If you are single how long have you been single and why?

[cth2188]

7-8 years

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[Kkstarzz96]

I haven't had one guy propose to be together in the last 5 years. In that time, I've had one guy I went on 3 dates with, and he ended up moving and also telling me although he saw me a few times, he's not looking for a relationship. That was 3 years ago, but he was the closest I've connected to the opposite sex, and our short lived romance was enough to get me to see that you know, you don't always get the happy ending even if everything feels right, it does have a lot to do with your age and where you're trying to go in your life. I have always kept a boyfriend as an option mentally regardless what im doing, but guys find a girl takes a lot of time away from them, high maintenance I guess, and she may not be the one, you just get memories that other people don't care about hearing. Which is valid, I guess if you got fed up as soon as one person wasted a lot of your time, I too would be against relationships. But I'm a girl so, guys don't really ask for my time as much as I ask for theirs.

[Anonymous]

Last "girlfriend" (if you can call her that), was over a decade ago. It lasted less than two months, at most, and barely got off the ground.

Part of it is that I don't meet many single women, and many are busy - too busy to socialize much. So I may meet a single woman and talk to her once, and then not see her again for months. Partly it's been my life, too. I've recently had a lot of stuff going on. Big jobs that take a lot of time, so even I would have trouble making it work (I would make some time, to try, though).

I have also had some "friends" in the past try to sabotage me with women; especially if they viewed me as "competition." The thing is, they'd sabotage themselves, too. (whether the stuff they say is true or not, that "lack of filter" probably isn't attractive).

I've gotten better quality friends in the last few years, but even they can't really do much matchmaking... or even much socializing themselves. I think when they DO get free time, they spend it with other married couples (or their spouse or families), so even they don't know anyone who would be single (and a good fit). Matchmaking is usually not an option, even if any of them were naturals at it, so it's up to me.

That's even if I were to get a good conversation going, that I was attractive enough, etc, which is usually a tough enough battle, without adding the other stuff "beyond our control."

[cth2188]

Yep my life I’m open to friends

[DaveJord]

Honestly my divorce is not final yet, but I been living legally separated for 3 years, and they have been the happiest three years of my life. My divorce will be final in the month or two, its been painful... not because of any sense of loss, but just because she is hard women to deal with and she makes everything harder then it should be. A lot like my marriage was.

So that's the why, but I been dating pretty actively for two years, and have been with my current girl friend for over 6 months and she is amazing. The best part is that she values her freedom and independence as much as I do... so marriage is off the table and that makes me love her even more. I see myself being single for very long time and I am so excited and thrilled about that, I can not even express the since of freedom I take from being single.

[Cynicaldreamer]

Years... as in over a decade (and counting!) I am in no rush to try to date again.

As to why? Well most of the regulars on here already know, but to paraphrase, I've had some bad experiences in the past in regards to dating: from dating sites to in person. I've been ghosted, friendzoned, rejected, played with... the stories I could tell some of y'all would make a good mytake, lol.

So I finally got fed up and decided to take a hiatus from dating for the sake of my sanity and well being, as being constantly hurt and disappointed was hurting my self esteem and confidence.

[cth2188]

Same I don’t date anymore my mental health can’t take it anymore

[TommyWiseau69]

Ever since I was born. Why? Because I'm tired of trying to please women that don't expect me to fucking learn how to juggle or something crazy when they just sit there and watch judging me. I've tried multiple attempts at conversing with women for over a decade. Literally all of them ghosted my ass and didn't do ANYTHING to keep a conversation going while I was beating a dead horse. Its like talking to a fucking mannequin.

[cth2188]

I’ve been ghosted , played games with , and dating is extremely stressful.. I intentionally stayed single.. now I avoid dating. I don’t want a relationship anymore

[TommyWiseau69]

Its a waste of time. If I could marry myself I would. Being single means more time to yourself and not having to worry about pleasing another person or dealing with other crap. Divorce rates are actually increasing too. Most people can't even keep a relationship going for more than like 6 months - 1 year anymore

[cth2188]

Between all that headache being single is great

[cth2188]

Yep my sister got married last year talking about divorce this year.. I can’t deal with the stress of dating anymore or anyone’s crap

[saintsRow3]

I was single up until I was 9 years old.
9 years old Is the age when I Was Bringing home Girls To be Fucked on My bed.
I got in trouble at school for making out with a Girl. The school called my dad and Told him to pick me up from school because I was getting suspended.
When my dad showed up he told me that he’s proud of me and he Took me out for ice cream and even bought me a video game.

[cth2188]

Wow lol

[Ihatethewill]

I highly doubt this.

[Lucy68]

Almost a year, we were engaged and he cheated on me and got another girl pregnant. I was also tired of the abuse (mental, emotional, physical, and sexual) and him constantly drinking and doing drugs. I've been happier ever since and accomplished so much more. The #1 regret I have is wasting 5 years of my life to him.

[Sour-rose]

Because I'm still just a kid who doesn't know what I want or who. And my mom keeps bringing up "I know you're curious about boys" but the thing is, I never do talk about boys. I don't bring up any gender prefrence, and usually ignore the talk of "so when will be your children?"

:)... I like girls and ain't have one of those spawns from hell in my life.

[Leshen]

I've been single going on a year and a half. I broke up with my ex of 4 years because he moved too far. Plus, I wasn't happy in the relationship anymore. I wanted more for myself.

Now, I've been enjoying my young adulthood single and growing as an individual. Eventually, I'd like to settle down but not for a while. I want to be financially able to then.

[UniquelyBasic]

My whole life as I never took the chances I had to date in the past and I haven't put myself out there.

[cth2188]

Same I hardly put myself out there.. tried with online dating too same thing now I’m over dating

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Almost 1.5 months, now.

He chronically lied about what he'd be doing, and couldn't handle being self-sufficient. He had a lot of things he relied on his mother for, and ultimately I outgrew him quickly.

For a guy with delusions of entrepreneurial success, he has no entrepreneurial skill or drive and no ability to be self-driven.

We just didn't end up being compatible.

[DataOrganizer27]

It's been five years. It started as a break from dating and ended up being a huge improvement on my life. It's about time for me to get back out there I suppose, but I really don't care either way anymore lol.

[libsaretards]

7 years now. I am not a "one night Dan" who can callously go through women like a revolving door. My heart easily gets attached to a woman I love and respect enough to give my time to. Because of that vulnerability, I have to be extra cautious who I date.

[OldWorldOrder]

Years. About a decade now that I think about it.

Women & relationships don't really have much appeal to me. Nothing I really want there, certainly nothing I need, and plenty that I *don't* want. A low sex drive helps. I feel bad for other guys who are actually thirsty, that must be a nightmare.

[TexasRed95]

Going to be 27 in December and I will most likely not have had my first relationship by then. I just recently started getting counseling for my social anxiety. I wanted to ask a girl out and ended up vomiting and having a nervous breakdown. Just from being around her and wanting to ask. I didn't even ask. And this wasn't the first time. So yeah I need help.

[VV3ZZY]

5 years i think. Cuz I started quitting jobs because I have emotional issues and PTSD from growing up in Florida

[cth2188]

I’m sorry

[VV3ZZY]

It's fine. I still enjoy life 😋

[awkwardddgirl]

I have never been with anyone. I have never gone on a date with anyone.

[cth2188]

I don’t want to date

[mikaelis]

What's considered being single? If you date someone even for a week or a month does that count as a full relationship? Does a relationship when you both move in or pass a certain marker?

[cth2188]

I don't know I’m talking about people who’ve been single years

[cth2188]

I’ve been single damn there 8 years

[cth2188]

You have to ask yourself that question.. I only had one long term relationship

[serious]

I have always been single. Hence for life.

Yes there are plenty of reasons for the same.

[bakajana]

I haven't found the right one yet and I don't wanna get into a relationship just randomly. I need to be sure about it and our reciprocal feelings before anything

[cth2188]

Same one day

[bolverk]

30+ years, personal choice, being single gives me the freedom to take engineering contracts overseas at short notice.

[ColHathi]

There's a number of reasons probably, but first and foremost is that I don't go out and I don't meet new people.

And yes it does suck.

[Anonymous]

Three years, but now there's a girl who started to pester me to go out with her.
As a friend, she says, but people told me she likes me.
She's too old for me (34) so I'll probably say no. I like staying on my own.

[cth2188]

She maybe mature?

[Opinion Owner]

She is mature and awesome

[cth2188]

Ok good luck if you try

[IveGotNoName]

Had been single all of my life up until about three years ago.