Why are women generally turned off by nice guys?

[Anonymous]

I’m not saying all but from what I’m seeing most women are turned off by a guy that’s super nice like respectful nice or if he cares too much and it’s genuine. I remember being in a situation like this and she definitely treated me bad it was like she was trying to punish me for caring about her in the end she end up cheating with her ex that she claims was a cheater and abusive. And physical size really doesn’t factor in I’m 6’4 he was about 5’9 I could’ve literally beat the shit out of him in a fight he knew it but I wasn’t one to fight over a girl. Since then I pretty much treat every girl I date like trash I cheat before they can cheat on me but they never leave. I don’t wanna be like this but I honestly can’t help I don’t trust women at this point.

[MCheetah]

Because women see that as weakness/submissiveness/desperation and it's a giant turn-off to them. I used to be like that myself. Now I'm not.

Although to be honest, when you say stuff like "I’m 6’4 he was about 5’9 I could literally beat the sh*t out of him in a fight," it sure as hell doesn't make you sound nice, it makes you sound like a Nice Guy. If I'm a due and can pick up this Small Dick Energy, then what do you think girls will think of you?

Sounds like you're dating the wrong kind of women and blaming on your (fake as f*ck) "niceness" rather than you just choosing trash women. MOST people who have constant relationship issues can never see the common factor in all of their failed relationships: themselves.

I'd say you need to work more on yourself. Maybe even stop going after women altogether. Especially if you're 6'4" and can't win. It should be damn near f*cking impossible to lose at 6'4", unless the other guy is 6'5"+. TBH, I wouldn't even admit I lost out to a dude who was seven inches smaller than me. That's too embarrassing of an L for me to admit even on the internet.

TL;DR: Stop being a simp and grow some balls.

[Asker]

Dude that was literally past tense this was before I started treating women like shit and surprisingly they love it. No matter the race honestly, I get attention from black white and Mexican women and even the so called college good girls they’re all the same. Looking for a thrill, I feel like in the past I was inexperienced and believed all that bullshit about if you be nice and give a girl flowers she’ll love you lol I cringe just thinking about it

[MCheetah]

Yeah, they do love it. As for me, I don't think women are worth changing who I am just to get their attention. I'd want someone to like me as I am, but I get why other guys go down the jerk route.

[Lliam]

I don't think that women ARE turned off by nice guys. Are you turned off by nice girls? Well men and women aren't much different in that respect.

Women do want someone they can look up to and respect. They want a guy who makes them feel safe and secure when they are with him. I think the bad boy thing is about also wanting a guy who will give them thrill rides in bed.

A guy can have self esteem, be energetic, bold and daring, adventurous, and potentially dangerous while still being gentlemanly. A real man is honest, ethical, and treats women with respect.

I think women are turned off by the type of "good guys" who come off as desperate. They want to feel like he could choose any number women but thinks she stands out above the rest. It makes her feel special.

A guy who fawns lacks dignity. He is not a catch.

[Ms_Facesitter]

A genuine nice guy? No, I admire those people. As long as it's not a simp who is nice to the point of doing everything I want blindly like I was some empress and he's a slave.

[whereismyjohnny]

We are not?

Personally, I like nice guys (genuinely nice ones tho, those who are pretending to be one are indeed a turn off).

[UniquelyBasic]

The llama has spoken ☕

[UniquelyBasic]

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[whereismyjohnny]

@UniquelyBasic The llama is now thinking about coffee because of you now 😐

[whereismyjohnny]

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[UniquelyBasic]

Whoops my bad 😈

[whereismyjohnny]

Cheers ☕️
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[whereismyjohnny]

Why aren't you sleeping? 😅 Isn't it like really late there?

[UniquelyBasic]

Cheers ☕

* Spills coffee* 😤...😭😭

[UniquelyBasic]

I was going to sleep after I said cheers. Peace out 🐼🐼

[whereismyjohnny]

@UniquelyBasic Yeah, you should get some sleep. Good night 🐼

[slatyb]

They aren't. They are turned off by the passive-aggressive self-proclaimed nice guys who aren't nice at all. "If he cares too much..." That's a sign of immaturity, and a sign of desperation. It's not a sign that he's interested in her specifically. He would be happy with any woman who gave him the slightest bit of attention.

[dolemite89]

Cuz nice comes off as either desperate/insecure or insincere. It may be counter intuitive but I've learned women are more turned on by what a guy won't do/put up with to sleep
with them. If you act too nice it’ll seem like you can’t get other girls and have no backbone. You’re right not to trust them by the way 😂

[Noreason432]

Who said that? I believe most people want to be treated with respect. No one likes to be insulted all the time, unless they're a masochist

[Iron_Man]

You said you like to be treated like garbage so why are you changing your mind?

[Noreason432]

@Iron_Man it's hot, just sometimes it's a bit too much

[Iron_Man]

Then you should have told me that three months ago

[UniquelyBasic]

They become like a friend. They have no spine and are pushovers. Women like a nice guy but you can be too nice at times.

[genericname85]

because women want to feel special. if a guy is just nice to everyone, they don't feel special. it's like a guy wants a girl to have sex with him. but he doesn't want her to have sex with everyone.

[Iron_Man]

They like the chase they like the challenge of trying to domesticate the man

[Asker]

Most women will still deny this and that’s exactly why treat them all the same , like trash n they love it

[Iron_Man]

Yes I know