What do you think is the main reason why you felt like you were not good enough for someone you wanted/loved romantically?

[Jammaa]

Think about the situations in your life.
What have you thought about that made you feel insecure?

Is it the competition? Were you afraid that someone would steal him/her away or were you afraid that he/she is of a gender that typically strays? Or do you think he/she was the kind of person that made you feel lower than either by attacking you or boasting about him/her or other people he/she finds attractive?

He/she is just so popular

My competition has so much more attractive traits

He/she is of a gender that typically strays

He/she particularly tried to put me lower

He/she particularly tried to boast to get higher

He/she spoke too highly of others

Something else (comment below)

[jennifer_bloom]

One for me is I can be too shy to act normal on dates so I worry he will not think I’m intelligent enough for him

[Anonymous]

How does that make a person insecure?
I mean if a guy asks 100 women out and gets rejected by 100 women that doesn't mean a guy is insecure. It just means 100 women rejected him.
Why would he ask 101 women out?
I mean 100 women has told him he's not good enough but that doesn't make him insecure.
I think you have some skewed logic.

[Adronicus]

I was raised by my grandfather, the definition of a patriarch & he taught me it was a man's duty to protect & provide. For the longest time I didn't date because I felt like I couldn't provide adequately for a wife & kids. Then I got older & noticed everything's changed & decided I don't want a family & kids.

[ChooChooHaha]

Other people sticking their nose in our business and lack of communication.

[ChooChooHaha]

I was a different race, middle class, and not a conventional female (not always dolled up, messed up hair, sweaty, questioning things, and just different).

[Juxtapose]

Women have almost infinite choice and out of all those choices I am in the lower rung.

I have autism and I don't have the highly desirable "alpha male" traits that women seem to chase after so. I am a gentle man that wants to be ruled by reason instead of aggression 🤷‍♂️

[VV3ZZY]

I thought I was. Then she went with the other guy. I was so sad. And I had to watch them be a happy couple every day. And It made me feel sad because I had a crush on her. Shit just snowballed through Highschool. My friends always had a girlfriends but I was always afraid. Feeling like a freak. Or like there's something wrong with me. Other guys can get girls, but not me. I started doing drugs around that time. That was long ago. I still feel like a freak.

[exitseven]

I just had to drop out of school because I was broke. I figured my life was just going to be a string of minimum wage jobs and I did not want her to be stuck with somebody with no future so I broke up with her.

[GingerGuy]

Always been rejected, every single time. It seems to always be one sided. So I simply stopped asking/approaching.

[Juxtapose]

Dude me fucking too! I can only get dates by waiting passively like a woman for someone to approach me and that ends up being years in between dates.

But I am autistic so there's something wrong with how I am approaching people despite my careful evaluation of what I do. My initiation success rate is 0% for dating..

[Anonymous]

I'm a girl and I thought she was straight at the time.

[Crankor]

It's not a matter of not being good enough. Just if you are the type the other wants.

[Anonymous]

He/she/zey/zem/ze/zer/demself/dimself wanted me to use specific pronouns.

[abc3643]

G.
She dumped me.