Why is it women don't want nice guys?

[Anonymous]

Why do they date bad guys then complain about their boyfriend or husband is really bad.

I'm dating a nice guy and couldn't be happier in life

[NamerOfStars]

Because "bad boys" are more exciting. Women go off in pursuit of butterflies in their stomachs, and almost always end up heartbroken. They think "I can change him", which would be completely self-defeating even if it WAS possible, because you'd be losing the aspects that attracted you in the first place.

Men do something similar by chasing the prettiest girls, but they at least tend to KNOW it's a bad idea.

Typically, it's when women get a little older, often a few false starts with exciting-but-unstable men, that they grow up a little and start looking for someone actually SUITED to settling down. Some, of course, choose to skip that first step, but you don't hear much about them, because "Yeah, I'm dating this nice guy and everything's going fine" doesn't exactly make for the most exciting stories.

[Novacane]

I have always said this, it's because women typically like excitement. One thing I will always tell men is that the fastest way to make women lose interest in you is to bore her. The moment a woman doesn't see that "excitement" thrill from you then she will never pay attention to you and sadly that is what most "nice guys" are, boring. Because they are people that do the right things and like to stay home and for women that is boring. That is why they go for the so-called "bad guys" because even if they know that those guys are not good for them, they know that they are good for a short time because those guys are fun then they will always do things to keep things fun, even if its drama, which women typically like. They know those bad boys will be going out consistently and they will know never know where the relationship is headed and that attracts them. That is why later in life they had all that experience of "living life" and now they want to settle with the nice guy.

[mermaidcancermoon]

The sane reason men date trashy models then become incels when she cheats on him.

It goes back to maturity and having realistic healthy dating standards.

Also to add being a nice person isn't enough for a healthy relationship. Compatibility matters a great deal. The type of lifestyle you want, if your personalities align, your goals as a couple, beliefs and values, social life, etc. Being nice or cute isn't enough. You have to go deeper than just that, its why people end up with the wrong lovers. So mesmerized by 1 or 2 things that they dont consider whether the feeling is actually mutual.

[MCheetah]

Implying an incel could get a model, or that a model would want to date a future incel... Your logic is messed up from the very first sentence... Although your bottom paragraph makes more sense.

[Changiis07]

Just not smart. They go for the pretty face and good looking instead of looking at the heart and how they treat them

[savagewolf22]

Ma'am can you please remove your bra? I can't see your heart clearly.

[Changiis07]

@savagewolf22 lol

[savagewolf22]

I'm looking for your heart but you're not allowing me to see your heart. 😔

[MCheetah]

They think decent men are submissive and mentally weak. And while some are, most are not. Women are turned off by them, regardless. I learned that in real life. Now I'm Captain Asshole and "Incelsior the Human Misogynist!" to them! Good thing the opinions of these women are worth less than toilet paper, but still.

Women don't like decent good men. It goes against every but of logic most men have, but it's true.

[DannyUk2017]

Because they think is "cool" untill 💩, hits the fan, then they will start to cry, moan, complain, couse the "bad boy" doesn't provide, waste his money on drugs/gambling/other women/cars, etc... and them women that after such "experience"they want a good guy, but will be TOO LATE! because if she make a "fame" out of being with the baddies, no GOODIES, will want her, she will become Unworthy/untrusty in good guys's eyes! 🤷‍♂️

[misogynistic_pig]

The internet is full of women who claim that the reason they "don't give nice guys a chance" is that those "nice guys" aren't really "nice."

The most scientifically valid explanation for this behavior based on these findings is that a man's kindness does not appear to be sexually valued by women at all or perhaps even negatively valued.

[Anonymous]

Stupidity. Maybe it's upbringing or maybe it's just learned behavior. But some women just have no idea what a decent guy looks and acts like. And some have to learn the hard way through trial and error. Some women take a long time as they don't learn very quickly. And some women unfortunately just never learn.

[FilmGuy93]

Anytime we're talking about relationships, respect is the name of the game. The problem with "nice" guys is that they don't command people's respect.

[TroyDT2]

Because most "nice guys" are boring, and lose that niceness when women turn them down.

[Staximus]

They want the drama, or to be treated like shit, or they want "a challenge"

[Anonymous]

Lots of women want bad guys for fun and excitement, and nice guys to provide for them and give them security. This is not a surprise.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

That's because they don't mean what they say. They have their own set of dictionaries.

[RolandCuthbert]

Aren't you a woman?

You don't know?

[User3191989]

Nice guys FINISH last