Never had a girlfriend and don't have any friends. Should I ask my parents for arranged marriage?

[RV2121]

I don't have friends nobody to talk to so I don't think I'll organically meet any girl for dating. My financial situation is great so should I ask my parents for arranged marriage?

Yes you should

Try to be social IRL

Try online dating first

[SueShe]

Arranged marriages are organized when you are a toddler and not when you are 23.

However, you are the only one that can help that situation.

In order to have friends or a girlfriend, you must be pro-active and find friends. They will not just pop up in your life without you being involved in the relation. Best is to join a club, take a hobby where you can meet people with similar interests.

If you are good at one specific occupation, then see if you can find a club or place where others meet that share that passion. The rest will just fall automatically into place. Sharing the same interests with a person is always a good start to get to know that person better because you have common grounds.

But you have to work on yourself first. That would include shyness and social anxiety.

You can train your approach, your attitude and expression in front of a mirror for example. Think of what message you want to bring across and rehearse it until you are satisfied. The next step is the most difficult one and that is the one where you have to put in practice what you learned and rehearsed.

But without you wanting and acting upon it, nothing will ever happen. You have to get out of your comfort zone for it to happen. The most important is not to be afraid to fail. If you are rejected, get back onto your feet and try again.

[RV2121]

Arranged marriage can happen at any age.

My hobbies are boring. I like to play chess and very few women are interested in it. Second thing I like is soccer so hobby club part goes out of window.

My profession pays me well but I'm not passionate about it.

Approaching strangers in public scares me a lot that's why I'm considering arranged marriage as that seems to be only option for me.

Thanks for the suggestions though I appreciate it. I'll probably Wait for arranged marriage

[random_girl95]

Why don't just go out and meet people?

[RV2121]

Thanks for advice. I don't know anyone to begin with. Taking to strangers is something I've never been comfortable with ever in my life. I appreciate the advice

[random_girl95]

Then if you don't like talking to strangers how could you live with a stranger your whole life?

[RV2121]

Because she will be set for me specifically and I'll be set for her. I will be able to talk to her easily because both me and her will know exactly what to expect.

In traditional dating it starts with friendship or casual relationship and to navigate my way into serious relationship from there is a huge challenge.

[random_girl95]

That's the whole point in relationships. Going for the challenge. However if you feel that insecure then do what you think is best for you.

[RV2121]

It's about comfort level. I never got any attention from women throughout my life so I don't have any energy to struggle a lot.

Arranged marriage seems like an easy way out so why not?

[random_girl95]

You don't want to go for the challenge but still want a relationship. Did you ever approached women and got rejected?

[RV2121]

I never approached any women because I'm not very social in general.

I want a relationship without being into any challenges yes. If I have an option I'll try it (probably my only option)

[random_girl95]

In life if you don't fight then you don't get. I just think that arranged marriages belong to the past because people are free to find their own partners nowadays.

[RV2121]

Yes I'm all for self choice. But there are people like me who don't want to fight and struggle and just want the end result as easily as possible.

Arranged marriage is only option for some people so it may be old fashioned but that's all I have

[random_girl95]

Then go for it, if you can't accept something else.

[RV2121]

I'm ready to accept other options but I don't think that'll happen for me. It's either arranged marriage or a celibate forever alone life

[random_girl95]

I told you if you aren't willing to do the first move then there aren't any options for you. Only arranged as you said.

[RV2121]

Yes you're correct. I try to find easy way out in all aspects of my life. Socializing is not my strong domain so I Agee if someone is social they should make the first move but if someone is like me then arranged marriage is best

[random_girl95]

Well good luck in your life. Hope you find what you are looking for.

[RV2121]

I appreciate your time in the conversation..

[random_girl95]

Hope you gained something useful for yourself!

[IMuser]

It is a cause and effect thing. Why don't you have any friends or relationships? Even if you get married, why wouldn't your wife get bored out of someone who hardly has any social influence? Heck she might even cheat you. Humans are essentially social animals

The best thing to do right now is to improve yourself: your physical attributes, your knowledge, your social influence and such.

[RV2121]

I do a work from home job and I get everything I need by home delivery. I know I may get cheated on and I don't care as I'm apathetic at this moment.

My physical body is in good shape and my money situation is good. Social influence is only thing missing and I like being alone in a way so being uncomfortable in a major way just to get female validation seems too much work.

[IMuser]

Tried going in a brothel? Just to get familiar with women? It might help you.

[RV2121]

Brothels are illegal in my country otherwise I would visit there in a heartbeat.

I don't want to get into trouble with law as it's time consuming

[IMuser]

Just travel to a different country for vacation where they are legal? Like Thailand or US

[RV2121]

US also has illegal brothels except Nevada. Thailand is something that's on my mind and will try to go asap.

[IMuser]

Then just go Nevada lol. Just get it done ASAP and your fear of missing out will subside. You will get a motivation of being socially better

[RV2121]

Thanks for the suggestions. I'll do it soon

[IMuser]

All the best

[VanillaSalt]

Are you what women want? do you want women or a good time? are you after a wife and family from this pursuit? seems like you want it to have it from the question.

[RV2121]

I'm what some women will want and some won't as all women are different so they'll consider me attractive as per their choice.

I'm after a family of course as I'm well settled in life and that's logical next step.

[VanillaSalt]

That’s just another way of saying I’m fat but someone will eventually love me. If your not putting forth every effort then someone might but good luck finding real women. Look at what qualifies as women these days. Karen’s and Stacie’s everywhere. Their either yelling or fucking.

You gotta be more than enough to find a good one. Their corrupted fast and few in number as it is.

[RV2121]

I understand that but I'm already doing well in life and in good shape. I can self improve forever and I'll do it but why bother with women when you have arranged marriage opportunities.

[VanillaSalt]

I believe arranged marriages work just fine in places their the norm. People here in the states don’t understand you don’t need a hot girl or rich guy to make a life. They don’t understand what marriage is. They look for the wrong things then don’t have the balls to finish what they started.

It would never work here.

[RV2121]

Yes i understand that but even in states arranged marriage is possible. People in high class go for mostly arranged marriage only and are really happy.

Even friends can help in arranged marriage so it's not always a parents thing.

[VanillaSalt]

So what you want there is a 50/50 chance your marriage is gonna fail anyway.

[RV2121]

Of course not arranged marriage has 6% divorce rate globally which is way less than love marriages

[Anonymous]

if you want to then sure... but would it anyways not also be nice to have some friends at least? social relations doesn't just come naturally to everyone, but everyone can work on getting to know more people

[RV2121]

Yes you're correct. I just live in a time where getting to know others is a big challenge as I belong to gen Z.

I appreciate your concern though if I did not have option of arranged marriage then I was destined for lifetime forever alone

[Opinion Owner]

gen z is not onlyy one type of people.. some are more like you, you may need to be lucky to find them and that takes an effort. Fair if you don't want to invest time in that, but blaming a generation of people is not productive for anything

[RV2121]

I'm not blaming anyone I'm just saying that it's hard to meet new people nowadays and there are many factors that contribute to that.

Arranged marriage is a means to hack the dating market and that's all I'm planning to do.

[MountAverage]

That won't solve your problem.

[RV2121]

Why won't it solve my problem. Just curious

[MountAverage]

The question is rather how on Earth would that solve your problem?

[RV2121]

I'll get a partner with minimum effort and maximum gain that's how it'll solve my problem

[MountAverage]

No, you get a stranger. A couple of questions for you:

1) How is that supposed to help you improve your (apparently entirely lacking) social skills?
2) How will it help you make friends? Having only a partner and no friends is bad.
3) How do you think being tied to a complete stranger will turn into an actual relationship with emotional, romantic and sexual feelings involved?

You think your problem is that you don't have a partner or friends. Your problem is WHY you can't find a partner or friends. An arranged marriage is not gonna solve that problem.

[RV2121]

1. I'll get invited to wherever she's invited to which will increase my social circle and I'll be more comfortable due to pre selection.

2. Her friends can also become my friends so it can help in that sense but not completely so you're correct here.

I'll manage romantic and sexual feelings with complete stranger as I know that her and my parents vouch for me and her so it'll be easy. Approaching a stranger in public just to get rejected is much harder.

[MountAverage]

You are delusional beyond repair. Clearly you believe all this nonsense particularly BECAUSE you're as socially handicapped and incapable as someone autistic. So that's pretty much a viscious circle. Too bad your parents aren't capable of talking some basic sense into their 23 year old son.

The most delusional thing you've said though is this:
"I'll manage romantic and sexual feelings with complete stranger as I know that her and my parents vouch for me and her so it'll be easy. Approaching a stranger in public just to get rejected is much harder."

This can only come out of the halfbrain and mouth of someone who has zero experience with basic human interactions and human relationships. Seriously, have your parents neglected you during your childhood and adolescence and left you all by yourself in the basement or something?

You're a lost cause. Go ahead and ask your failures of parents for an arranged marriage. You'll see.

[RV2121]

Please tell me where I'm wrong rather than gaslighting. There are millions who do arranged marriage and are happy. Arranged marriage has least divorce rate in the world

[MountAverage]

Gaslighting? I don't think you know what that word means, because there's nothing about what I said that was gaslighting.

"There are millions who do arranged marriage and are happy. Arranged marriage has least divorce rate in the world"
I never claimed otherwise. I never made any judgement of arranged marriages in general. I made judgements of YOU. I said an arranged marriage won't solve YOUR issues. Your issues run much deeper.

"Please tell me where I'm wrong rather than gaslighting."
I have already told you in my last response where you're wrong, I actually explained it very thoroughly. So WTF are you talking about?

[RV2121]

My issues has nothing to do with anything. I've issues trying to approach women only to get rejected that's why I'm choosing arranged marriage route as it's easier.

I'm not an autist at all as I'm able to interact well at my job so my social skills are decent it's just that my situation is work from home since long so I don't have any friends

[MountAverage]

Do you think the workplace is the only place people make friends at? If anything, most people have their friends separate from their workplace. So how is that an excuse?

And if it's true that you're able to interact well with people in general, then apparently it's your CHOICE to not approach women. So you've been bullshitting us here all along. You want an arranged marriage because you're a lazy piece of shit who doesn't want to put in any effort.

How about you go fuck yourself, you dishonest incel loser?

[In_Trance]

if you think that's your best option, yes

[RV2121]

Thanks a lot

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Talk to birds

[RV2121]

I do talk to birds I feed them grains daily

[Dinosaursandanime65]

That’s cute and cool

[RV2121]

I created a nest for the birds in my shed. It's really cool babies are grown up now and can fly any day

[Dinosaursandanime65]

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