What is the real reason women don't go for the nice guys?

[Evealyn]

Women just love the chase because the bad boy makes them feel excited & they don't care if they're treated poorly or abused by him?

if you can make a woman feel safe she'll stay with you. You can't make her feel safe unless you're a disarming, considerate, just generally a nice human being as a guy & sure some women go for bad boys, but they have a nearness of charm about them & charming is also disarming?

Women just choose men based on looks & a majority of the time the bad boy is the best looking guy?

None of the above.

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[CharlesScene]

From my experience, Girls like Guys who are nice, not nice guys. This can also be flip flopped around.

Nice guys are not truly nice people. Nice guys will do something nice for a girl, in hopes they will gain something in return.

Do something nice, is giving or helping somebody with no expectations in return.

Guys who claim to be, "Nice Guys", are very egocentric, they think every girl should love them just because they are "nice". They blame girls for why girls don't like them, and put down the guys they date as being, "Bad Guys'", despite not even knowing who the guy truly is. Nice Guys also fail to admit they maybe they were not right for the girl, or that there was just more things right about another guy.

A 2nd problem with nice guys, is despite having a huge ego about themselves, they usually lack the courage to ask the girl out. They will get a girls number, text her all day, every day with boring, meaningless conversations, and in some cases, over doing it with the compliments, without ever asking her out on a date in a timely manner. They get so caught up on trying to be nice and respectful to the girl, they forget the number 1 thing to do when trying to start a relationship, asking them out on a date.

[ChrisMaster69]

I keep asking this and so far no real answer.

What is a bad guy (or girl)

what is a nice guy (or girl).

personally the average person flip flops between the two scales.

[Seinna]

It's not true that women don't go for nice guys... they don't go for "nice guys".

I. e. guys who are boring and lack confidence/personality/masculinity so acting nice is their safe strategy. Women need to feel safe with a man and that's why they'd occasionally go for the "bad guy" because they're bold = brave and strong.

If a nice guy can make a woman feel safe, she'll definitely chose him. Who'd specifically want to be with an asshole? Only a woman who has some trauma from the past.

[Nobleone]

So you women will really choose a dickhead over a nice guy just for protection?

[Seinna]

@Nobleone Well the biggest incentive for a woman to be with a guy is protection. She won't be with one who cannot provide it.

[Nobleone]

Protection from who? I don't get you women and you're obsession with protection.

[Kayleighjo32]

@Nobleone i gotta say I've never thought ooh this man protects me, this is the man for me. I can damn well protect myself. So its not a universal thing for women.

[Msputiton]

Tbh, from my experience the self proclaimed nice guy that never gets the girl, is actually never very nice.

They are rude arrogant guys who think they are better than other guys because they have self proclaimed themselves as nice guys and they usually put on an act pretending to be nice, but usually it becomes pretty clear the faking this act

[MCheetah]

Option E: All the genuinely decent and caring men are manlets under six feet tall and no woman on Earth ideally *wants* to date short little men (sure, some will, but they do it out of reluctance because they're not getting any younger and all the tall "real" men are already taken).

THAT is why you will never, ever, ever, EVER see a good, decent man over six feet tall! They literally cannot exist. Nuh uh. No way! Sure, a few short men like us have what these bitches like to refer to as "Le Napoleon Complex" and these women mock and deride such men for that, as they cackle at them and go "What's to happen with these poor, poor little boys in my way!"

There are men and there are little boys. Men are big, but mean. Little boys are tiny (5'11" or less), but nice. Women like men. All the little boys can stay home with their ba-ba and their Legos!

/s

[Curmudgeon]

If he's a tall dork like me, he can still be a good man. His dorkiness will negate his height. It takes one to know one! :D

[MCheetah]

The /s means "sarcasm."
I wasn't being serious.

[Effably]

I've found women like nice guys. You just need to have more to you than only nice. Nice, outgoing, charming and exciting? You'll have more potential dates than you know what to do with.

Just nice is good and all but not particlarly interesting. Nice is the baseline for interacting. Being stimulating is the typical base for attraction.

[horatiohornblower]

Bad Boys act confident. They are the center of attention in a group. They also actively flirt and go for women. While the proverbial nice guy doesn't.

Although a lot of self proclaimed nice guys. Are really a**holes too. Just of a different sort. They may not beat a woman or get in bar fights. But they'll dig at their confidence in other ways. Because they aren't confident.

There aren't that many true nice guys. Who will be there and be their rock in life. This kind of guy will usually get latched onto early and get married. So, you never really hear about them in terms of dating.

[BrosephBrostar]

I chose B because I agree with the first line, but everything that follows is kinda contradictory with itself.

There's also an element to consider here, women tend to value confidence in a man, which is an indicator of an ability to protect her. When "nice guys" complain that all women go for "assholes", I find that what they really mean is that they go for men who are confident, outgoing, bold, dominant, and, most importantly, don't roll over the instant their woman tells them to. I think it's that latter part that "nice guys" tend to misinterpret about "assholes", and if there is one defining trait of a "nice guy", it's that they think that instantly acquiescing to whatever a woman says to do makes them better than every other man out there, and that women must be attracted to him as a result.

[Medhat-M]

I've always wondered what does being nice have to do with attraction and relationships? Sure being nice is a good personality trait for that matter but it's not the only thing... I'm a nice and kind man ( to everyone lol ) and girls crush on me all the time they even do the first move... even some of them are the " bad " type... That means anyone can click with anyone... The so called " nice guys " are guys who are very lonely and don't attract good looking girls and got so busy over analyzing other people's relationships and experiences focusing only on the specific scenarios they like to help them put the blame on someone...

[Curmudgeon]

Part of the problem is that if a guy is "too nice", well, he isn't protective. A "good monster" appeals to women, but a completely innocuous man does not.

As lecturer Jordan Peterson explains, "If you are harmless, you are not virtuous, you are just harmless. You are like a rabbit..."

https://www.youtube.com/embed/QQ5oqgJWJyw

[Anonymous]

I’m just gonna say this, the majority of women don’t even know what they want. You can be anything, and they’ll heavily flirt back with you only to say they weren’t interested in you. Just mind your own business, and ask them out if you like them. Easy as that.

[yucel_eden]

Because nice guys are timid and not adventurous or brave in life, in career and in bed.


Simple, I’m not a nice guy, I’m mainly a good guy with a dark side, but being good does not mean being nice.


I’m blunt and I say it the way it is

[Anonymous]

Because nice guys are "boring". And women seem to get bored easily. They want the excitement of a "bad boy" but want to make him a nice guy, but still have that excitement. Only they don't seem to realize it doesn't work that way. And just reading women's response so far I see I'm 100% right.

[Anonymous]

The nice guys aren't rude and criminal bad boys, who get into trouble with the law often and insult others on the regular.

fortunately not all women would settle for someone like that. Still many do it anyway and pop out kids with those degenerates.

[TheLittleInnocent]

I don't trust self proclaimed "nice guys"!

[Evealyn]

That's the correct answer.

[Anonymous]

Because they are not sexually attracted to nice guys.

Women don't date nice guys until they are ready to settle down and have a family, and at that point they are compromising sexual attraction for a man who is nice, stable and loyal.

[Yourfriend2021]

Why have a vote if you are trying to insult people by saying they have disabilities if they vote? (your updates) Just ask a question only for women to answer, ask them why they don't.

[FictionalCharacter]

This user already ‘blessed’ us. So her insults are acceptable now. 🙄

[Yourfriend2021]

@FictionalCharacter Yes , now we are blessed. I agree with you :)

[LadyCroft]

they are not exciting enough. the nice guy is just for marriage. you can keep him around while you're having fun, in case you changed your mind and want to become a bride.

[jerdanro]

Is that like stringing along an ugly chick in case you want to get laid and there's nothing better available?

[whirled_up_girl]

I voted B, I could relate to that opinion the best.

[slatyb]

I’m going with B. Women will go for the man that pays attention to them.

[Still-alive]

Because most of the time they aren't all that nice as they proclaim they are

[Anonymous]

Women think interesting guys are better; which is true for dating, but not for marriage.

[Cutiebhadie]

I don't choose nice guys because they aren't as exciting

[RiotLily]

I don't know about this one. they all seem like a trap. Or I've been hurt too deeply. Been single for almost 8 years

[BarryLiverstone]

The nice guy too often isn’t the honest guy

[BarryLiverstone]

The nice girl also isn’t honest

[Anonymous]

You're a woman. Tell us your answer.

[Nazgol]

They lack excitement and can be boring in bed

[Anonymous]

they're boring.