Dump him. Find a better boyfriend who won't gas light you.
There's a thing called empathy which many young horny Boyz cannot mentally understand. It's that while a blowjob feel great for them, there are NO nerve endings in your throat and does not physically 'feel good for you.'
Next time he pressures you after you say no, tell him to stick a cucumber down his throat. Oh, he doesn't think that sounds fun or pleasurable? What does he think a blow job is if you're not mentally in the mood?
You should never stay with a partner who chooses their own sexual needs over the willingness or consent of their partner.
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At 15, My first boyfriend forced me once. I bit the shit out of the tip of his dick and wouldn't let go. He had to shake me off. Then he chased me and tried to kill me. Whatever. Fair game. He shouldn't have forced himself on me. And no i was never willing to give him head like you did yours. At the time i was disgusted by the thought of oral, and he thought it would be funny to randomly slam my head down on his dick while he was holding it and i was in the middle of conversating with him. Anyways, my teeth marks were in his dick for a week or so
It is time to reconsider your relationship with this boy. You need a man who will respect you, love you and protect you. He sounds like a selfish and lousy lover. Based on your question and description, he isn't taking advantage of you. He is using you. It's time for him to grow up or for you to move on.
As an added bonus to all the men (or boys) reading this, if you want to be a wonderful lover, read "She Comes First" by Dr. Ian Kerner. Get yourself a copy, don't be a cheap ass. And take the time to learn and understand what really pleases a woman. Trust me, it will make you a better lover.
I can understand you want to suck him off to please him when he wants it. When you can't, tell him your mouth is tired and can't now and owe him later. Then surprise him with head when you are ready.
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He sounds like a douche. No offense I don't see your relationship going anywhere serious (if that is even on your mind, if it's not don't worry about it) but sounds like you guys will just date and have a bunch of sex and then eventually move on. In the meantime he'll be really disrespectful to you and you have to set boundaries for him not to treat you that way. I wonder why he treats that way? Like does he not respect women or he doesn't respect you and only sees you for sex therefore he does fucked up shit like that. Or maybe he's inexperienced and he doesn't know how to say, "Hey can you please give me a bj?" But I mean how clueless can he be? Its not hard to ask.. any way I wish you the best
Okay so if you want to go to the store how do you go to the store if you want to go to the mall how do you go to the mall if you want to go get fast food how do you go get fast food you have a car right somebody has a car look at yourself as a car put it in park take the keys out of it and it's not going anywhere until he does the right thing why isn't he going down on you I should be priority he should want to do that you should also be making it all about you and not himself what you allow that this start happening it's going to be like that throughout the whole relationship and only get worse you're the boss you need to set your foot down you need to make the rules and he needs to follow them that's the bottom line
You tell him how it makes you feel when he doesn't take your feelings into consideration. Clear communication is the only way to go. Instead of pushing your head he can ask for a blowjob. Common courtesy, really. Let him know that you matter and make him understand that he cannot use you unless you want to. Every time he wants something you decide if you want to give him active consent or say no. If he doesn't respect a no, he doesn't respect your autonomy and boundaries.
He is using you because he knows you feel this way about him.. don’t be so vulnerable.
Grow a spine love yourself first and tell him to fuck off.
Some affluent man in this world use this technique to their side chick. their wife in the house needs permission and a 2nd referral for such abuseBoth of your sex drives are different. Honesty through communication is the best way to tell him, I mean; isn't your significant other the one person you can be completely honest and personal with?
He's either gonna respect it and be cool, or say ok but in his mind he's kinda like wtf this is lame.
So it might work out, might not.
Most likely not tbh but live your life!This sounds like he doesn't care about you at all. I'm sorry to say you bare just meat to him. No loving man would treat his woman like this. Actually I can picture him becoming physically abusive to you down the road. We're it me I'd have ghosted his ass regardless of what I felt because I know where this might lead. Also looks like a creep anyway tbh
He's not appreciative. Distance yourself "slightly" almost to where its not that noticeable, and then deny anything. If he shows any aggression, he's just insecure.
A REAL relationship will NEVER work UNLESS both parties can function separately be (independent) without each other so there is still personal self development. Lift each other up.
he's young. break up with him to put him back to reality and have him beg to take you back, do you deserve being objectified? as you get older you will find men who have learned from their mistakes and will never take you for granted from the very first date.And who is holding a knife against your throat and forcing you to be with him? Oh, that's right. Nobody. The fact you're still with him and still doing all of that goes to show that you like this dynamic of relationship. Funny enough, this only validates the very stereotype that women give themselves to the 'badboys' and 'assholes'. So out of all the men out there who are willing to treat you well, you decided to pick him. But the nice guys are "boring", as we all know.
He is just a young horny guy and you don't know how to be a submissive for your man.
Issues will come up, like these and many other.
The mouth can be used for other things, like talking, for an example.
Talk it out to a mutually happy solution, if you can't or one breaks it, end it.Rude af. Does he go down on you? Often? Until completion? JS if he's ever down there as he should be, clasp your hands around his head and pull him in tight and close your thighs to lock him in until he taps out for air lol. Good for the goose, good for the gander.
End things now before that turns into a slippery slop. I mean today he pushing your head down and forcing you to give him oral how long before that turns into him ripping your pants down and forcing you to have sex anytime HE wants it. Take care of yourself, there are better guys out there.
If you’re afraid he’ll leave you for refusing to please him, then there’s a power imbalance in your relationship.
Men like it when you take control sometimes. Don’t Always be a yes man. Show negative emotion sometimes.
When he tries that again literally push him off and turn your whole body away from him. Do not talk until he confesses what he did was wrong. Then make HIM give you head. Do not give up power EVERY time.Boy do I love it when girls love a guy who won't care how she feels as long as he's getting the good suck.
You girls are so easily manipulated and I genuinely love it, all the power to us dudes with shitty personalities but a silver tongue while you keep your tongues busy with our cocks down your throats.If he is not listening to you and ignoring when you say no.
then leave him, he is an arsehole and potential rapist.
just go and drop kick him.sounds like you need to do more jaw exercises to keep it in shape. My wife used to have the same complaint but after finding some jaw stretching exercises for her and a bit of hard training, she can now comfortably suck dick to the hilt on the daily without tiring out
Next time he does that, pull a wrestling move on him and slam him to the ground.
Maybe he'll learn some respect then.Some people crave rough spontanous sex and find that sort of thing kinky, if you are blowing him when he does that, he probably thinks you like it. You should have a talk with him about it in the same way you did on here, if he knew it bothered you, he would probably stop.
First of all, how do you know this issue is about taking you for granted? To me it seems like you just aren't putting up boundaries.
Get some stronger ones. Say no when you don't feel like doing something, that's all.Have self-respect. I would beat the shit of him. Next time if he wants blowjob, bite his dick with all your force. Omg that makes me extrem angry. How can you let him treat you like this. Buy a strap-on dildo and tie him up when he sleeps and then tell him that he should suck the strap on dildo. Maybe then he understands it.
And who tf are the dislikers? They dislike almost every opinionSeriously? You don't know the difference being taken for granted and sexual abuse?
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