He's sleeping with me?

[Anonymous]

I saw my friends with benefits or say I guy I was seeing meeting with his best friend's girlfriend who he is also good friends with. With her or his other female friends, he's so affectionate, talkative etc. He gave her a big hug and was gentle with her while they were video calling his friend/her boyfriend. But when I went to see him at the bar, he was waiting outside for me when I texted him that I'm almost there , drinking a beer but he didn't come to hug me or anything. It was me who hugged him and we went inside. He also only gives hugs till he needs something like sex etc and then stops when he gets it. Later on he told me he's not interested in a relationship so I blocked him. I also know that he was chasing another girl at his university whom he has not been successful in sleeping with and she's the main reason why he cuts off me because she's apparently his type and he wants her to ask him out again.

He leaves girls on read, is not open or friendly with me or other girls he's seeing but is very nice and affectionate with his female friends.

ow's this possible?

[boggboss]

What answer are you actually looking for because u ask this so much and are not happy with any answer

[Asker]

How he's differentiating between women?

[Asker]

I'm asking why is he specifically choosing some women as friends with benefits and some women as friends with whom he's open , friendly with?

[boggboss]

Because he wants to fuck the girls he is friends with benefits with and don't have sexual intrest in the others

[Asker]

But what about the girl he wants to text?

[boggboss]

U already know my opinion on her just like everyone else sharing the same thought

[Asker]

What's uour opinion on her? I don't remember your reply

[boggboss]

U do remember let's not pretend we have had that conversation 20 plus times

[Asker]

No I don't. Those questions are deleted so I don't have the replies

[boggboss]

He wants her because she is the one that didn't give in he enjoys the chase u will say but he dont talk to her I will say but he still has plans and if she offered him sex now he would jump at it

[Asker]

What about relationship with her?

[boggboss]

Impossible to know

[Asker]

Guess st least?

[boggboss]

With him still caring maybe

[Asker]

How is he still caring?

[boggboss]

Because he is still got plans to get her

[Asker]

Then it could be his ego that he can't handle her nit accepting him?

[boggboss]

Thats possible

[Asker]

Yes so now what do you think?

[boggboss]

I told u what I think

[Asker]

But why will he meet his friends girlfriend?

[boggboss]

Because she is a part of his friends because of his guy friend

[Asker]

So what why will he call her, meet her and give hugs to her

[boggboss]

Because he has accepted her as his friend

[Asker]

Yes but then why is he treating me or other girls like this? The girl at his university wants to talk and know him but he stops replying to her the moment he sees she isn't being sexy with him

[boggboss]

Because all he cares about is sex from u nothing more with the other girl she is not giving him what he wants and his friends girlfriend he has no sexual interest so he treats her like a friend

[Asker]

With the other girl what is it?

[boggboss]

Who?

[Asker]

The other girl

[boggboss]

Sex and maybe more if that the only way he can get sex

[Asker]

Why would he want more? He is always eyeing her up and down and on first meeting he looked her up and down and then quickly went to hide behind the printer

[boggboss]

Because if he wants her as much as u have described and the only way he can have that is by getting with her

[Asker]

Why do uou think he wants her? He himself throws a tantrum and stops talking to her via texts when she won't ask him out

[boggboss]

Only someone that cares will act childish when they don't get what they want

[Asker]

But he acts totally detached towards her?

[boggboss]

No he dint if he throws a tantrum because he can't get sex thats not detached

[Asker]

It's just ego isn't ot?

[boggboss]

Impossible to know as it could be him really wanting her

[Asker]

If so why won't he text or meet her? He meets me for sex?

[boggboss]

Because he wants her to do that u are just sex

[Asker]

So she does but he doesn't reply. She's asked him to let her know if he's free but he never does lol

[boggboss]

But ahe made it clear she didn't want sex so that's why

[Asker]

So why is he still after her? He knows she won't seduce, sext or anything until he actually dates her. Then what is he even keeping her for?

[boggboss]

Because he is hoping she will change her mind and give him what he wants

[boggboss]

I guess

[Asker]

When he told her he was ill she asked him via how he was etc, to which he was like that's very sweet of her and her concern and then he got annoyed when she didn't ask him out. But when she said to let her know, he again stopped replying to her but now again he's being nice to her

[boggboss]

OK...

[Asker]

What ok?

[boggboss]

U have told me this already before it dont change what jm saying

[Asker]

Do you think by not replying and meeting other girls he's going to get what he wants?

[boggboss]

No I don't think he will but he is not me he is a idiot so

[Asker]

Okay but then why even attempt to keep ger? He knows he won't get it

[boggboss]

Clearly he thinks he can get her

[Asker]

Is he mad? Is he obsessed?

[boggboss]

Or stupid

[Asker]

He also wamts to go on 1 or 2 week breaks with her. Why? To have sex?

[boggboss]

I guess so

[Asker]

But why her?

[boggboss]

Because thats what or who he likes

[Asker]

But he was also making her insecure? By mentioning things like he's meeting someone, he's going to his female friends house to sleep on her couch but she has a boyfriend etc

[boggboss]

How do u know she is insecure

[Asker]

I'm saying he tried to make her insecure

[boggboss]

If u know that for a fact which I doubt possibly to make her jelouse

[Asker]

It didn't but he tried. Why?

[boggboss]

Because some people do that to attempt to make a person want them low level manipulation

[Asker]

So if he wanted her why is he manipulating her?

[boggboss]

Because he is stupid

[Asker]

So he only wants sex from her?

[boggboss]

Like I told u before its possible but he could want more

[Asker]

But how can you think he can commit? Olbecayse when I hugged him and he saw her that she saw him with me, he did not hug me like he would privately. Instead he waves at her when she waved

[Asker]

Heloooo

[boggboss]

I never said he could commit simply that he might to get sex if thats what's required

[Asker]

when I hugged him and he saw her that she saw him with me, he did not hug me like he would privately. Instead he waves at her when she waved

[boggboss]

Why are u repeating yourself

[Asker]

Why he oretended not to hug me in front of her?

[boggboss]

Because he dont want her thinking he likes u over her

[Asker]

And why is he doing this?

[boggboss]

U know why because he wants her if u ask how I won't respond

[CallmeTheKnight]

He didn't want a relationship with you like you wanted, so you blocked him. Leave it a that.

[Luckycharms12]

Friends with benefits of course not going get girlfriend treatment. Meet up to have fun and fuck and get on well.

[LimitedBenefits101]

you are his sex toy

[Asker]

So? How he's differentiating between women?

[LimitedBenefits101]

you do know that friends with benefits isn't love yea?

[Asker]

I'm asking why is he specifically choosing some women as friends with benefits and some women as friends with whom he's open , friendly with?

[LimitedBenefits101]

I would and have done what's this dudes doing chase the one that i want to love and keep the sex toy if it doesn't work out

[Asker]

How is he chasing love? he's not even treating her properly and ghosts her

[LimitedBenefits101]

you said that was his type

[Asker]

What type? He isn't treating her nicely either and keeling things with her superficial too

[LimitedBenefits101]

I also know that he was chasing another girl at his university whom he has not been successful in sleeping with and she's the main reason why he cuts off me because she's apparently his type and he wants her to ask him out again.

[Asker]

Yes so? He still doesn't meet her