Why Do Intelligent People Have A Hard Time Dating? (Page 2)
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Dating is an emotional and relational thing. Maybe they aren’t as adept in those areas at that time. As well… opinions can Create barriers emotionally.
I see lots of intelligent people dated and married but your scale may be different than mine. Einstein did fine…
That’s garbage. Intelligence means smarter and wiser than the date…which means I know how to manipulate her in the way she wants to be manipulated. I have a wife consortium of Tools from which to choose.
If we’re on a Date then all the chatting one another up has occurred. Date is a good time.
Yes.
I have an IQ in the genius range. I have found interactions with females to be extremely difficult.
Women, as a collective, wanted knuckle dragging sociopathic bad boys.
I was of no interest, until females hit the wall and began to look for a Beta Bucks who could give them a white picket fence and a retirement plan.
So I take it you never bit the bait?
@Juxtapose
What does “bit the bait” mean in this context?
Dated and committed to a woman.
I don't think it is bait myself.
@Juxtapose
I plead guilty as charged.
I spent nearly 20 years trying to find a woman.
I loved two, who tore my heart out in ways that could be described as evil.
I married a woman (briefly) who turned out to be a lunatic, in a Jerry Springer type of way.
Eventually, after years of rejection and heartbreak, I went MGTOW monk.
Since I went monk, plenty of women have come sniffing around, but there is too much pain inside my soul for me to be interested.
I am also unwilling to expose myself to the huge legal and financial risk that women have become.
Finally, have you looked closely at what women in my age range look like? 🤣
Fat, turkey necks, varicose veins, age-related dental problems and post menopausal, which means that there would be no sex.
Hell no! 😱
@cth96190 What was your peak age and why?
Men's side: Because the jacked up neanderthal who has the temperament of a roid rage pitbull is more appealing to a lot of women.
Women's side: Said jacked up neanderthal with the temperament of a roid rage pitbull is not very stimulating for intellectual conversations.
Because our standards are high, and we won't just settle for any schmuck who comes along. We want someone who actually has a brain, and doesn't just talk about crap like sport or celebrity gossip.
@snsl153 Funny but well said!
Exactly I hate pointless conversations
Because we only want other intelligent people, ones who are sexually stunning and who share all of our hobbies, preferences, interests, etc.
Smart people don't settle, because we aren't dumb enough to think that we can change people, or that major personality and hobby differences won't result in divorce.
Some might over think things and/or require the person their dating to be roughly equal to them.
Studies so males are 50% more likely to date someone. Who’s equal or below them in multiple factors. But also show females are 50% more likely to date someone. Who’s equal or above them in those same factors.
Things like income or wealth, intelligent’s, social status, age, etc.
Our brains won't stop. I have extremely bad social anxiety and mind mind races as I want to make everything perfect. It all has to be planned out in my head and if anything doesn't go how I thought it would I panic. My mind is active to the point that I can't sleep more than about 4 hours a day.
Because DUMB people actually think they are the smart ones. Intelligent people are not popular, nor do they want to be popular. Intelligent people don't spend their weekend and holidays getting drunk or high either.
So True they think intelligent people are lacking when the truth is they are. I think the less intelligent people just out number Us and the majority are doing the same ignorant things that they call popular.
Actually its pretty common for intelligent people to have social difficulties and self medicate through drugs and alcohol.
People who are intelligent have an easier time dating than people who aren't intelligent. Let that one sink in for a moment.
People try to use the fact they think they are intelligent as an excuse to explain their failures with the opposite sex. And I'm sorry to say it but some of us women are the worst about it.
I'm not saying I am very intelligent, far from it, but majority of the people even less intelligent, if you want to date someone, you either lower your expecations to have stimulating conversations, give up and wait for a miracle, or get a dog or cat.
Or you let the conversation develop.
Because everyone else is stupid? Lol. Okay… maybe not stupid, but intelligent people talk about ideas, unintelligent people talk about other people. So if you want to talk about ideas, then you’re going to be disappointed when they just want to talk about people.
Because we have higher standards. We don't want just anyone. We get bored if the other person talks about pop culture bs. We want someone who wants to talk about ideas.
Exactly!
The people they try to date would often think they are boring. Intelligent people can have a hard time having things in common with the average person.
Because they don't fit the norm.
They're of high intelligence and whatever they're smart in general or a specific thing. We can not relate or we know nothing about, which causes a struggle for both parties involved.
They think with logic instead of emotion. And there isn't much logic in love. It's very messy and unpredictable so I assume smart people don't know how to deal with that aspect of it.
Good point, I think this might be the answer!
While that is true, the fact is that long-term relationships fail when not based in logic. So a wise person would build a foundation of compatibility first (logic), and then grow the emotional part after the person is deemed to be a safe investment.
@jamie05rhs true so if intelligent people choose this route to find the right one. How do you think the people who are not all that intelligent choose their partners? I wonder is it based on status, looks, personality etc
Most people have a crush and it's mutual. That's how it works lol the majority of people don't just get in relationships cause they are compatible. Only online dating works that way
@Asker I think for the girls it's probably what you said. For the guys it's probably just because they're horny.
Intelligent people typically have a voice inside of their brain. This special voice guides their thoughts and these types of people step down from reality. Disconnecting from reality and living in a "man-cave" is just such a pleasure for some like me. The 'voice' already entertains us all and we don't seek companionship because our 'best friend' is already in us. We feel full-filled.
that's schizophrenia
Intelligent people are better at self entertaining Someone will say " What a nice night sky we have " and the intelligent person will say " I'm thinking about how life might look on other planets" Movies in the mind , brain home theatre :)
@EllaNella It's sort of like zoning off with movies in the mind Voices are an inner guide :)
you don't have to explain it to me, i know what he meant it was worded extremely poorly. having an inner life/voice isn't something thats exclusive to intelligent people nor is it a measure for intelligence.
They don't.
So called intelligent people tend to have their head so far up their ass, people just can't see them in the face.
Real intelligent people don't need to tell you they are intelligent.
Because the moment that they have a chance to have sex to start calculating it in their head and within one to two minutes to shoot their load and they say damn it I'm wrong again
Intelligent people sometimes overthink things, rather than just go for it. Dating works best when you just go for it.