Do you think most guys get 0 or close to 0 matches in online dating and a small proportion of guys get lots of matches?

[Anonymous]

Yes that’s true

No that’s not true - most guys get the average number of matches

[slatyb]

No idea. I started dating online after divorcing. I used match. com. I was in Dallas liking for a non-religious woman. There were some but not a lot. About one new possibility per month. Most of the women I wrote to responded. Some wrote to me.
It may have helped that I have an attractive face and all my hair.

The longest I was single was about six months. Then I met my wife. She contacted me just as I was about to let my membership lapse.

The experience on free sites may be completely different. Lots of men just perving pictures, lots of women just wanting attention.

[Rob1n]

Jup there are statistics backing it up. About 10-20% of men get most matches. This is because most men are really not that picky, they swipe right on everyone with a pretty face. Most women get about 10 to 80 matches a day because of it.

This amount of matches makes women a lot more picky, which makes absolute sense. Anyone would get 10-80 matches a day would simply date the one who is the prettiest, wittiest, or funniest. After all, you can't have a conversation with all 80 of them.

[Asker]

But if she doesn’t match the best guys standards, would he bother meeting with her or dating her? If he knows he can get much better girls.

[Rob1n]

He might not be interested in long term dating, but there are plenty of guys who simply like the attention or are interested in an one night stand.

[Asker]

And would she want just a pen pal or a one night stand? Surely most girls want a relationship especially as they get older.

[Rob1n]

Some girls would just realize the guy is not interested in them and move on.
Some girls would continue texting or sleeping with the guy in hopes he will eventually fall in love with her.
It really depends on the person.

[Asker]

Maybe it depends on the girls ability to get a good guys he’s attracted to? And how desparate she is?

[Rob1n]

Ye of course :)

Those that are feeling more comfortable with themselves will not stick with a guy that is obviously not interested in them. It is the same with guys really. There are plenty of guys that keep chasing a girl that is clearly not interested in them.

The main difference is that guys are generally more okay with sleeping with someone that they are not really that interested in. And therefore don't mind getting plenty of matches and dating more than one person.

[bamesjond0069]

I don't know i usually keep about 20 matches on tinder or bumble. And then i reset my account. Yes i think some men do get more however those major apps are purposely fucking it up because ill get 20 or more instantly and then i get none. Its to get me to pay, which i won't.

[ShadowMonarch]

Remember developers of dating apps dont want couples but they want money... so they have some kind of currency that can boost their popularity without any reason

[Guy13]

When I was doing that, I did not have any issues with the matching. The databases are large but not always accurate. Sometimes, the people were live and sometimes they were not.

[andreasderjuengere]

Hah haah: A machine cannot give me a match.
It's up to me/you/them what you make from what you see.

[jahaims]

There are stats out there for that. If I recall correctly the top 10% of males are doing well on there and make up most of the matches.

[Anonymous]

Even if you do get matches, you don't get many real responses. Dating sites exist to fuel women's egos, not for men to find love

[boggboss]

Would say many guy get little responses yeah

[Slim57]

I don't think I know