend is hanging around other friends more, or if they don’t talk to them as often as they did because now they have a partner, etc. But it can also make you two closer, now that you guys can all hang out more often.


These are things to consider before proceeding to date your best friends brother. Just talk to her about it, ask her how she feels, and then decide what to do.

[WonderBell99]

I, personally, would never consider dating my best friend's brother or my brother's friends because it could get complicated if we do break up, especially if we end on bad terms. I wouldn't want anyone to come between our friendship and it could create a messy situation for all.

However, if you genuinely like him and are sure that this would never affect your friendship with your best friend, you can go ahead. You never know what the future holds for you. Just go with the flow.

[ChrisMaster69]

Yes and no, it’s really complex and really messes up relationships.

i dated a mates younger sister in secret for a year, he would have killed me if had found out.

One of problems is when you break up with them, it effects your relationship with your friend.

[normalice]

It can get awkward, especially if there is a breakup, but it is not necissarily bad.

[one1wild00]

I hear of that happening more frequently than not.

[In_Trance]

No i don't think it's bad