Have you ever felt like you’re not good enough for someone so you didn’t want to be in a relationship with them for that reason?

[Rosastitch04]

I started dating a guy and he said he didn’t want to be with me because he thought he would let me down and I could do better. Have you been in this situation before? What did you do?

[Anonymous]

Yes I have. And he is afraid to get close to anyone. He waited for me to break up with him. It was very frustrating because I didn't think he was not good enough. I wanted to be with him but he is a loner who wants to be free and likes his own space.

You can't really do anything except show him that you don't want anyone else. Let him know that he is enough for you. If you tell him that and he still doesn't want to be in a relationship, then he has issues he needs to deal with to overcome these feelings of worthlesness.

[Anonymous]

Never. Now I've thought at times that a person's life, the people they ran with etc. Didn't match up with mine. And I didn't want to pursue a relationship with them for that reason. But I've NEVER considered anyone to be BETTER than me.

[Guy13]

What can you do-nothing. Move on and see what happens

[cootjuhh]

yeah i always feel not good enough cause of my body and social skills

[TenkRealist]

Yup. Marie. She deserves better.

[Rosastitch04]

Do you mind me asking if this person was or wanted to be your girlfriend?

[TenkRealist]

Yeah. Best girl ever. Total Catch. Whoever marries her will be lucky for sure. But yeah. Sometimes it is best to let go and move on.

[Rosastitch04]

Is there anything she could have done/said that would have made you realise you were good enough?

[TenkRealist]

No. Now that I think about it, not really. If she could have been with me physically, it might have changed things but yeah. We were LDR so yeah. It is what is best for her. I am sure of it. She deserves someone much better.

[Rosastitch04]

Thank you for being honest! LDR must be really hard. I hope one day you realise you are worthy and find someone you’re happy with :)

[TenkRealist]

Yeah. Thank you. It happened recently and yeah. I feel a bit better after opening up at least a little to someone :)

[Rosastitch04]

Good, opening up to someone and trying to process your feelings/what happened really does help. It’s hard but when you’re ready to do it, it does help. :)

[TenkRealist]

Yup. Can I text you here? I just want to open up to someone rn... doesn't matter who.

[anylolone]

I always do, but I only make my choices.