Can I stop my boyfriend from taking me for granted?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend assumes lots. He knows I like making him feel good and he will push my head down to give him head like I will do it anytime he wants. Sometimes I just don't feel like it or my jaw is still tired from last time. I tried telling him. What else do I do?

[ohshee]

Well to be honest you're the only one that can do it and you really need to do it and do it now because the more you let him get away with the more he thinks he's going to get away with stuff you already know the truth you already know what he's doing you already know that he's manipulating you that's why you asked this question now you're asking yourself how do I stop this because you have all these answers you know all this already now and you want to know how you stop it you look me straight in the eye and you tell him no
And I hear it just in the way that you worded things you don't want to lose the guy
Even though you know he's wrong for you because you hate what he does the thought of losing him
Has changed you and who you are who you were supposed to become
You can't allow this to happen
I hate saying this right now but you can't allow it to happen because if you do your next boyfriend you're going to do the same thing you need to stand up you need to be bold that's who you are that's who you were meant to be it's called compromise but with him it doesn't sound like there's any compromise we both know it's not going to last I'm sorry that I had to say it but it's true
That is not who you are you want to be respected you want to be loved for who you are not for who he was to turn you into the and that's a control freak he wants to control you
I see you as being a leader and I don't even know you but that's what your words tell me you're not a follower

I know this is not the answer that you wanted to hear but somebody has to tell you you're going to yell scream and say I'm wrong and that's okay I understand it

The way a guy treat you it's all going to be up to you if you allow it to happen. He's going to keep doing it if you put a stop to it he will respect you even more
But I think this guy has manipulated you and has used you to a certain point and I believe that down deep you actually know this
But I don't care who it is in this world people are only going to treat you the way you allow them to treat you and that's what's going on right now you are allowing it

I know we don't know each other but I would have to say if you were straight up on this like I think you are you know all my words are true because you already know the answer to your question

[slatyb]

By telling him how you feel, what you like and don't like, and what you want. Then if he doesn't change his behavior you can decide whether you will accept it or end it.

[Trevelyan88]

Are you saying he forces you, when you say no?
Or are you saying you never say no or indicate that you don't want to?

[Asker]

He pushes my head down when he wants it so sometimes I just do it for him but not wanting to

[Trevelyan88]

Is he aware that you don't want to and he just doesn't care?

Cause that sounds like you are dating a rapist if thats true...

And dating rapists is not really good

[Asker]

No lol I do it but a few times I said no and he said please and he really needed to cum so I did it

[Trevelyan88]

So whats the problem?
Just say no...
I promise you the whole "I really need to cum" argument is total manipulation.
He absolutely don't need your help to cum, he has made himself cum his entire life.

Grow a backbone and say no, when you don't want to... Or start getting him to do stuff he doesn't want to do, in exchange... Like go down on you or cook for you or buy you stuff etc..

[Sevenpointfive]

he doesn't reciprocate? instead of it being one-sided try a 69. if he doesn't agree to that i'd dump him

[JSmuve]

I don't know why women don't turn off the flash on their phones when taking mirror selfies. Like come on now.

[Shy_Steve]

Don't think you can Conrol him because you can't, Even when you Love eachother.

[Anonymous]

Yeah that's simple. And if you don't understand it. Nobody can teach you

[Anonymous]

You can’t player.