Is it normal to want to date an older girl in her 30s if you had parent issues as a child?

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

I had family issues as a child. We were living in poverty and my dad was always in prison. My mom put me up for adoption.
So now I see older women and I am instantly drawn to them especially if they have big boobs and have more of a motherly figure…

Yes bro that is fine. Any guy would love to date a hot mom

Nah bro get checked or talk to somebody.

[lightbulb27]

ok that kinda sounds like me, except I had my parents. But I think I lacked nurturing time... dad wouldn't touch me and I was youngest and don't recall getting much time with mom.

So I think you are craving nurturing and older woman would project that more so than many younger women. I was not attracted to young women until I was in my 30's and was generally, scared of them. Women I was drawn to were older.

If you have trust issues, that be an interesting sign as well.

It's all the psychology of a child... you... you are working out.

I'm sorry to hear of all that which would be confusing to a child and maybe traumait. I hope you had good adoptive parents. We've thought about adopting because so many kids that don't have a solid home and we have capacity. I know it's not an easy job though.

[Rizwan_khan]

Bro it's totally okh if you wanna date hai single mother or older women. The thing is if you are serious about her you will give her every love you have and support her in all circumstances. And if you do then believe me she will love you to eternal. Cuz they have been through in life a lot and they have to right to be loved. By the way i also like older women 🙂

[Screenwriter]

Most women don't want you attracted to them because of your tough childhood. They want to be valued for themselves not their big boobs.

Talk to a therapist about this stuff so you don't bring your neuroses to bear in a relationship. Give the ladies their due.

[globetrotter22]

Yeah I was asking why these older women would want to steadily date a younger guy. Not very common. A man can tolerate some natural immaturity (not too much) from a younger woman. But an older woman usually has much less patience for this.

Not saying he’s “immature” but he is at a different stage of life than she is.

[Anonymous]

It’s completely fine and normal but I think you still need to go talk to someone about your past bc there’s definitely some underlying issues and unresolved trauma going on

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

How do you know I have underlying issues

[Guy__]

You pretty much said it yourself, simply by stating that you had parent issues.

[missmels]

@captain-obvious you literally said you have family issues. And that you’re looking for a mother figure. That’s not looking for a compatible partner, you’re looking for a new mom. So you have issues and need to seek therapy

[OlderAndWiser]

A girl in her thirties is not an older woman to all of us! :) :) :)

[globetrotter22]

You are legally an adult and date a 18 year old all the way up to grandma if you wanted.

But it’s not common for women in their 30s to consistently date and fall in love with much younger men. They might get a short term thrill from it (it makes them feel younger and hot). But honestly I think it would be ultimately harder for a woman in her 30s to fall truly in love with man 10 years younger vs. an older man falling in love with a younger woman.

So I would not only get counseling on why you like older women but also ask why they like you. I bet you will never have a shortage of dates. But being in a long term relationship is going to be a very complicated dynamic.

[bamesjond0069]

Its not your past or anything. Men your age want sex and so you like an older women as they seem more sexual and experienced which causes you less anxiety. However as you age you will realize that you have no need for their experience anymore and then you will be like "damn fuck if i dont need that why do i even like older women?" And you will then want younger. This is just normal part of mens sexuality. Just dont knock up, marry or get too involved with an older woman. I promise you its a trap.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

It's just your age 30 is prime age of women's beauty which is at its peak the the shape the curves the fullness it's when they really turn into women with vulptous figure from kids to oldies are all attracted to them.

And after few years that changes then you will start liking younger girls.

Their is no issue with you chill

[OddBeMe]

Date who you want as long as its legal. We all have weird sex shit derived from past experiences. I got a thing for ankles. Not sure why.

Getting help is always ok. But usually its only needed if you feel your life is screwing up or damaging. Dating an older woman would probably be nothing but good. She’d be expeirnced, good conversationalist.

I bless this communion. Go in peace, my son.

[missmels]

Yeah that’s called having “mommy issues” - seek therapy to sort that out before seeking a partner to fulfill a motherly role. That’s not what a healthy romantic partner is for.

[Sixgunsound]

The alarm on her biological clock is ringing, I’d beware of a woman in her early 30’s who wants a man in his early 20’s. Wrap it before you tap it!!!

[Avicenna]

I thought women in their 30s were the best when I was a young adult and I still think that, so it sounds OK to me.

[CallmeTheKnight]

You can, but you need to at least get some help for issues you never got over from when you was a child. Last thing you wanna do is hurt or affect someone because of your past.

[roy_ricky09]

Are you saying you past define who you are? That's BS. God has given you the body brains... Use them. Don't pretend to be victim of your past. Take control of your life.

[Uptowngirl88]

Pretty much and just making himself to be a victim. Oh poor me mentality. When in reality there are men who either prefer younger, older, of women their own age.

[LimitedBenefits101]

Nah bro get checked or talk to somebody.

women are no longer attractive once they hit 30

You're 21 why tf u want these old ladies?

date your age

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

Bro some of these older ladies are hot as heck

[LimitedBenefits101]

ok you have mommy issues, time to get help

[Berethor]

It's not normal, most men prefer women who are younger than themselves.

[Anonymous]

Older women are wonders and marvels. Love them all you want and know there will be no lack in return.

[Anonymous]

What does liking older women have to do with your family? I don't know why you're combining the two. There's no correlation

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

Yes there is.

[Opinion Owner]

Some guys just find older women attractive. You're making yourself out to be a victim

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

I am a victim tho

[Opinion Owner]

You sound like a mentally unstable idiot fag. Grow tf up and get some balls

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

Bitch are you on your period

[Intothevoid666]

I had parent issues and I’m only really attracted to younger women so I don't know

[notwoke]

when your 50 you shall regret this choice. Break the habit

[WhiteBoyChill]

Its definitely a normal thing to feel but I’m not sure if its the best route to take necessarily

[Anonymous]

You sure you want older chicks? Maybe you just like big tits.

[Slim57]

I never had parent issues and always liked and dated older women

[urpapi69]

You mean as in relationship or as fuck buddy? I am attracted to milfs too but not for long term.

[VV3ZZY]

Hahah that's more than I expected

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

Bro you’re laughing at me

[VV3ZZY]

Haha no! I'm laughing "with" you.

[VV3ZZY]

I have some Mom issues too

[Massageman]

Looking for a comforting ANR, are you?

[Kichbazp_]

@captain-obvious do you have Mommy issue?

[JessieBellll]

You have underlying issues

[jimmy2]

Well go get her and be happy

[Anonymous]

Black boys like big mama style

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

Yo wtf