How do I stop my boyfriend from taking me for granted?

[Anonymous]

I love my boyfriend but when we are together he just assumes lots. He knows I like making him feel good but he will push my head down on him and thinks I like doing it anytime he wants. Sometimes I just don't feel like it or my jaw is still tired from last time. I tried telling him. What else do I do?

[CindersFire]

Tell him no firmly and if he keeps pushing leave. I understand your young and getting shit figured out, but if you don't start setting boundaries now you're gonna end up being walked all over for the rest of you life and possible end up in a really bad spot.

Now I assume you aren't a confrontational person so try starting out small and help build a backbone. A good suggestion I heard online was to find a friend or family member you trust to ask you to do things and have you say no to them or sometimes even straight up leave the room to help the person learn it is okay and to feel better about doing so.

[Smirnoff23]

Talk to him tell him how you feel

[TheFartSaver]

You have to be firm and make it clear. A relationship needs open communication and if he doesn't despect what you have said then he doesn't respect you. Your opinion and feelings matter in the relationship just as much as his. You guys are a team of 2 equals and its time he grows up and understands that or his horny ass can go find someone else to disrespect and use.

[Asker]

I guess I want to most times just sometimes I do not want

[TheFartSaver]

Then make it clear on the times you don't want to. Like him all you want, but he has to respect you when you aren't in the mood or he doesn't like you for you. He likes you because you satisfy his needs. You deserve respect.

[Anonymous]

I think you should stop taking yourself for granted. Have some self respect and stand up for yourself.
If you wouldn't interrupt him when he does that and if he feels there are no consequences of his actions, of course he will do it.
You like him , but dont like him at the expense of yourself. He will lose all respect for you if you keep this up.
Make it clear you dictate the terms what he can do to you and can't , dont be desperate you can find better bfs you can dump him if he keeps it up

[Opinion Owner]

dont let him treat you like a street hooker. thats all i am saying. He obviously is confused between love and lust

[Asker]

I know and like doing it tho most times just sometimes just don't feel like it. He just says please and I do it.

[Opinion Owner]

so just be honest and tell him next time it hurts and you dont feel like doing it. If he loves you he should be able to respect that and practice self control

[sethtav]

Sounds like you are being a good girlfriend

[Asker]

I hope

[Kaneki05]

So your been raped... Well that's umm... Yeah wtf.

[spartan55]

Tell him no. Or just bite it