Is charm learned or is it something your born with?

[jennifer_bloom]

I don’t consider myself charming but I have the sweet childlike and innocent vibe which attracts people, especially woman as friends, I’m not someone people want to get into bed with but I’m somebody people like to give candy and ice cream to.

[MuddyMole]

Definitely learned. Young children, and especially boys, are basically autistic. Being charming requires a range of fairly advanced social and communication skills, which are only learned through group interaction.

[anton_dee]

Charm comes with confidence. So you gotta learn.

[HopefulGuy94]

Really do not know lol cuz I was like a girl when I was baby and my mom says u I was so cute and people think I am girl , below is a my phote in my earlies years in the life. Then I dunno what happened to me but I have really turned into an ugly duckling then :) There are also people who borns as charming and stays like that till she/he dies or the one who changes and becomes charming later on :)

[slatyb]

Like most things, it's a combination of both. I was once painfully insecure and consequently quite awkward socially. At some point I realized that if I wasn't talking to someone, and they weren't talking to me, it was likely because they were just as shy as me. The next realization was that many other people had something interesting to tell me. Simple as it sounds, "charm" mostly means actively listening to another person.

[Kaamraj]

It is both. Charm is a form of social calibration and like musical talent, or academia it's something that you can be born with meaning your neurons are just wired that way and it's something that it's learned via putting yourself out there in social situations. Those who are extremely charming are those who are born with such skill and continuously practice getting better at.

[On_cloud_wine]

I feel like there’s a certain etiquette of charming we aren’t born with.. something observed by others.. or they even have classes for so things, like eating and posture.. we watch are parents and peers and follow along.. “some of us” lol..

[On_cloud_wine]

Here’s a cookie for you 🍪 ❤️

[K-Girl2]

I wouldn't say it's something you're born with but one of those natural traits. I ask believe that it comes with looks as well. When I say that I mean that statistically speaking better looking people have more charm. When I say that it's natural I wouldn't say you were born with it but I guess you are but it's more like if you got it you do and if you don't you don't. If that makes sense.

[Hassan_8]

It’s totally learned
but some people are born with it

[MurkeyShadow]

I can be a scary Dude or I can Be nice and helpful and Charming. Really Depends on how one Treats me.
I don’t get angry I get even. When I was 16 my Dad Took away My Books 📕 I wasn’t angry I wanted To Show him that it isn’t okay To go around taking my stuff away.
So I Spun around and Kicked him in the back as hard as I could.
I almost Broke his back if I would of been a stronger than I was his back would of been broken.

[MurkeyShadow]

And I broke his Arm another time cause he Took my Laptop away.
And Thing about me is I don’t always Tell someone when I’m about to Break there bones 🦴 or Hurt them.

[Birdlegs]

Imma be honest it sounds like you have an anger issue if you thought it was okay to kick your dad in the back because he took away your books and break his arm because he took your laptop. That’s not getting even

[GatewayRealm]

It’s best To Teach your enemies and that’s exactly what he did.

[kai-hana]

I am the same as you. People tell me I don't look my age and they always give me 10 years less than what I actually am which is so frustrating.
Besides that they treat me as such, they don't respect as an adult and treat me like I'm a teenager which is so upsetting cuz I am not one.

[Selene_94]

I think it’s both. Part you learn it but gotta know how to do so.

[SynthKobra]

I think charm is a natural skill that can be honed, like any skill. Some people are born better at it than others but it’s a skill that can be improved.

[Anonymous]

It’s a personality behavior. Something you grew into or always were. Very difficult to learn.

[ACR130]

Charm is just another word for being good looking. If an atractive guy compliments you it's seen as cherming but if an ugly guy says and does the same thing he's ugly

[dragoblack]

It's a skill developed from a young age, but you have to be aware of it when you are young so you can learn creative ways to use it.

[VV3ZZY]

I still dont understand what charm means... is that like flirtatious?

[h3ll00]

Jennifer can you PM me? I might be able to have opinion about something I am going through

[h3ll00]

Thanks. You will have to text me first, I am at level one

[h3ll00]

I guess it is how you had social interaction growing up. Birth has effect too: our looks improve our charm

[Subarugirl]

It’s a learned social behavior

[Shy_Steve]

Of course it is learned, Just like Confidence.

[Waldoe]

it's learned or taught

[AFretiredTXn]

learned

[Rockstarrrrr]

Born with...

[one1wild00]

it's mostly learned.

[UpdateGloomyNights_]

İ think born with